Find & Attract Elite Men

Make Valentine’s day about this…

Happy Valentine’s day from TEAM ARN. Our whole family, Ashley, Michael, our son Mason and our two dogs Bear and Bailey are grateful to be a part of your life, however big or however small. We appreciate so much that you’ve become part of our family and we don’t take that lightly. We know you could spend your time, energy and attention on anything else and we are grateful for having a human connection with you. We recommend you make…

You’re probably single because…

You never forwarded those chain messages in 2008. JK 🙂 If you’ve ever been single on Valentine’s day, it basically sucks. The fact that there is even a nickname of “Single Awareness Day” is stupid. At the same time, the pressure is real. Anyone and everyone has to ask about your plans. If you say you are having a “Galentine’s day” there might be jokes about hating men. If you stay home alone, someone might criticize that you should go…

What’s the best dating app/site to use?

Today we break down what you need to know about which dating app/site to chose. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, We are excited it’s Monday morning. Our son Mason got the flu and has been sick for over a week. He finally feels better and IS GOING BACK TO SCHOOL TODAY. We love being around him, but to be honest, we are excited he’s going back to school today and that things are getting back to normal…

Did he come on strong and then disappear?

You RARELY meet a guy that you are really interested in. Most of the time, you are on again, off again with dating, When you are in the “on” phase, you put in good effort and go through the motions. Men are interested in you. It’s pretty easy to get a first date. The guys that you meet are great on paper. You feel like you “should” like them. They are nice and seem stable. They seem to do all…

This is #1 cause of men NOT pursuing you

Hey it’s Ashley & Michael, We are sitting here in our kitchen thinking about you and what it’s like to be out there in today’s dating world. Believe it or not we have most of our meetings in our kitchen here at TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters. Nothing better than solving problems with a warm cup of coffee and maybe even a delicious snack. We love to cook together so we spend a lot of time in the kitchen…

James is looking for…….

James is a Vice President at an Ecommerce Company. He went to college and has worked his way up the corporate ladder. He’s never been married and doesn’t have any kids. He’s ambitious so he’s prioritized his education and work up until now. He is social, has a great group of friends and enjoys a number of activities. Recently a lot of his friends have been getting married and having kids. It’s still seems like a big step for him,…

Finding Your Man is Easier Than You Think

Implement this one strategy to dramatically change WHO’S pursuing you. Hi it’s Ashley and Michael, If you’re a busy woman with little time to waste, you’re in for a treat today. We get it. We’re strapped for time too. We work our butts off to help all of you amazing women have the relationships you want. It takes time and energy to create the kind of best friend’s and lover’s marriage we have with each other (this kind of relationship…
Why your feelings don’t matter

Why your feelings don’t matter

How often do you FEEL like giving up looking for the right guy? Yes, you want to be in a great relationship but is the process to get there really worth it? The process is EXHAUSTING. It’s time INTENSIVE. It drains your energy It often beats you down mentally, emotionally and physically. There is another area of life that often FEELS similar… It’s your health and weight. We are in the midst of eating healthy and working out to hit…

Step by step plan to stay single

Today you’re going to learn HOW to stay single. Knowing how to achieve the opposite of your goal is just as important as knowing how to get what you want. Many times what you choose NOT to do is more important than what you choose to do. This weekend we chose to put away our phones and focus on spending real quality time together as a family. Our son Mason had our full presence. Our two dogs Bear and Bailey…

Get Upset or Get Comfortable

Sometimes you want to be comfortable with where you’re at and other times you want to get upset with where you’re at. Whether you’re comfortable with something or upset about it, it’s totally subjective and within your control to change how you’re representing it to yourself. If you want to accept what is and be happier, it’s best to create comfort with where you’re at. If you want something to CHANGE, it’s best to get UPSET with where you’re at…

Meeting the Perfect Guy Wouldn’t Help by Itself

Hi it’s Ashley with a quick message that you DON’T want to hear. The MASSES believe that if they would somehow meet or get introduced to the exact right person they would go on to have the relationship they want. This is the appeal of a matchmaker.  If they can deliver you the exact right person you’re good to go right? Not so fast. The REALITY is most people wouldn’t be able to make it work with the exact right…
Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Most people avoid stress and avoid pressure. They avoid putting themselves in situations where they are completely out of their element. They say “I’m not ready for that.” This is the surest way to avoid results or success in any area of your life. If you want to get the fastest results possible, put yourself in the deep-end on purpose. Put yourself in situations you’re NOT ready for yet. Put yourself in situations where you are completely out of your…

If you’re doing this online, you’re wasting your time

You’re busy. You have a great career. You have friends and family to spend time with. You have a lot of interests and awesome things to do. Everything in your life is stable and fulfilling… EXCEPT your love life. You’d like a partner to share all the things you have worked so hard to build. Here’s the problem. Even though you want that, it feels like nothing you are doing is working. Meeting men Offline is cumbersome and time consuming.…

HOW TO AVOID DATING LOSERS OR “NICE GUYS” ONLINE

Our son Mason is home sick from school today.   Our dogs are loving up on him right now on the couch.   It’s great to have dogs that snuggle you when you aren’t feeling good.   Sitting around got us to thinking……..   In our work with thousands of elite women, we’ve found that it can feel IMPOSSIBLE to FIND the the kind of man you want to be in a relationship with online.   You’re using these online…

Do great single men exist anymore?

Do great single men exist anymore? Are there any good men left or are they all already taken? Let’s dive into this and give you Immense value along the way. We talk to the best women in the world every day. You are Smart. Educated. Attractive. Fun. The list of your strengths goes on and on. That’s one of your biggest problems in finding a match. Your strengths eliminate 95% of men as a match for you. Most men, heck…

Is He Putting You Last?

If you put a man BEFORE you, you’ve taught him to put you LAST. Never Again! As an adult, you teach those around you how to treat you. If people aren’t stepping up and treating you the way you want you have several options: 1. Communicate what you want SPECIFICALLY 2. Communicate WHY you want this 3. Notice and appreciate when they’re getting closer to treating you the way you want 4. Communicate a boundary (ex “I won’t date a…

Dating narcissists, players and fixer uppers?

Many are making the mistake of putting SELECTION before ATTRACTION. To be effective in dating, Attraction comes BEFORE Selection. You must be a magnet to the kind of man you want (you’ll also attract a lot of men you don’t want in this phase which is okay). Once your ATTRACTION has men pursuing you it’s time for harsh SELECTION. Both are important but the order in which you do them is critical. If you are pushing men away, have your…

Stop Catfishing Immediately

If someone is happy to catfish you, be happy to leave the date in the first 5 minutes. If they look nothing like their photos or are way off in some other way stand up and say “you didn’t represent yourself accurately online so I’m leaving. I wish you the best of luck” Or if that’s TOO BOLD for you fake an emergency and get out. But we recommend you uplevel your boldness when it comes to dating. Rooting for…

Get Uncomfortable

Being comfortable is not the way to have the relationship you want. Comfort is one of the BIGGEST and most powerful forces that hold people back from an extraordinary relationship. It’s ALWAYS going to be through being uncomfortable that you find the right person and create a great relationship. It’s uncomfortable to look in the mirror and take responsibility (not fault) for where you are current at in your love life. Nobody likes doing that. It’s uncomfortable to look at…

Dating is a Means to an End, so let’s End It.

2018 was a great year for us. We are so grateful for the opportunity to have helped hundreds of women this year to build a lasting relationship with a man who is on their level, pursued them, and was ready for a commitment. The women on Team Arn had a few things in common when we started on this journey. On some level, they felt like the kind of man they wanted or relationship wasn’t really possible. They were stuck…

What do I want in life? How to Get Clarity on Where You are Going.

What do I want …. In life.. In a relationship…. In my career In a man… There is nothing more powerful than getting real clarity on what you want. What Do I Want in Life To be honest most people reject themselves before life or anyone else gets a chance to reject them. They don’t even allow themselves to think about what they most want out of the FEAR that they’ll go for it and come up miserably short. Michael…
How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

Today we are talking about how to set goals because you are on TEAM ARN and that means you are a constantly growing person. How to Set Goals and GSD You don’t settle for average and you don’t stagnate. That means setting goals is a part of your life. If it isn’t, that is changing right now. In our year long mentorship program Rise Up we focus a lot on how to set goals and actually GSD. Most other people…

How to Trust Again to have the Relationship You Want

Today you’re going to learn how to trust again and WHY it’s important. Do people have to PROVE themselves to you before you show them who you are? Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, Both of us had trust issues for years. We didn’t let people in. We pushed people away before they could hurt us. We held back on saying what we felt and what was real. We created these hard outer shells to protect who we…

How to spend less time dating AND Meet your Man

If you are wasting a lot of time online dating, swiping, messaging and going on dates that don’t go anywhere today’s message is for you. When we talk with single women who want to find love, we notice a few patterns. 1. The first type of person hasn’t dated much, at least recently. It’s not that they’re meeting a lot of the wrong men, they aren’t meeting many men at all. 2. The second type of person has been dating…

This is the fastest way to meet him in 2019

FIND-ATTRACT-CONNECT-SELECT is the fastest way to meet him! There is no better way to find the right MAN for you right now. If you’re on TEAM ARN you are an action-taker. You’re not average. Don’t do what everyone else in the world does and sit back and wait. You can make this happen. Go watch our f.ree training on our unique 4 step process to stop dating unavailable and undesirable men immediately. Rooting for you, Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael…

I’ve tried everything in Dating!

If you feel like you’ve tried everything in dating today’s message is for you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael, This weekend we saw Santa with our son Mason. The pure joy on his face while talking with Santa was palpable. Last week Michael talked to a woman who was ADAMANT she had tried everything in dating. She wasn’t sure what we could do to help her since she had already tried “everything” to meet the right guy. She…

If a man is interested he will pursue you? Not so fast!

 Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael We hope you had a great holiday week. Our son Mason and our two dogs Bailey and Bearsly loved spending the whole week together playing, eating wildly good yet slightly bad for you foods and spending extended time with their grandparents. The other day we made a post on facebook that said this…. If a man is interested in you he’ll pursue you! Yes or No? A vast majority of women responded…
Courage over Fear

Courage over Fear

We tend to reflect on what we HAVEN’T done instead of embracing all of the AMAZING things we have done over the last year. Decide right now who you are going to be. Are you going to let the things that haven’t happened YET define you? OR Are you going to show more determination than ever to give the middle finger to everyone and everything that is getting in your way and get to your goal? You have willingly chosen…

If a Man is Interested in You he’ll Pursue You?

We just made a post on facebook…. If a man is interested in you he’ll pursue you! Yes or No? What do you think?  Is it true or not that a man will pursue you if he’s interested. We’ve stirred up a lot of discussion with this one. Go here to give your two cents. http://bit.ly/2P1AmbG

Busting Liars and Cheaters

This is how you find a man who is DESIRABLE and FAITHFUL. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael popping in…. The other day we caught our son in a BIG LIE. He was lying to us for days with the expertise of a CON MAN. He would sit calmly in his chair at the dinner table. Without any hint of deception… He would weave a lie so convincing it came as a complete shock when we found out NONE…