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Men aren’t from Mars and you’re not from Venus

Men aren’t from Mars and you’re not from Venus

What a ridiculous concept.  That men and women are from different planets. That we are so different we need to come up with a way to understand each other’s completely different planetary languages. Well if it’s so ridiculous why has this idea become so popular? First of all, the popularity of an idea has nothing to do with its accuracy or validity. Think about Trickle Down Economics as an idea. Popular with a lot of people. Total BS. Second, it’s…
The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

  I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink He drinks a Lager drink,…
The compatibility yoda speaketh….

The compatibility yoda speaketh….

Would you know with CERTAINTY whether the person you’re with is the one for you long term or not? 99% of people in the world would have no clue. We definitely didn’t know years ago. We had no clue about REAL compatibility. Even though we were Psychologists and had done research into couples and thousands of hours of therapy and coaching with people. We had read hundreds of books on dating, love and relationships. Many research journals. Still we didn’t…
Do men care about your career?

Do men care about your career?

“I can’t attract successful guys because I’m not in a good place in my career or financially.  I don’t own a house” Michael was on the phone with a potential new client for free Single to Soul Mates Session.   He asked her what was getting in the way of her finding love. She told him that she was attracted to successful and ambitious guys, but that she wasn’t attractive to them. She said that she was “renting” and that she…

She thinks we are wrong….Uuuh Ohhhh

Tanya disagrees with us that soul mates are created. Here is what she said “I’m sorry to say!  I disagree with your point of view on soulmates. you don’t create a soulmate. if that were true then we could pick anyone and make them into your soulmate.  your soulmate is the one who when you meet them you know I mean you really know its them. the love from your heart never goes away and neither does the pain when…
He has to have…..

He has to have…..

“He has to be tall, have dark eyes and dark hair.  It’s a must! It’s what I’m attracted to, I can’t help it and I’m not settling!” Hello fellow adventurers in love, A potential client of ours told us the words above.  She HAD to be with a guy who was tall, had dark eyes and dark hair. She said she wouldn’t compromise or settle on these qualities.  She wasn’t going to settle for less than an amazing relationship. She…
Soul Mates are Created

Soul Mates are Created

First you find the right person for you, then you fight like hell for the rest of your life to be soul mates. Last Sunday we realized something was off between us and had been for 2 weeks. We weren’t connecting. weren’t on the same page. We were bickering over little things. getting annoyed with each other over day to day things. We caught ourselves not prioritizing each other and not prioritizing our relationship. For several weeks we had both been…

4 Steps to End Bread Crumbing Now

We recently talked to you about The Bread Crumbing Dating Pattern and today we are going to teach you What to do when you’re stuck in this pattern. But before we get there, if you want a quick giggle, go check out this article and pictures of this couple who have been married 37 years and dress in matching outfits everyday http://datetosoulmate.com/stylish-couple-world/ Let’s refresh our memories about Bread Crumbing so we are all on the same page. Bread crumbing is when…

Is he leaving you bread crumbs?

Aahhhh today we are going to talk with you about one of the most insidious Forever Single Dating Patterns. The Bread Crumbing Dating Pattern…. This is when a guy gives you just enough attention, love, affection or communication to leave you wanting more. Just enough to get you to stay.. To keep dating him… To stay in the relationship… He is leaving bread crumbs for you to continue following the path with him. He never fully meets your needs. Not…
The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

It’s been a sick few days over here at the Dr. Arn household.  Mason and Michael are still feeling the sick wrath. Meanwhile, Ashley has been able to escape the sick monster so far. (Although she’s had to put up with two sick men which might be worse than ACTUALLY being sick)…… We read an interesting article yesterday…. It was about the rise of VEGAN Dating Sites.  Yes, Vegans are being matched on their own dating sites. Click here to…

The crazy chemistry dating pattern

How is your week going? We’ve been killing it despite Michael and Mason both being sickos this week.  We’ve been doing some amazing work with our students in our Live Workshop and in Single to Soul Mates University. The insights and transformations we’ve been seeing are inspirational. When you work with thousands of clients you observe certain patterns. Some are success patterns… Others are what we call forever single dating patterns… Many of the clients we work with come to…

don’t look for love online if……

aaahhhh… the age old question (at least since 1995). Should you look for love online or on an app? Many of you HATE the current incarnation of dating. You LOATHE online dating. You wish you could serendipitously spill your coffee on your Mr. Right at Starbucks and have him pursue a relationship with you. Many of you LOVE online dating. You think it’s the best thing since Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall.(oh such a good yet cheesy movie).…
Keep it Simple to Succeed

Keep it Simple to Succeed

We had a great President’s Day weekend here in Sonoma.  The weather was beautiful here Saturday, so we went to two wineries. We went as  a family (we brought our son Mason).  Many of the wineries here are family friendly and are fascinating to a 4 year old. One of the wineries, Jacuzzi, also has olive oil and vinegar tasting.  We ended up buying Chocolate Balsamic Vinegar.  Yum it’s so good. We wanted to have a relaxing yet pleasurable weekend.…
How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

When you are stuck in the forever single cycle, one of the biggest shifts you can make is to start COMMANDING ATTENTION FROM HIGH CALIBER MEN. Most women ARE NOT commanding attention from the right guys. You might find yourself either not commanding any attention from guys….. or Commanding attention from THE WRONG GUYS. Both feel bad right? If you want to meet the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want to…
A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

We know a secret that Batwoman used to meet, attract and fall in love with Batman. You see, for years she was single and dating THE WRONG GUYS. She read books, articles and talked to her friends for YEARS about what she could do differently to find the right guy for her once and for all. None of it worked. No matter what she did she ended up frustrated, hurt and SINGLE. This messed with her self-esteem.  She felt bad…

Valentine’s Day Sucks.

It is the most hated “holiday” for people who are single and for a great reason. If you are like most people who are single this time of year, you find yourself reflecting on what has happened and why you are single on this day. You are probably blaming yourself, telling yourself you have done something wrong and you might even be thinking that you aren’t worthy of having the kind of love you see all around you. Here’s the…