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Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

He’s soooo nice, BUT I’m not into him! He’s a great guy, BUT I don’t feel any chemistry! He wants to be with me, BUT I’m not attracted to him! Many of the clients we work with come to us initially having zero chemistry with the men their “SUPPOSED” to like and having a lot of chemistry with emotionally unavailable men. Their frustrated that they aren’t attracted to these NICE and GOOD guys. The questions is… Do you really need…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You just don’t know which green light signal it will be! That’s right. One green light signal or one conversation with the RIGHT PERSON at the RIGHT TIME will change the course of your life. The problem is we don’t connect with each other anymore. We are more unapproachable than ever. We are stuck in our phones, stuck in our mental to do list, and running from one activity to another. We also have our walls up because we’ve been hurt…
Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

There is a special kind of boiling frustration that engulfs you when a guy you met online continues to want to be message pals or text buddies. The dreaded never ending messages. He messages you over and over again. or He halfheartedly messages you every once in awhile. All without ever asking you out on a REAL DATE. The growing resentment inside of you explodes when he send you another “what’s up” message. The worst part of it is you…
What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

We LOVE San Francisco. We love going there for weekend romantic getaways. In fact, our FAVORITE Italian restaurant in the whole world is there, Franchino’s. It’s the kind of restaurant where it feels like your mother is doing the cooking, only its a version of your mother that is an even better cook. (sshhhh don’t tell our mothers we said that) It’s run by an Italian family. The father is the host and runs the front end of the restaurant…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

“I’m looking for a guy who is a cross between Shemar Moore and Jayson Taylor and I won’t settle for anything less”. When we worked as matchmakers at eHarmony, one of our clients told us the above statement. She wanted us to find her a guy who looked like a cross between these two VERY GOOD LOOKING men. Shemar Moore even dated Halle Berry at one point.  These guys are extremely attractive celebrities and professional athletes. Go to google to see…
When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

Our internal voices are either our jailers or they lead you to living an authentic and fulfilling life. We all hear voices. Don’t let any psychiatrist tell you differently. Your internal voices are simply your conscious and unconscious thoughts. You have roughly 60 THOUSAND thoughts per day. Some of them are helpful. Many of them are harmful to your happiness and goals. How do you know when to TRUST your inner voice and when to ignore it? Us humans are…
What Makes a Man WANT to Commit to You

What Makes a Man WANT to Commit to You

What makes a man want to commit to the right woman? The number one thing we hear from women every single day is that they only meet men who are NOT looking for the one thing they want—a committed relationship. These men usually want to date “casually”, when things are convenient for them, no strings attached. Here is the biggest problem, often times things with this kind of man are HOT. When you are with him, you feel chemistry, connection,…
Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Here is our Bumble Dating Review and our tips and secrets to use Bumble successfully. Have you used the dating app Bumble? Bumble is one of the hottest and most popular dating apps out there right now. Many women are jumping on the app.  In fact it is one of the most successful dating apps for our clients.  Many of our clients have met the man they want on bumble. It’s similar to Tinder in that both you and a…
Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Anytime you are doing something difficult or big you will come up against resistance. Resistance from yourself. Resistance from family and friends. Resistance from strangers who will criticize you. Resistance from all the different challenges life throws at you. And finding lasting love with the right person IS BIG. It’s one of the most impactful elements of your life. Yes, anyone can fall into a relationship with someone. But to find love and create an amazing long term bond is…
Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Can you imagine talking to who you think is an attractive CFO named Derek but is instead a slobbering pervert and sex addict who lives in his mama’s basement? You know what we’re talking about. The ultimate catfish. It’s dating the biggest liar of them all. We’ve all heard the catfish horror stories. There are many people who tell lies in their dating life. These lies range from the white variety to the I’m nothing like who I said I…
Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We have a new 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation for you today.  This episode is all about how you can make one small change today to be a catalyst for a whole different life in the future.  Be the spark as we call it.  It’s powerful and simple at the same time. Be the Spark – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn
Attractive Complementary Qualities

Attractive Complementary Qualities

On Today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn talk about How you can be your most attractive self using Attractive Complementary Qualities. Attractive Complementary Qualities – The Date to Soul Mate Show APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT PERSONALIZED BLUEPRINT! FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If…

Why, What and How – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

In today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation we focus on Why, What and How. These 3 questions and your answers to them will dramatically impact if you find love or not. They will impact if you achieve any of your goals. Determining your why, what and how are crucial factors. You also need to learn to put 90% of your focus on your why and what or you won’t get to where you want to go. Listen here: Life Has…
Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

You are better off making the wrong decision than you are analyzing the situation to death in your head. Why is this true? Because making decisions provides you with real world feedback.  It enables you to have positive momentum. It also allows you to make an even better future decision. Once you’ve made an imperfect choice, you can make an even better future decision after factoring in the real world feedback you’ll receive. Your choices and actions are ALWAYS imperfect. Don’t…
Life has seasons….

Life has seasons….

Life has seasons and they ALWAYS CHANGE. It doesn’t matter if you’re in summer, spring, fall or winter in your life right now this season is temporary. If things are going great they will change. If your love life sucks right now this will change. It’s inevitable. You can have certainty that this current version of now will change. You can have a great peace of mind when you accept that life has seasons. You know that if you’re going…
What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show, we talk about what people’s real intentions are in online dating. What are they looking for when they’re swiping right? Are you wasting your time even looking for love online? Why you need a strategy to combat WHAT people are looking for on dating apps and sites. How online sites are like Wine Tasting events! What? Yes we get into it all. Go watch the show here: What People are REALLY looking for in…
A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

It’s Monday.  We have a new Monday 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation. It’s the ultimate mind/body exercise for busy people who hate mindfulness and meditation. In today’s session we explore the nature of your thoughts and how you can create a completely different relationship to your thoughts.  This will help you be emotionally fit, more present and to truly connect with someone else. Here is this weeks 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation. A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5…
The State of Dating in 2017

The State of Dating in 2017

What are the current trends in dating right now? We always stay up to date on the latest research when it comes to dating, love and relationships. We filter out all the crap advice out there and bring you only what the worlds top experts are finding today. That is our job. We know your busy. You don’t have time to do a deep dive into the weeds to find out what is really working right now and what isn’t.…
Live your goals Now – 5 Minute Monday Mindfulness & Meditation

Live your goals Now – 5 Minute Monday Mindfulness & Meditation

It’s MOOOONNDDDAAAYYYY. This might be a great thing for you or quite the opposite. We love Mondays. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to start your week off right. That’s why we send you our 5 Minute Monday Mindfulness and Meditation. It’s the ulimate mind/body exercise for busy people who hate mindfulness and meditation. It is what will help you create an unbeatable mindset and make this a killer week. Here is this weeks 5…
How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

When you are stuck in the forever single cycle, one of the biggest shifts you can make is to start COMMANDING ATTENTION FROM HIGH CALIBER MEN. Most women ARE NOT commanding attention from the right guys. You might find yourself either not commanding any attention from guys….. or Commanding attention from THE WRONG GUYS. Both feel bad right? If you want to meet the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want to…
Guided Meditation – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation “Say Yes and Figure Out How”

Guided Meditation – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation “Say Yes and Figure Out How”

Today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness and Guided Meditation is all about Saying Yes. Most of us try to figure out how to do something before we commit to doing it. We want to KNOW the exact steps to go from where we are now to where we want to go BEFORE we commit to doing it. We don’t give ourselves permission to really commit to something until we have the certainty about HOW we’ll do it. You want to know HOW…
Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

How is your week going? How are your New Years resolutions going? For most people, they are starting to give up on their goals for 2017 already. They are almost ready to throw in the towel and “try again” next year. We don’t want that for you when it comes to finding lasting love. We want you to find love THIS YEAR. Yesterday we did a LIVE Date to Soul Mate Show in our free facebook group… Mastering Dating &…
The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Hello, It’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael.  We are feeling extra frisky, it must be the bipolar weather here in Sonoma. Or it could be…. Last night we went to a Kindergarten presentation for our son Mason. He’s going to start school in the fall and we found out about the 5 elementary schools in town. This is mucho exciting and terrifying for some reason. We decided to bang out some free training for you. We have a new Date to…
Are you dating other people?

Are you dating other people?

  Are you Dating other People? – The Date to Soul Mate Show Hey there, We are enjoying the beautiful weather here in Sonoma, CA.  We also have great wine here toooooooo..    Yay! We’ve been going for long walks and have a fitbit competition with some friends of ours. Helps to offset the wine calories too. Today we have a question from a student…. So let’s get right into shall we! “If a man asks you out and you…
Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

No more bad dates, Confusion, Worry or Heartache. You can Find, Attract and Deeply Connect with the Right Relationship Ready Man for You so he’ll Do Almost Anything to Commit to YOU. Stephanie is intelligent, kind and good person. She worked really hard to build a bustling career for herself. She has great friends and a fun social life. She is happy with who she is and her life. She is definitely not perfect, but no one is. She still…

Potential boyfriend or just friends?

Let’s rap on a question from one of you today… Question: So…I met this guy…Well he re-entered my life. I’ve know him ever since I can remember. But, he is re-entering my life as a potential boyfriend. I’m having a hard time knowing how to act towards him. I don’t wanna come across as pushy. Guys like a chase. How much is too much? I don’t wanna come across as uninterested. I have a ton of questions! Dr. Ashley &…
Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…