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Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…
Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

The best dating advice we can give you is to have a plan. Most people don’t have a plan when it comes to their love life. We act weird in our love lives. We don’t plan anything. We don’t want to plan how to meet the right person. We don’t believe we need a plan. People have probably told you for years that “It’ll happen when it’s right.” But in what other area of our life do we use this…
How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

What are your options?  Do you know how to find love when you’re single and you aren’t meeting the kind of attractive, compatible, relationship ready man you want? We get asked all the time…    How do I find Love? You have several options available to you to try and find your soulmate.  We are going to lay them out for you so that you can choose the option that is best for you. Maybe you’ve thought about …. **hiring a…
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…
Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

To date or not to date during the holidays that is the question. We emphatically say DO IT if you really want to meet someone. This is a great time of year to date for a number of reasons, which we talk about in todays Date to Soul Mate Show. Don’t let your brain come up with all sorts of noble obstacles (excuses) why now isn’t a good time. Don’t rationalize why you aren’t ready yet or that you need…
How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

Today you are going to learn how to attract men who are compatible with YOU. Do you feel like no matter what you do you aren’t attracting or dating men who are up to your standards? Compatibility is important to the success and fulfilment of a relationship. If you are consistently ending up dating people who are off from what you are looking for something needs to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re way off physically, intellectually, personality wise or…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Every day, we see successful, intelligent, amazing professional women go home ALONE at night.   During the day they mostly feel fine as they work through the hustle and bustle of their jobs.   But, the nights and weekends are the WORST.   They schedule themselves to the point of exhaustion to avoid thinking about how, when, or if they will ever have what they really want…a partner to share life with.   They wake up at 3 a.m FREAKING…
How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

Today we will teach you how to tell if a guy likes you without coming across as a total weirdo. Does it even matter if he likes you? If you want to know the signs he likes you today’s Date to Soul Mate Show is for you. We get asked all the time about How to tell if a guys likes you. There are many people telling you to read his body language, decode his words and scan him for…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

How one woman found love online with a guy she previously would’ve rejected.

We are so happy for one of our clients.  She took responsibility for her results in love.  She reached out to work with us. She committed to doing things differently.  She put in the hard work. She made some significant changes in a very short amount of time. She has fallen in love with an amazing guy who is perfect for HER. Here is the message she just sent to us….. BRAVO! We couldn’t be happier for you and you…

THE BIGGER FOOL THEORY IN ACTION according to a “Reader” of ours.

We recently received a message from someone on facebook. She had some strong opinions about what we do and the people we work with. We love hearing ALL opinions. This person’s message helps us clear up some faulty assumptions about who we help and what we do. Thanks for giving us this opportunity. 1. Yes, if you want different results in your life, YOU will need to do something different.  YOU will have to make a change if you want things…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

What Creates Chemistry Between Two People? Many women we talk to are frustrated that they don’t have chemistry with nice guys. They meet guys who seem great, but they simply aren’t attracted to them. How can you find a man you have chemistry with? Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction.   That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur.   Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control.   Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you.   The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge.   The parts of you…
The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

If you want to be one of the world’s foremost experts in unhappiness and loneliness we have a great strategy for you. Sure, there are many unhappy people out there, but with dedicated practice you can learn to surpass most other people’s unhappiness. First, identify the best practices out there in terms of how to find love and how to be happy. Discover what the happiest and most in love people have done to get there. Take each one of these…
What frame of Meaning are You Using?

What frame of Meaning are You Using?

Our 5-year-old son, Mason, asked me what it means when you hear sirens from firetrucks and the ambulance. I told him it means there are brave and courageous men and women going to help someone. The sirens are an affirmation that there are helpers out there at all times. That’s the frame of meaning I choose to believe and choose to convey to Mason. You could put a different frame of meaning on it. It could mean that someone is…
How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

Megan was 34. She had a graduate degree and a great career. She was attractive, fit and smart. She had a full life. Yet she kept dating the wrong men. Sure, men were pursuing her, but all these guys were way off from what she was looking for…. OR She was into a guy, only to have him leave her after things seemed to be going great. She was stuck in a repeating cycle of wrong guy after wrong guy.…
4 Online Dating Tips for Women

4 Online Dating Tips for Women

In the latest Date to Soul Mate Show we talk about 4 steps to successfully find the right person online. Online dating can be a complete time and energy wasting rabbit hole. We also have many clients who find love online after years of dating the wrong people. If you focus on these 4 steps you put yourself in a much better position to find the right person for you online. APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT…
Have Him Pursue You

Have Him Pursue You

Let’s get together sometime! Let’s meet up soon. We’ll figure it out. I’ll hit you up sometime. One of the worst things in dating is when a person is SOMETIMING you. When they’re SOONING you. Even worse is when they expect you to do ALL the work. Let me know when you’re free! Let me know when you want to get together again. If you want to be the person in charge of making all the plans and giving all…
Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Discover why men pull away after getting close.  Why do men disappear after things seemed to be going well?  We’ll answer these questions for you once and for all. It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on…
Why don’t MEN change?

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…
she was scared to get new photos

she was scared to get new photos

One of our clients just got new photos done for online dating. and it will make a huge difference in WHO she is attracting online. We are so excited for her, because we know the difference it WILL make. She had fears around getting new photos. Most of us do. We feel vulnerable and out of our comfort zone getting photos done. We make all kinds of excuses why we don’t get photos. “guys should like me just for me”…
Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

He’s soooo nice, BUT I’m not into him! He’s a great guy, BUT I don’t feel any chemistry! He wants to be with me, BUT I’m not attracted to him! Many of the clients we work with come to us initially having zero chemistry with the men their “SUPPOSED” to like and having a lot of chemistry with emotionally unavailable men. Their frustrated that they aren’t attracted to these NICE and GOOD guys. The questions is… Do you really need…
Music, wine and your packaging

Music, wine and your packaging

Last Friday and Saturday we went to a local concert here in Sonoma, CA called Huichica. The whole shindig is held at a cool winery called Gundlach Bunschu or Gunbun as the locals like to call it. So it was a weekend full of music, wine and great food. It was also a great place to do some people watching… As you know, we are psychologists so we love people watching. One of the most interesting parts of people watching…