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He usually isn’t who you think he’s going to be

It’s a strange but great time of year isn’t it. Summer is coming to an end. Families are traveling everywhere before school starts. You’re trying to get anything fun in you can before the fall weather hits. Yesterday, in our Attract the Man You Want Workshop (we get together and talk every Tuesday) we talked about WHO to date. Who you get to know and go out on dates with is CRITICAL. We usually mentally REJECT a majority of men…

We all Perform Magic

We hope you had a FANTASTIC weekend. We had a blast at our son’s 6th birthday on Saturday. We hired a magician and 24 children were spellbound by his tricks (many of us adults were too). If you really think about it, what does a magician do? Mainly a magician directs your attention and focus in one particular direction. He gets you to focus over here while he’s doing the trick over there., completely out of your focus of attention.…

DO LESS – SUCCEED MORE

Years ago, when we did in person therapy with people, we learned something simple yet profound. You see, we had an office and our clients would come and talk to us in the traditional therapisty manner. They would sit on our couch and we’d talk about their issues. The prevailing wisdom was you NEEDED to take MASSIVE ACTION to get over any problems or succeed in an area. All the gurus were touting this massive action credo. They still do…

Live in the Present – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We’ve got a treat for you today, but before we get to that you want to know this….. In relationships, it’s almost never a straight line to getting it right. There is often a person BEFORE your person. What often seems like the right person for you is simply the person who is helping you grow so that you can meet your person. That’s right! We often believe someone is right for us and they’re not. We stress about a…

Dating isn’t easy, but it’s…….

Hello TEAM ARN, It’s MONDAY and we are getting after IT! We had a fantastic weekend. We went garage saling on Saturday and made out like bandits. We found a brand-new foosball table for $20. We bought a handmade mint condition floor standing wine rack that holds 30+ bottles for $30. AND… if you know anything about us, it’s that we LOVE wine (we do live in Sonoma, CA). How was your weekend? We know you are doing amazing things…

How to have Superpowers this Week!

It’s MONDAY. Do you feel like you have a million things you COULD DO? Does it feel like you have more things to do than time to do it? The brutal truth is most things we do DON’T MATTER. Most of our lives are spent talking about and doing things that don’t have a meaningful impact on our life or goals. THIS IS GOOD. It means we could drop the ball on most things we are currently doing and nothing…

Why You Don’t Get What You Deserve

We were just talking with a client about when you’re talking with your partner or even yourself about what you want or what kind of life you want to live, it’s important to take the first surface level answer and go MUCH BIGGER. We usually only allow ourselves to think about or talk about what we want in terms of what we feel we deserve. The problem is we often have a very low opinion of what we believe we…
It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

Helloo from the TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters, We had an event filled WEDDING WEEKEND. One of our amazing clients who lives in Canada got married. And guess what? They got married in wine country California. We couldn’t contain our excitement that this client found love with the right person AND was getting married near the famous TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters. But just a few years ago, this client’s life wasn’t anything close to the fairytale it…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

This is why you don’t feel excited for dates

We’re sitting down writing this to you from our kitchen. Our son Mason is in archaeology camp this week (it’s summer vacay after all) BUT he picked up a bug, so today he’s resting and sleeping it off at home. You know how much easier it is to cope with life’s challenges like having a sick kid when you have an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP. No drug, no wine (this is big for us to say this because we LOVE WINE), no…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…
We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…

How she reconnected with the right guy……

We had a great Father’s Day weekend.  Ashley and our son Mason went all out to make Michael feel special.  They cooked his favorite meals and Mason even bought him a framed photograph at a garage sale for 25 cents.  He was very proud of himself for getting such a good deal. If you want to see what Ashley had to say about Father’s Day you can go watch it here: http://datetosoulmate.com/fathers-day-arns/ We just received a message from a client…

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.”

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.” –Indira Gandhi This is so true in dating and relationships. If you’re communicating with your guard up, with walls, with resentment, with suspicion, with heart barriers – you won’t truly connect with someone. We need to open that fist…. Open our hearts…. Open our minds… Open up to the possibilities of what could be in a communication dance with someone. Connecting with another person is creative. It’s an art form. It’s Improv.…

Does big thinking beat small thinking?

For years we thought BIG. Big goals. Big motivation. Big beliefs. We were taking on the world and we trained our minds to think that way. Michael used to compete in golf tournaments. The best of the best were competing. He would visualize himself WINNING the big prize. He would imagine what it would be like to hold the trophy in his hands as the ultimate winner. He came up with mantras and created beliefs about how he could WIN…

should you give advice to people you care about?

Unsolicited advice is almost never the best way to really help someone you care about in our experience. It makes them mad and usually secretly want to punch you in the face. They don’t really care or listen to your unsolicited advice. It leads to a disconnection between the two of you. and often it has the opposite effect of what you intended because the rebellious part of them rears it’s ugly head and says “no I won’t do that…
I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

“I want a baby but I’m single!”  “I want a baby so bad.” The cold hard truth about being a mom. Is it for you? Ashley is writing…. Years ago, Michael and I were madly in love and having the time of our lives. We had been married for a few years and were having a blast. We traveled EVERYWHERE. We did whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We went out late with friends. We slept until noon, laying there…

What Men Want in a Woman Straight from the Horses Mouth

Today you will learn what men want in a woman.  We will break it down for you so that you have a good idea what men are looking for. What do men want? What are the best guys out there looking for in a woman? We get a version of this question from women all the time. And…… Today we are going to give you insider’s peek into what men want. BUT focusing on what men want is not your…
Are Relationships Hard? –  This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are Relationships Hard? – This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are relationships hard or should they be easy when you’ve found the right person? On today’s brand-new Date to Soul Mate Show we get personal and you get a behind the scenes look into what a real relationship is like. Ashley doesn’t hold back and confesses what she can’t stand most about Michael. Michael lets loose on what he really thinks about Ashley. If you have a weak stomach DON’T watch today’s Show. We know you’ve been hearing conflicting opinions…

💩 it Doesn’t Fit 😭

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley.. I’m jumping on here to talk with your privately….Michael doesn’t know I’m doing this. This totally happened to me recently and I thought you might relate. I’m in a wedding and I ordered this dress.  It shows up and try it on and….. S%@#!!!! It doesn’t fit. The dress was ordered 4 months and $300 ago. I am supposed to be in a wedding in 6 weeks and EVERYTHING about this dress doesn’t fit. It’s one…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…
Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

We get asked all the time “where are all the good men?”  Why can’t I meet and get into a relationship with a great guy? Every once in awhile you see a great guy online. When you message them, they don’t respond. You wait and hope that something will land in your inbox but the same cycle keeps happening. It’s not that you aren’t getting any action. Plenty of men are reaching out to you. It’s just not usually the…

An Exclusive Relationship in 6 weeks?

Can you get into an exclusive relationship within 6 weeks? Learn what it takes to stop dating unavailable or undesirable men starting right now. She decided to reluctantly talk with us. She didn’t want to, but the frustration of meeting one more guy who was totally beneath her was unbearable. She booked a call to talk with us because despite her extreme skepticism, she was at a complete loss for what to do next. She knew she couldn’t do it…
Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Do you  believe men or a man you’re dating has commitment issues?  Is MAN-ogamy even something that is possible or desirable? Can a man really commit to monogamy in this day and age? A big challenge with online dating today is that people are no longer just dating ONE person when they meet. There is no denying that this is the way that dating is today, regardless of whether you are meeting people online or offline. So, should you just…
How to Get Over Your Ex

How to Get Over Your Ex

Learn how to get over your ex so that you can move ON & UP from him.  Now you can stop thinking about your ex once and for all. Do you think about your ex a lot? When you were with this person, likely things weren’t always great. After all, the relationship ended, right? Usually, there is a BIG reason why it did end and the best thing for you can do is get over your ex. The funny (not…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…