Why Relationship Ready Men Would be Uncontrollably Attracted to Mother Theresa

She walked in to the crowded room. She scanned the room looking for a great guy to chat with.   She didn’t know what he would look like.  She did know that if she was able to connect with enough men on a deep soul level, she would eventually find the right relationship ready man for her.  She would find her soul husband.


The men she talked to were wildly attracted to her even though there were much more beautiful women in the room.  She didn’t have to play the game of being skinnier, younger or smarter than all the other women.  She didn’t have any competition from other women when it came to men.  She saw the game being played around her and lived her life on much higher level.


Men felt a connection to her and were uncontrollably drawn to her. They couldn’t really explain why they were so drawn to her, but there was a strong sense that they were connecting with someone very special.  They wanted to talk to her, wanted to be around her and they wanted to do connect with her more and more.
The woman were talking about is none other than Mother Teresa. That’s right we’re talking about THE Mother Theresa.  You know, the woman who was married to God.  Her life took a very unique path, but if she would’ve wanted to marry a mere mortal man, she would’ve been great at attracting the right guy for her.


What would be Mother Theresa’s secret to finding and attracting the right relationship ready guy for her?


Her secret would be that she gives to give when interacting with men or anyone for that matter. She is not looking to get anything out of talking to a man or potential mate.


Her intentions are to authentically connect with a man and give him a great experience in connecting with her.  What does she give you ask?


She gives her best self, she gives her optimism, her happiness, her passion for life.


She helps anyone she’s talking to escape from their disconnected lives and be able to have the excitement of genuinely connecting with her.


Too many of us are in take mode in our love lives.  We are looking to get something from the person we are dating.  We are looking to get validation, emotional support, reassurance, excitement, escape, sexual pleasure, an ego boost etc.


When we act out of instinct instead of our best selves we tend to be in take mode.


The key is finding a balance between giving to give to the man you’re dating and being able to receive what he is giving to you. 


The next time you’re connecting with a man, put yourself in a place where you are giving to him simply to give without expecting anything in return.  You are simply giving him the gift of connecting with you, of you listening, understanding and empathizing with him.

Why is Dating So Hard Today?


One of the most common questions we get asked by our clients and readers is why is dating so hard today.


The amount of single men and women is at an all time high so it should be easier to find love right?


Not so fast. We’ll explain why the opposite is actually true later.  Dating and relationships are very confusing today.


There are a number of reasons dating is so frustrating and confusing right now. Here are most important reasons:


1. People have unlimited partner options due to technology and globalization (online dating, social media, etc.).


You have more choices and options in terms of potential partners which is a good thing and a bad thing. Psychologists have coined the term “paradox of choice” to refer to the downsides of having many choices.


On the surface level having many potential partners seems like a good thing (and it is at times), but it also creates challenges for you mentally and emotionally when it comes to finding love.


You need to learn specific mental and emotional strategies to be able to quickly and easily make the best choices for you when it comes to love.


2. People have increasingly High Expectations for a Partner.


The concept of being happy in a relationship is relatively new (the past 50-100 years). Think about it, cavemen and cavewomen didn’t even think about their happiness.


They created a relationship in order to have babies and further our species.


Because the idea of expecting to be happy in a relationship is relatively new, we are often not good at it. We are like babies trying to take their first couple of steps. Many of us either have way to extreme of expectations or we don’t have any at all.


3. Rejection is easier with more partner options and with less face to face interactions.


Let’s face it, when you have unlimited partner options and you can just send someone a text, IM, or social media message that you are moving on, it’s a lot easier to dump someone.


4. Sex is easier to obtain.


Not much to say here because it’s pretty obvious. Today, you don’t need to be a in a relationship to enjoy sex or have babies. This makes finding lasting love much more complicated.


5. With such high standards and unlimited options people are looking to quickly eliminate potential partners not find their soul mate.


This is the biggest change in dating/relationships over the past 50 years. With today’s busy schedules and focus on hyper-productivity, people often aren’t looking for “the one”. They are looking to eliminate potential partners based on negative male/female stereotypes.


This has switch has been a game changer in relationships and it has made today’s dating world complicated and confusing.


Now that you understand why dating is so hard, you can take action and do something about it if you really want to find someone special.



There’s a Douche Bag Blocking My Path

This Douche Bag situation is critical to your love life.


We went out for a walk with our son Mason in the morning. He loves walking.


He also loves attention from the ladies young and old on our walks.


He is fascinated by the street performers on the promenade. Although “Pink Man” scares him silly.
As we were leaving, one of our neighbors was frantically pacing back and forth by our driveway. We stopped to see if she needed any help.


She was furious.


She couldn’t get out of our parking garage. She was late for work. It didn’t sound like her boss would be understanding.


Our parking garage is underground. There is only one way out. Some douche bag parked his car directly across our driveway.


There was no way around the car and everyone was stuck. Our car was stuck too. Luckily we hardly ever drive anywhere. We use the power of our legs to get most places.


Even crazier was that there were some available parking spots on our block. This D-bag could’ve parked in anyone of them.


He chose to park directly in front of a driveway blocking 11 cars from getting out.


Now we understand parking in an undesirable place for 1 minute or so as you run into somewhere or pick up a friend. Where we live in Santa Monica, parking is a precious resource. It’s gold currency. But this guy was nowhere in sight. He PARKED there to go to work or whatever.


We were able to happily go on our walk. Our neighbor wasn’t so lucky. She had to call Santa Monica Parking to get this guy towed. She was 2 hours late for work.


What do you do when someone is blocking your path?


It could be your path to feeling happy today.

Your path to career success.


Your path to having a great night on the town with your friends.


Your path to success.


Your path to finding lasting love.


No matter what you will have people accidentally AND purposely get in the way of your success.


Some people will unintentionally make it harder for you to succeed by trying to “help” you. They might poison your mind with negative thoughts. They’ll project their own insecurities and issues onto you. They’ll give you terrible advice.


You’ll go out with a great guy. They’ll say “be careful men aren’t what they seem at first” “they all have something to hide”.


Or some similar nonsense.


They think they are helping you. But they are blocking your path to success nonetheless. They are living out of fear and scarcity. No one succeeded long term making decisions that way.


Other people will purposely try to block your path to success like the douche bag before. They will park their metaphorical car right on your path to success.


You will encounter these people so be ready. It could be a family member, a friend, a coworker or a random d-bag.


They will at times enrage you. Sometimes you’ll want to fight back. You’ll imagine the sweet joy of punching they’re face in.


Other times you’ll want to give up. Take a different path. An easier path.




The best thing you can do is persistently and calmly travel your path to love, happiness and success no matter what gets in your way. No matter what idiots you encounter. It’s the best payback.


Most people don’t understand positive persistence. It will help you overcome any obstacles and setbacks.


It’s the only thing that literally guarantees success in any area of life.


Positive persistence means never giving up and always traveling your own personal path to success.


If you want help carving out your path to love go here:




Say Yes to Love,

Dr. Michael Arn & Dr. Ashley Arn


P.S. Ashley‘s toe is healing. She even danced with Michael on her birthday last weekend. Nothing like dancing with a boot on your foot. :)


Ashley’s Big Toe vs. A Marinara Sauce Jar



Michael heard a frightening scream and loud crying from the kitchen.


He was instantly hit with an intense fear. The kind of fear that stops your heart. Makes you hyper alert. The kind you only feel when you’re worried for your life.


Or for the life of someone you love.


Michael ran into the kitchen. Ashley was bent over crying. Our son Mason was sitting on the kitchen counter looking frightened.


Ashely was crying to hard she couldn’t utter more than a word.


Michael now in full protective father and husband mode grabbed Mason and helped Ashley sit down on the couch.


After MANY deep breaths everyone was calm. Although Ashley had a big toe the size of Nashville and color of the sunshine raisins.


Turns out Ashley was cooking our favorite pasta and marinara dinner.


Our son Mason was “helping” mama cook by sitting on the kitchen counter.


While cooking, Mason accidently knocked a huge glass jar of tomato sauce off the counter top and onto Ashley’s foot.


It brought a world of pain down on Ashley’s foot like she never experienced before.


Ashley was in pain. Mason felt bad for hurting mama.


This is the kind of situation we all experience.


You get hurt. Feel pain. Something goes wrong.


You look to see WHO you can blame.


There’s a problem though.


When you look around there really is no one to blame.


In our Marinara jar versus Ashley’s toe scenario there is no one to blame.


Mason isn’t to blame. It was an accident. He didn’t intentionally throw the jar at Ashley’s foot.


This brings up an important life factor. The ability to take responsibility for your choices without blaming yourself or others. But that’s a story for another day.


Ashley isn’t to blame either. There is nothing she did that directly led to her toe throbbing in pain.


She can’t blame the jar of marinara sauce. It was just sitting there innocently the whole time :)


So what does she do?


What do you do in your life?


When it comes to finding lasting love, you are going to get hurt along the way.


You’ll experience pain at times.


You’ll cry and feel like giving up.


You’ll look for someone to blame for your pain. For your broken heart.


You might blame your current lover. An ex lover. All men. All women.


Worst of all you might blame yourself. You might mentally beat yourself up for days, weeks, months or even years.


But life isn’t that simple. Usually there is no one to blame.


You aren’t to blame. Your lover isn’t to blame. Your ex lovers aren’t to blame. Your parents aren’t to blame.


If you are dead set on blaming someone for your pain you could be stuck there forever. You’ll get jaded. You might even become a major complainypants.


Blame almost never helps any situation. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart.


The next time you get hurt. Feel pain. Don’t get what you want from your lover.


Drop the blame. Take responsibility for your choices. Have compassion for your lover, your ex’s and especially yourself.


If you want to master the dating world and find love once and for all, check out our Meet Your Mr. Right Course




Say Yes to Love,


Dr. Michael Arn & Dr. Ashley Arn


P.S. Ashley’s toe ended up being broken right under the toe nail(ouch). The doctor said it might be black and blue for months. She’s a trooper though. We made sure not to blame Mason. Now mama’s wearing a cool boot.


The Psychology of Love and Relationships: Why You Should Say Yes to Love

What is your relationship to creating lasting love in your life?

Do you have a yes attitude or a no attitude?

These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answers will make or break your dating/relationship success.

It could be the reason you’ve been doing everything you can think of to find lasting love but nothing has worked.

Your answers are related to the psychology of love and relationships.

Initially, most of our clients have a no attitude toward creating lasting love in their lives and they don’t even know it. They’ve been learning all the dating, relationship and communication strategies they could find and still haven’t been able to have the relationship they want and deserve.

You might be asking “what is a yes attitude?”

We are glad you asked. A yes/no relationship is your mental framework or attitude toward anything in life. You can have a yes or no attitude toward men, toward money, toward your career, and toward anything you want it life.


A no relationship is an attitude toward something in your life that you want but don’t really believe is possible for you.


It comes from a scarcity mindset. It is often a hidden no type attitude full of negative invisible beliefs about the thing you want. It leads you to concoct all sorts of excuses about why you haven’t found success in a certain area and to create all kinds of fake obstacles that are blocking your progress.

Here’s an example:

Debbie is a 42 year old woman. She wants to have a loving, passionate and fulfilling relationship with a man her age so they can “grow young together”.

Unfortunately, Debbie has a no attitude toward having the kind of relationship she wants with a man.

During our coaching, we discovered that deep down she doesn’t really believe it’s possible for her to have the kind of relationship she wants. She’s been hurt in past relationships and believes “all men” hurt women. She believes “all the men my age only want a young and hot 22 year old”.


Because Debbie has a no attitude with her love life she does the following things that sabotage her success with men:

• She is closed off to the men around her

• She doesn’t ever smile, make eye contact with or flirt with men her age

• She is overly suspicious about men who are interested in her

• She is quick to lash out at a man for normal differences between men and women

• She sabotages her relationships with men in very subtle and undetectable ways

Fortunately, we were able to quickly spot Debbie’s no attitude toward love and help her turn it around quite easily.  Once she had a Say Yes attitude and energy toward love she was able to easily use almost any dating/relationship strategies and make them work.

A No attitude toward love shuts down any possibilities and creates instant excuses and justifications about why you can’t find lasting love. It prevents you from being your best self and stops you in your tracks before you’ve even started.

Creating a loving, passionate and fulfilling relationship starts with saying yes and having a yes attitude.

It’s an abundance mindset. When you have a Say Yes Attitude you open yourself and your life to all sorts of possibilities. You search inside of yourself for what you really want in your life and you Say Yes I can have that.

You don’t come up with the path toward what you want. You don’t make a pro’s and con’s list. You don’t explore all the obstacles and steps toward creating lasting love.  That comes later.  First, you commit yourself to having the kind of love life you want by saying yes. You say yes to love, commit first and then figure out how.

Here are some mantras you can use to help you have a Say Yes Attitude:

I Say Yes to love

I Say Yes to connecting with and expressing my best self

I Say Yes to celebrating the differences between men and women

I Say Yes to taking charge of my life

I Say Yes to making conscious choices

I Say Yes to creating crucial habits for lasting love

I Say Yes to being open and present in the moment

I Say Yes to being worthy of having the kind of love I want and deserve


If you’d like to learn how you can develop a Say Yes attitude, we have a special offer for you for being a member of our community and it’s totally free. Follow the link below right now while it is still available.




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1. Create a crystal clear vision for your ideal partner and relationship.

2. Uncover any hidden challenges and obstacles that may be sabotaging your Relationship success.

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Now is the time to find love and make it last. You don’t have to do it alone.




Say Yes to Love,

Dr. Michael Arn & Dr. Ashley Arn