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4 Reasons why men ghost

Our client, Natalie (pseudonym) is a great catch. She is smart, attractive, driven, and successful at most things in life. When she wants something, she sets a goal, creates a plan, and makes it happen. She has great friends and family. People she can count on, laugh with, and cry with. Overall, her life is very, very full and she feels fulfilled much of the time. The one thing hasn’t seemed to work out for her is her love life.…

It’s not you, it’s me. I need to stop dating losers.

Jennifer started talking to this guy on match.com.  She didn’t get her hopes up anymore in the beginning because most of the other guys she met up with hadn’t lived up to their hype. This guy was witty and seemed handsome in his photos.  They had some good text banter.  She thought “at least he knows how to structure a real sentence in proper English”. After some more text flirting he asked her out on a date. They met at…

Why Tom Brady could meet the man of his Dreams

Tom Brady might have just lost the Superbowl, but if he was single and looking to meet the man (or woman) of his dreams he’d able to do it and we will tell you why. Today on our live call with our clients we laid out a specific system for how to meet the kind of man they’re looking for offline. Yes. You heard that right. We showed these lovely ladies exactly how to find this type of guy without…

Online Dating Doesn’t Work

During Summer 2017, two AMAZING women reached out to us. They were both equally frustrated, disheartened, and even feeling a bit hopeless about when or if they would ever find the love of their life. They both told us the same thing, “Online dating doesn’t work.” Both of these women are professionals who are very successful in many other areas of their lives. When we really dug deep, we found out they had both been going through the on again,…

Should I just cut him off?

Holly in our facebook group – Modern Romance for Professional Women (www.modernromance.com) asked the following question….. Question: “What do you do when you are emailing back and forth with a guy on an online dating site and it feels like you have to pull teeth to get them to talk? The one-liner person? Sometimes, I think well is it just because we are on the site, but after about 15 e-mails I am pretty tired of thinking about something to…

50 Shades of Dating

Dating really has 50 shades. Dating can be sexy and alluring…drawing you in with the promise to deliver you the DREAM you have for your love life. Sometimes it’s dark and twisty. You don’t understand it. It’s overwhelming. It messes with your head. Sometimes you crave it. You need a human connection. You are afraid to be without it. Sometimes it pushes you past your comfort zone. It makes you feel things you have never felt before. It drives you…

We don’t claim to help everyone.

We’ve been at this for over a decade. In that time, we have tried to help our clients in A LOT of different ways. We worked with clients face-to-face in our office in the traditional therapy model. We met for an hour a week….and every week it felt like we were starting over again. Progress was SLOW. We created ebooks. We had monthly memberships where people could ask us questions. We had products that highlighted one part of our system…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…
Online Dating Shocker

Online Dating Shocker

It seems like every day there is some hot new trend or fad. Have you ever BELIEVED without a shadow of a doubt that one of these “hot” trends was BAD for people? We have. We thought Atkins diet was for sure going to clog people’s arteries and lead to a whole host of problems. Now they say fat is good for you and it’s the primary focus of popular diets like keto. Who knew?! At the time, we thought…

The Old Fashioned Way

Our client, Leslie (pseudonym) wanted to meet someone the old fashioned way. When she first called us, she was 46 years old and had pretty much been single her entire life. She chose to reach out to us for help because she recently had a medical condition that required surgery. She found herself alone, unable to take care of her basic needs, and having to call upon family to help her post surgery. As her family members rallied around her,…

“How can I be what he wants?”

A single, beautiful, successful woman asked us “How can I be what he wants?” and here was our answer… You could easily follow the random tips and strategies out there to turn yourself into what the media says that a man wants.….. Lose weight Try more night cream Become a siren (what does that mean?) Change your hair Change your face Don’t talk about what you want when you meet a man Buy a push up bra Don’t call a…

“I rejected the WRONG guy!”

“I rejected the WRONG guy!” Yesterday we were on a live call with our awesome, kick a$$, women’s group. One of our clients was excited to share a win. Every week, sharing wins is an important part of this call. Think about it for a second…. What place do you have in your life where you can brag and give yourself props for the actions you are taking in any area of your life? For most of us, we don’t…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…
“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!” He came running in the house yelling “She loves me!”. He whipped open his backpack and eagerly pulled out this picture of him and his beautiful lady. She had also drawn him this card filled with hearts. Our son, who is 5 years old, was on top of the world. The little girl in his class that he has had a crush on for five months, had come around. Originally, when he asked her to marry him,…
What are Your Flat Tires…

What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball. On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise. THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP! This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…
Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

If you are a successful modern woman with a great career YET you keep dating UNAVAILABLE or UNDESIRABLE men then THIS IS FOR YOU. Do you love your life in many ways BUT are tired of the professional modern woman’s dating life: -commit to finding love once and for all. -ask friends and family if know any great single guys only to hear crickets. -Sign up for an online dating site or app. -Spend hours online searching through profiles of…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…
Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

The best dating advice we can give you is to have a plan. Most people don’t have a plan when it comes to their love life. We act weird in our love lives. We don’t plan anything. We don’t want to plan how to meet the right person. We don’t believe we need a plan. People have probably told you for years that “It’ll happen when it’s right.” But in what other area of our life do we use this…
How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

What are your options?  Do you know how to find love when you’re single and you aren’t meeting the kind of attractive, compatible, relationship ready man you want? We get asked all the time…    How do I find Love? You have several options available to you to try and find your soulmate.  We are going to lay them out for you so that you can choose the option that is best for you. Maybe you’ve thought about …. **hiring a…

Today I’m thinking about Shiny objects!

You know what I really want? A vacation. Cocktails on the beach and beautiful sunsets. You know what I need? Mentorship so I can be the best leader and change agent for my clients. Don’t get me wrong, that vacation or buying a bunch of hot Christmas stuff on sale would feel great….especially in the moment. But, I’m going to choose to set myself up for success for the whole year, not to just have fun in the moment. I’m…

Today I am on a high due to the success of a great client.

When we first spoke, she was living in a big city, but feeling alone. She has been super successful in her career and at a very young age. She kept watching all of her friends couple up and move on to the next chapter without her. She didn’t much or really have relationships. She knew she wanted to, but she didn’t know HOW. She rarely met men she felt a spark with and when she did, she felt like it…
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…
How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…
Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

To date or not to date during the holidays that is the question. We emphatically say DO IT if you really want to meet someone. This is a great time of year to date for a number of reasons, which we talk about in todays Date to Soul Mate Show. Don’t let your brain come up with all sorts of noble obstacles (excuses) why now isn’t a good time. Don’t rationalize why you aren’t ready yet or that you need…

when he finds you sooner than expected

Commitment is the prerequisite for success in any area of your life. If you are committed, no matter what challenge you face you will pop back up like the bozo the clown bop bag (google it if we are dating ourselves 🤡 ). When you go all in, your mind commits to a successful outcome. Failure is NOT an option. Change is uncomfortable and exactly what is required to get the result you want. We love messages like this! It’s great when…
What Business Are You In?

What Business Are You In?

There are 3 types of businesses. ** Your business (your beliefs, behaviors, reactions, emotional state) **Someone else’s business (some one else’s beliefs, behaviors, reactions, emotional state) **Life’s or God’s business (events that are outside any person’s control) Most people spend a majority of their time in someone else’s or Life’s business. They spend all their time and energy trying to change something they can’t control. That’s a recipe for frustration, hopelessness and lots of effort with ZERO RESULTS. When you…