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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

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Broken promises….

Broken promises will be the death of your self esteem and your future relationship. You are part of this group because you are 100% certain that you need to figure out how to find love and you haven’t been able to do it on your own. You know that you want it and deserve it. So, why are you stuck in the broken promises cycle? You make a promise to yourself that finding love is going to me your number…
Where are you stuck?

Where are you stuck?

Many of the clients we work with in our live workshop are stuck in meeting the wrong guys. They are DOING all sorts of things to meet men. They are online dating. Meeting men offline. Speed dating. Hiking dating. Some of you are not meeting ANY MEN. You feel stuck in knowing where to meet men. The bad news is that this won’t change UNLESS you DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. The saddest part is to see an amazing woman like you…

What if a guy has a creep finger?

Happy Sunday, Today one of you beauts has found yourself in an “interesting” situation. Here is the question…. “should i ignore my feelings? I just met a man who seemed really nice, good looking and we were hitting it off. I was interested in meeting him again just for a lunch date, and we were shaking hands and saying our goodbyes…when he rubbed his finger against my palm. To me that is such a sleazebag thing to do and i…
Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Relationships REALLY SUCK sometimes. You put yourself out there.  You make the effort.  You persist. You meet guys offline.  You meet guys online. You go out on dates. You meet guys.  You flirt. You get your hair done. You dress up and look your best. You put yourself in a great emotional state.  You make interesting conversation. You really get to know these guys. The guys you’re attracted to aren’t relationship ready or don’t pay attention to you. The guys you…

Does Santa Clause have Commitment Issues?

Over the weekend we saw Santa Clause in our little hometown of Sonoma, CA. Our son Mason has been anticipating the big red’s arrival for weeks.   You could see the excitement written all over his face. Mason talked endlessly about what he was going to tell Santa he wanted for Christmas.  This was a big part of seeing Santa for him. Santa had to know he wanted transformers, power rangers and trucks. He also told us he was going…
Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…

What’s Your Winning System?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! Are you still recovering from the big ole election. Wow things are crazy right now right? No matter who you voted for, it feels like things are chaotic. It feels like a lot is out of your control. We are here to bring you some good news. It’s different than the gloom and doom in your news or tee-vee’s. There is a lot that is in your control. No you can’t control what President Trump does! You…

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make with The Right Guys

Every day we talk to women who are making some simple mistakes with the right guys. It sucks because these women are incredible! Smart, successful, kind, and good people! But, they are doing a couple of small things that are driving away the kind of men they would really like to share their lives with. After one or two dates, they aren’t hearing from the men that they wish would call again and give them another chance. We had the…
A little Thank You…..

A little Thank You…..

We are so happy that you are part of our community!  We wanted to connect with you and provide you with an EXTRA level of support. First of all, thank you for believing in a unicorn!  Many of you haven’t seen or experienced a love life full of passion, fulfillment, and joy. We know that it can be hard to hold on to hope that it exists. BUT, you are certainly doing it because you are here taking this journey…
Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

If you are reading this, we already know that you are an overachiever! Tricked you. Seriously though. Dating is tougher for people who are ambitious, driven, and tend to over achieve. You always earned good grades, you have never missed a deadline, and every time you “apply” yourself, you have gotten the result you wanted. Of course, that only applies to every other area of your life except your love life, only THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life. Most…
How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

Whitney is one of our students and she has absolutely nailed it! She is a dedicated single mom and found herself disheartened by the men she was meeting and the way they were treating her. We were so lucky to interview Whitney on what has worked for her because now she is in an amazing relationship with a man who is an incredible fit for her. She shared the specific tips that she learned from us to find love so…
Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

We have a special Date to Soul Mate Show Episode for you. We did a facebook live call in show. That’s right… We gave people advice right on the spot. We will continue to do this so make sure you’ve joined our free facebook group to watch the next show and even call in if you would like. https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineandlove/ If you want to have your last first date and jump on a free Single to Soul Mates call with us…
A Love Letter

A Love Letter

Your heart is good. You dream big. You try hard. You love selflessly. You care deeply. You do it all for everyone else. You think about their needs. You show up when they need you, no matter what your needs are at that moment. You come home alone. You want someone to lay next to at night. You want someone to console you after a rough day. Sometimes you cry. Does anyone even notice? Does anyone think about what you…
How to Prioritize Your Fitness – No time? No problem!

How to Prioritize Your Fitness – No time? No problem!

This is a guest post from Douglas Sciortino Staying fit is important to you. But so is everything else. Your ambition and devotion to your job takes more of your time than you’d like, maintaining social obligations becomes harder and harder, and you’re also in search of your soulmate. It’s no wonder that finding the time to get your sweat on can be difficult. However, there are ways to help you intertwine your fitness with your hectic lifestyle without you evening…
Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Today in our newest Date to Soul Mate Show we interview one of the foremost experts in the world on photos, especially online photos so buckle up and get ready. What are the best online photos to use on your dating profile? Should you get professional photos? How do you look your best in photos? We get to the bottom of these questions and many more. In the show we interview Claire Bahn, President of Online Profile Pros, formerly Dating…
Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Hey Date to Soul Mate Nation, We hope you are doing well.  We know it can be very frustrating out there in dating land. That’s why we are so passionate about helping ALL of you create real connections out there. That’s why we put out so much free content and advice.  We want to see you succeed. We were just recently interviewed on the Maggie Linton Show. We touched on several important topics including attracting the right person and where…
Love Compatibility – Are you settling for the wrong guy?

Love Compatibility – Are you settling for the wrong guy?

When we were in New York, we used Airbnb to rent an apartment for over a week.  Online the apartment looked great.  In the pictures it looked clean, modern and like it had quite a bit of room (for Manhattan). We were very excited about staying there for an extended period of time.  We booked the place about two months in advance.  We were fantasizing about our great place in New York for several months, building it up in our…
Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Why can’t I meet someone? Is this a thought you’ve had? Does it seem like meeting the right person is nearly impossible? Or when you do, it never works out? Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many, many women are in the same boat you are. They are driven and successful in so many areas of their life except one: Finding the one. Ravid Yosef is a cancer survivor and successful businesswoman.  She is putting together a FREE summit called the Love Success Summit to finally ask…
Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

The event is finally here. The Donald vs. Hillary. The first debate is tonight and some are predicting 100 million of us will be watching. That sounds crazy. Are you going to be watching?   In any debate what you say isn’t as important as how you present and express yourself.   In 2000, Al Gore supposedly had a good debate performance based on is the content of his words. He absolutely got killed though by W. in how he…
Is Your Phone Blocking Your Love Life?

Is Your Phone Blocking Your Love Life?

There are lots of singles out there. Are you open to them?   Be careful about being glued to your phone. Only players and extremely aggressive people will approach you if your buried in your phone. This was Starbucks this morning in Manhattan   This was also Starbucks this morning. May not be your cup of tea but a missed opportunity. He was def single. Say yes to love, Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael Arn
Are your Nerves Scaring Men Away?

Are your Nerves Scaring Men Away?

Please don’t be the one that gets the cold shoulder because you unintentionally have RBF on your dates. Or are you so nervous on dates that you aren’t able to express the real you.   We all react differently to being nervous on a date. Some of us talk too much. Some have RBF and hide their personality.   If you are too in your head, it WILL show on your face.   You may not even feel that nervous…
Make Your Skeletons Dance

Make Your Skeletons Dance

  We all have skeletons in our closet. No matter how much badassity swag you have, you still have some sort of perceived baggage. Do you feel like there is something about our past that potential matches judge you for?  Is there something about you or your past that YOU judge yourself for? The question is not IF you have baggage, but how do you manage your skeletons while dating? It is really tough to know how to talk about…
How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

Would you like to know how to show up on a first date looking your best? Feeling confident in how you look? Feeling confident in how you express yourself? Great! We thought so.  You are in luck, because we have a special guest on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show.  She has specialized superpowers in helping people look their best AND feel confident in themselves while dating. Dr. Ashley talks with Kimberly Seltzer who is a therapist and Dating Makeover…
Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Yo Yo Yo, Happy end of the week. We are excited for the weekend. We are going to a microbrew fest in Catalina Island on Saturday. This means sipping the lagers in our sandals on the beach. We are talking about two important topics on today’s shizzle. Our lovely Wine and Love with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael members have been curious lately….. First, we are answering one of your questions about paying for dates. Specifically, how long should a…
How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

Learn how to give a massage to your partner.  Yasuko Kawamura stops by The Date to Soul Mate Show to teach how to to give a good massage to someone. Yasuko is a Board Certified Licensed Massage Therapist and Reiki practitioner based in Orange County, California. Yasuko has a passion in teaching Couples Massage Class’ in which couples learn how to massage each other using easy massage techniques that do not hurt their fingers. By showing them how to effectively…
Do Men Only Want da Younger Women?

Do Men Only Want da Younger Women?

Welcome back to the work week.  The grind is real this week no?   We hope you had a great Labor Day weekend. We received a lot of questions from you all.  One of the consistent themes you ask us about is “do men only want younger women?” “why do men seem to only look for younger women?” “who do these men think they are looking for someone 10-15 years younger, while they’re not the best catch themselves?” Yes it’s true…
How to Find Your SoulMate at ANY Weight – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 14

How to Find Your SoulMate at ANY Weight – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 14

Hello fellow love Argonauts and Wine Lovers, It’s labor day weekend and we are excited to squeeze the juice out of the last few days of summer. hey ya there beautiful peeps We are hitting you with a value packed show today answering the questions you’ve been asking us the past week.  As always we love you (most of you) and are excited for you to listen in. Here are some of the questions we answer on today’s show: 1)…
Is Working from Home Ruining Your Love Life?

Is Working from Home Ruining Your Love Life?

Is working from home ruining your love life? It definitely could be….. Does this sound like you? Roll out of bed.  Throw on yoga pants.  Instantly make and drink GIANT cup of java. Dream about going back to sleep…..WAIT just kidding. Turn on your laptop. Get cracking. No hair brushing. Usually, no teeth brushing. No makeup. Honestly, this is our daily routine and it feels pretty awesome. No muss, no fuss. We can just wake up and grind. Unfortunately, working from home makes finding…