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Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is something that impacts many high level people. Many of us who are doing big things in life and have big goals we’re achieving struggle with being a perfectionist. Here is the definition of perfectionism: 1a: the doctrine that the perfection of moral character constitutes a person’s highest good 1b: the theological doctrine that a state of freedom from sin is attainable on earth 2: a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable Why does it matter…

Emotion and Relaxation Techniques

Learn how to deeply relax or create more energy when you need to. There are many relaxation techniques and strategies to create more energy in your life. Today we will talk about how to change your physiology to both relax and have more energy.

How to spend less time dating AND Meet your Man

If you are wasting a lot of time online dating, swiping, messaging and going on dates that don’t go anywhere today’s message is for you. When we talk with single women who want to find love, we notice a few patterns. 1. The first type of person hasn’t dated much, at least recently. It’s not that they’re meeting a lot of the wrong men, they aren’t meeting many men at all. 2. The second type of person has been dating…

I’ve tried everything in Dating!

If you feel like you’ve tried everything in dating today’s message is for you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael, This weekend we saw Santa with our son Mason. The pure joy on his face while talking with Santa was palpable. Last week Michael talked to a woman who was ADAMANT she had tried everything in dating. She wasn’t sure what we could do to help her since she had already tried “everything” to meet the right guy. She…
Courage over Fear

Courage over Fear

We tend to reflect on what we HAVEN’T done instead of embracing all of the AMAZING things we have done over the last year. Decide right now who you are going to be. Are you going to let the things that haven’t happened YET define you? OR Are you going to show more determination than ever to give the middle finger to everyone and everything that is getting in your way and get to your goal? You have willingly chosen…
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

There is a great Gandhi quote… “You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Michael talks about how you can live this quote in your dating life.
Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation is all about taking care of your inner child. Take just 5 minutes to create an unbeatable mindset, to be emotionally fit and to exercise your mind and body today. Audio Version – Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation        
How to Text a Guy Between Dates

How to Text a Guy Between Dates

Know exactly what to text him before in in between dates to spark attraction. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael from TEAM ARN with a short but powerful message, One of our clients in our Meet the Man You Want Bootcamp asked about how she could text a man between dates. She connected with a guy who was working on the road for a few weeks and she wanted to know how to message him before they could get…
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn. We have a strong set of beliefs about the right way to stop dating UNAVAILABLE & UNDESIRABLE MEN and Find Lasting Love.   We call these the 10 Commandments to Meet the Man You Want and Create a Great Relationship for Successful Women   In this video we go over the first of these beliefs.   Here’s the First Commandment:   Find the Right Person to Love AND Learn to Love the…
Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle?

Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle?

Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle? It seems like the things that used to work in dating don’t work anymore for the modern professional woman. THE BOTTOM LINE? Even though there are more single men now than ever, and even though it’s easier to meet people due to the EXPLOSION of online dating……more amazing women are single than ever before. We’re Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn and we help professional women stop dating unavailable and undesirable men using…
Focus, Perseverance and Action Taking – Today’s Mindset Elixir

Focus, Perseverance and Action Taking – Today’s Mindset Elixir

Today we are hitting you with a powerful mindset elixir to help you conquer your week. It isn’t enough to use the best strategies to meet the right person or do anything big successfully. You also must CREATE & CONDITION an unbeatable mindset to have long term success. Here is today’s Mindset Elixir
It Feels Impossible Till it’s Done

It Feels Impossible Till it’s Done

On TEAM ARN we dedicate time and energy to creating an unbeatable mindset. We know that you can have the best strategies in the world (that’s what we teach you ladies) but if you don’t have your mindset right you won’t get what you want. It’s crucial to have both the most effective strategy AND an unbeatable mindset to get high level results in the least amount of time. Today we have a mindset elixir for you. Something to help…

Live in the Present – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We’ve got a treat for you today, but before we get to that you want to know this….. In relationships, it’s almost never a straight line to getting it right. There is often a person BEFORE your person. What often seems like the right person for you is simply the person who is helping you grow so that you can meet your person. That’s right! We often believe someone is right for us and they’re not. We stress about a…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…
We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…
Are Relationships Hard? –  This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are Relationships Hard? – This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are relationships hard or should they be easy when you’ve found the right person? On today’s brand-new Date to Soul Mate Show we get personal and you get a behind the scenes look into what a real relationship is like. Ashley doesn’t hold back and confesses what she can’t stand most about Michael. Michael lets loose on what he really thinks about Ashley. If you have a weak stomach DON’T watch today’s Show. We know you’ve been hearing conflicting opinions…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…
Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

We get asked all the time “where are all the good men?”  Why can’t I meet and get into a relationship with a great guy? Every once in awhile you see a great guy online. When you message them, they don’t respond. You wait and hope that something will land in your inbox but the same cycle keeps happening. It’s not that you aren’t getting any action. Plenty of men are reaching out to you. It’s just not usually the…
Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Do you  believe men or a man you’re dating has commitment issues?  Is MAN-ogamy even something that is possible or desirable? Can a man really commit to monogamy in this day and age? A big challenge with online dating today is that people are no longer just dating ONE person when they meet. There is no denying that this is the way that dating is today, regardless of whether you are meeting people online or offline. So, should you just…
How to Get Over Your Ex

How to Get Over Your Ex

Learn how to get over your ex so that you can move ON & UP from him.  Now you can stop thinking about your ex once and for all. Do you think about your ex a lot? When you were with this person, likely things weren’t always great. After all, the relationship ended, right? Usually, there is a BIG reason why it did end and the best thing for you can do is get over your ex. The funny (not…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…
Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

What are the critical deal breakers for dating?  What are the signs that he is not right for you and that you need to move on right now?  Deal Breakers for Dating Have you ever felt stuck in the middle with someone? You notice a few things about them that aren’t your favorite. You wonder if maybe these things about them might change. They seem to have some good qualities, but there are others that are just missing. Being…
Men and Women Differences – Who wins in a fight: Men vs. Women

Men and Women Differences – Who wins in a fight: Men vs. Women

Men and women differences – Do these differences matter and what can you do to overcome them and have a great relationship. Ouch yes we went there.  You’ve probably heard Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. What a BS concept. Ashley is from Laguna Niguel, CA and Michael is from New Glarus, WI (home of the best beer ever made) We aren’t from different planets. Men and women are more ALIKE than they are different. All of…
Finding Mr. Right – How to meet Him in Person

Finding Mr. Right – How to meet Him in Person

Today we talk to you about finding Mr. Right.  We are going to teach you how to meet a great guy in person. Wow we had a St. Paddy’s packed weekend. Ashley’s mom and dad came into town and cooked an Irish feast. We ate 3 different types of homemade corned beef. Ashley’s dad made Irish soda bread which tasted like heaven with a little butter and salt on top. Our son made cupcakes. Saturday night we had a blast…
What Men Want in a Woman – How to Bring Him Closer

What Men Want in a Woman – How to Bring Him Closer

Today let’s rap about what men want in a woman.  It’s not what you think. Do you want to know one of the craziest secrets to bringing a man closer to you? To having him so intrigued that he wants to get inside your heart? To him obsessing over being with you long term? Don’t you fret, we are about to reveal to you what men want in a woman straight with no chaser… If you don’t already know, Ashley…