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How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

Today we will teach you how to tell if a guy likes you without coming across as a total weirdo. Does it even matter if he likes you? If you want to know the signs he likes you today’s Date to Soul Mate Show is for you. We get asked all the time about How to tell if a guys likes you. There are many people telling you to read his body language, decode his words and scan him for…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

How one woman found love online with a guy she previously would’ve rejected.

We are so happy for one of our clients.  She took responsibility for her results in love.  She reached out to work with us. She committed to doing things differently.  She put in the hard work. She made some significant changes in a very short amount of time. She has fallen in love with an amazing guy who is perfect for HER. Here is the message she just sent to us….. BRAVO! We couldn’t be happier for you and you…

THE BIGGER FOOL THEORY IN ACTION according to a “Reader” of ours.

We recently received a message from someone on facebook. She had some strong opinions about what we do and the people we work with. We love hearing ALL opinions. This person’s message helps us clear up some faulty assumptions about who we help and what we do. Thanks for giving us this opportunity. 1. Yes, if you want different results in your life, YOU will need to do something different.  YOU will have to make a change if you want things…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

What Creates Chemistry Between Two People? Many women we talk to are frustrated that they don’t have chemistry with nice guys. They meet guys who seem great, but they simply aren’t attracted to them. How can you find a man you have chemistry with? Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction.   That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur.   Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control.   Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you.   The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge.   The parts of you…
The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

If you want to be one of the world’s foremost experts in unhappiness and loneliness we have a great strategy for you. Sure, there are many unhappy people out there, but with dedicated practice you can learn to surpass most other people’s unhappiness. First, identify the best practices out there in terms of how to find love and how to be happy. Discover what the happiest and most in love people have done to get there. Take each one of these…
What frame of Meaning are You Using?

What frame of Meaning are You Using?

Our 5-year-old son, Mason, asked me what it means when you hear sirens from firetrucks and the ambulance. I told him it means there are brave and courageous men and women going to help someone. The sirens are an affirmation that there are helpers out there at all times. That’s the frame of meaning I choose to believe and choose to convey to Mason. You could put a different frame of meaning on it. It could mean that someone is…
How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

Megan was 34. She had a graduate degree and a great career. She was attractive, fit and smart. She had a full life. Yet she kept dating the wrong men. Sure, men were pursuing her, but all these guys were way off from what she was looking for…. OR She was into a guy, only to have him leave her after things seemed to be going great. She was stuck in a repeating cycle of wrong guy after wrong guy.…
4 Online Dating Tips for Women

4 Online Dating Tips for Women

In the latest Date to Soul Mate Show we talk about 4 steps to successfully find the right person online. Online dating can be a complete time and energy wasting rabbit hole. We also have many clients who find love online after years of dating the wrong people. If you focus on these 4 steps you put yourself in a much better position to find the right person for you online. APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT…
Have Him Pursue You

Have Him Pursue You

Let’s get together sometime! Let’s meet up soon. We’ll figure it out. I’ll hit you up sometime. One of the worst things in dating is when a person is SOMETIMING you. When they’re SOONING you. Even worse is when they expect you to do ALL the work. Let me know when you’re free! Let me know when you want to get together again. If you want to be the person in charge of making all the plans and giving all…
Top 4 Reasons Why Men Disappear or Ghost

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Disappear or Ghost

It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on an app only to have him stop responding. Having a guy suddenly disappear or ghost with no explanation is one of the most confusing and upsetting parts of dating.…
Why don’t MEN change?

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…
she was scared to get new photos

she was scared to get new photos

One of our clients just got new photos done for online dating. and it will make a huge difference in WHO she is attracting online. We are so excited for her, because we know the difference it WILL make. She had fears around getting new photos. Most of us do. We feel vulnerable and out of our comfort zone getting photos done. We make all kinds of excuses why we don’t get photos. “guys should like me just for me”…
Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

He’s soooo nice, BUT I’m not into him! He’s a great guy, BUT I don’t feel any chemistry! He wants to be with me, BUT I’m not attracted to him! Many of the clients we work with come to us initially having zero chemistry with the men their “SUPPOSED” to like and having a lot of chemistry with emotionally unavailable men. Their frustrated that they aren’t attracted to these NICE and GOOD guys. The questions is… Do you really need…
Music, wine and your packaging

Music, wine and your packaging

Last Friday and Saturday we went to a local concert here in Sonoma, CA called Huichica. The whole shindig is held at a cool winery called Gundlach Bunschu or Gunbun as the locals like to call it. So it was a weekend full of music, wine and great food. It was also a great place to do some people watching… As you know, we are psychologists so we love people watching. One of the most interesting parts of people watching…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

There is a special kind of boiling frustration that engulfs you when a guy you met online continues to want to be message pals or text buddies. The dreaded never ending messages. He messages you over and over again. or He halfheartedly messages you every once in awhile. All without ever asking you out on a REAL DATE. The growing resentment inside of you explodes when he send you another “what’s up” message. The worst part of it is you…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

“I’m looking for a guy who is a cross between Shemar Moore and Jayson Taylor and I won’t settle for anything less”. When we worked as matchmakers at eHarmony, one of our clients told us the above statement. She wanted us to find her a guy who looked like a cross between these two VERY GOOD LOOKING men. Shemar Moore even dated Halle Berry at one point.  These guys are extremely attractive celebrities and professional athletes. Go to google to see…
Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Here is our Bumble Dating Review and our tips and secrets to use Bumble successfully. Have you used the dating app Bumble? Bumble is one of the hottest and most popular dating apps out there right now. Many women are jumping on the app.  In fact it is one of the most successful dating apps for our clients.  Many of our clients have met the man they want on bumble. It’s similar to Tinder in that both you and a…
Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Anytime you are doing something difficult or big you will come up against resistance. Resistance from yourself. Resistance from family and friends. Resistance from strangers who will criticize you. Resistance from all the different challenges life throws at you. And finding lasting love with the right person IS BIG. It’s one of the most impactful elements of your life. Yes, anyone can fall into a relationship with someone. But to find love and create an amazing long term bond is…
Attractive Complementary Qualities

Attractive Complementary Qualities

On Today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn talk about How you can be your most attractive self using Attractive Complementary Qualities. Attractive Complementary Qualities – The Date to Soul Mate Show APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT PERSONALIZED BLUEPRINT! FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If…
Men aren’t from Mars and you’re not from Venus

Men aren’t from Mars and you’re not from Venus

What a ridiculous concept.  That men and women are from different planets. That we are so different we need to come up with a way to understand each other’s completely different planetary languages. Well if it’s so ridiculous why has this idea become so popular? First of all, the popularity of an idea has nothing to do with its accuracy or validity. Think about Trickle Down Economics as an idea. Popular with a lot of people. Total BS. Second, it’s…
The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

  I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink He drinks a Lager drink,…
The compatibility yoda speaketh….

The compatibility yoda speaketh….

Would you know with CERTAINTY whether the person you’re with is the one for you long term or not? 99% of people in the world would have no clue. We definitely didn’t know years ago. We had no clue about REAL compatibility. Even though we were Psychologists and had done research into couples and thousands of hours of therapy and coaching with people. We had read hundreds of books on dating, love and relationships. Many research journals. Still we didn’t…