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Dating Background Check – Should you do background checks before you go on a date?

Dating Background Check – Should you do background checks before you go on a date?

Is a dating background check necessary or not?  Today we will talk you about if you should be doing background checks or not in dating. The internet is responsible for many of our dating challenges today. We can blame online dating for the paradox of choice and for letting us hide behind the computer screen instead of interacting face to face. We complain about how complicated dating is today because the getting to know you process is no longer organic…
Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad dating advice is everywhere. It comes in all forms. From… ….society ….celebrities ….family members ….coworkers and today we are going to talk about bad dating advice from your FRIENDS. It’s one of the worst kinds. You don’t want to find yourself copying women in your life that AREN’T successful in love. When a single friend says “You have got to try this.” Don’t listen! Unless she has proof that this is a technique that will actually lead to the…
How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

If you want to learn how to talk to a guy online or someone you’re interested than keep reading. Do you ever feel like all you’re doing is having fake “conversations” with people on: online dating sites/apps social media text chat email We are doing more “communicating” now than ever before, yet are we really saying anything? We are connected to each other 24/7 and yet disconnected from each other on a level never before seen. Digital communication has made…
How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers?

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers?

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers? Are you looking for how to change your life? Today we will talk about what needs to happen to make a significant change in your life. Can we work miracles in your life? If not, are we scamming you? We got a message from a “fan” yesterday musing about what we do and we’ll talk about that in a minute. Before we do, we want you to know that we love…
First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

Today we give you our best first date advice and tips.  Here is what to do if you want to stop having dysfunctional first dates. First dates can really suck.  People tell us all the time they HATE first dates. They are almost always…. Boring Awkward Predictable Stuffy Fake and unnatural And worst of all…….. A complete waste of time. And guess what? When you do have a great first date, the guy totally flakes and you never see him…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him!  I don’t know.  Maybe!  Ya I think I’d like to do that.  I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar?  Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…
How to Find My Soulmate

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online?  Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive.  He is an ambitious professional.  He is family…
Online Dating Shocker

Online Dating Shocker

It seems like every day there is some hot new trend or fad. Have you ever BELIEVED without a shadow of a doubt that one of these “hot” trends was BAD for people? We have. We thought Atkins diet was for sure going to clog people’s arteries and lead to a whole host of problems. Now they say fat is good for you and it’s the primary focus of popular diets like keto. Who knew?! At the time, we thought…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…
Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

The best dating advice we can give you is to have a plan. Most people don’t have a plan when it comes to their love life. We act weird in our love lives. We don’t plan anything. We don’t want to plan how to meet the right person. We don’t believe we need a plan. People have probably told you for years that “It’ll happen when it’s right.” But in what other area of our life do we use this…
How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

What are your options?  Do you know how to find love when you’re single and you aren’t meeting the kind of attractive, compatible, relationship ready man you want? We get asked all the time…    How do I find Love? You have several options available to you to try and find your soulmate.  We are going to lay them out for you so that you can choose the option that is best for you. Maybe you’ve thought about …. **hiring a…
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…
How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…
Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

To date or not to date during the holidays that is the question. We emphatically say DO IT if you really want to meet someone. This is a great time of year to date for a number of reasons, which we talk about in todays Date to Soul Mate Show. Don’t let your brain come up with all sorts of noble obstacles (excuses) why now isn’t a good time. Don’t rationalize why you aren’t ready yet or that you need…
How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

Today you are going to learn how to attract men who are compatible with YOU. Do you feel like no matter what you do you aren’t attracting or dating men who are up to your standards? Compatibility is important to the success and fulfilment of a relationship. If you are consistently ending up dating people who are off from what you are looking for something needs to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re way off physically, intellectually, personality wise or…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting over each day and each moment is key in life.  Get a fresh start today by using the clear the calculator technique.  You don’t have to wait till tomorrow to start again or star over in life.  Now is the time. Usually when we think of starting over we think of it as some big Jerry Maguire moment where we completely separate ourselves from our old life and take drastic action. Starting over can happen each day.  It can…
How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

Today we will teach you how to tell if a guy likes you without coming across as a total weirdo. Does it even matter if he likes you? If you want to know the signs he likes you today’s Date to Soul Mate Show is for you. We get asked all the time about How to tell if a guys likes you. There are many people telling you to read his body language, decode his words and scan him for…

The Problem with Striving for Non-Stop Joy and Ease

We’ve been seeing A LOT of social media posts, videos and articles from “gooroos” lately talking about how you NEED to experience never ending JOY and EASE in your life. The message is that if it doesn’t feel easy.. If you aren’t JOYFUL all the time while living then you are not doing it right. There is something wrong in your approach. If you aren’t experiencing complete joy and ease with your partner there is something wrong. And that message…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Many of us have experienced being cheated on. The experience often leaves you with unanswered questions. Why do men cheat? Do all men cheat? In this episode we talk with a woman from Michigan about how she is dealing with her recent divorce after discovering her ex-husband was repeatedly cheating. She even recently had a date after meeting a guy on the dance floor. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives.…
Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

What Creates Chemistry Between Two People? Many women we talk to are frustrated that they don’t have chemistry with nice guys. They meet guys who seem great, but they simply aren’t attracted to them. How can you find a man you have chemistry with? Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…
How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

Megan was 34. She had a graduate degree and a great career. She was attractive, fit and smart. She had a full life. Yet she kept dating the wrong men. Sure, men were pursuing her, but all these guys were way off from what she was looking for…. OR She was into a guy, only to have him leave her after things seemed to be going great. She was stuck in a repeating cycle of wrong guy after wrong guy.…