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3 BIG Mistakes in Dating

We are pumped to be here with you. Let’s make this week even better than the last. Last week we had our LIVE Meet Your Man OFFLINE Virtual Training. Congratulations to those early action takers who joined us. If there is ONE THING we reward on TEAM ARN, it’s taking action. Why? Because there is nothing more important to creating the love you want than taking consistent and courageous action each day. So, rest assured if you joined us for…

Why You Don’t Get What You Deserve

We were just talking with a client about when you’re talking with your partner or even yourself about what you want or what kind of life you want to live, it’s important to take the first surface level answer and go MUCH BIGGER. We usually only allow ourselves to think about or talk about what we want in terms of what we feel we deserve. The problem is we often have a very low opinion of what we believe we…

This is why you don’t feel excited for dates

We’re sitting down writing this to you from our kitchen. Our son Mason is in archaeology camp this week (it’s summer vacay after all) BUT he picked up a bug, so today he’s resting and sleeping it off at home. You know how much easier it is to cope with life’s challenges like having a sick kid when you have an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP. No drug, no wine (this is big for us to say this because we LOVE WINE), no…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…
We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.”

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.” –Indira Gandhi This is so true in dating and relationships. If you’re communicating with your guard up, with walls, with resentment, with suspicion, with heart barriers – you won’t truly connect with someone. We need to open that fist…. Open our hearts…. Open our minds… Open up to the possibilities of what could be in a communication dance with someone. Connecting with another person is creative. It’s an art form. It’s Improv.…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…

What Attracts Men the Most – What Most Women Will Never Get….

Discover what attracts men the most.  It’s not how you look or what you say to a man that matters most when it comes to attraction. Did you see Mark Zuckerberg of flakebook testifying before congress. It was pure pop culture theater. It was ironic that we watched the live stream of the hearing on facebook 😊 First, it was crazy to see 70 year olds questioning him about facebook when they obviously know nothing about how it works. They…

Is He The One? – Would you pass this dating test?

Is he the one for you?  What do you look for to know with certainty that he is right for you? Today we’ve got a simple yet IMPORTANT one question test for you. If you pass with flying colors, your chances of finding the right man for you skyrocket and you’ll never have to wonder ” is he the one for me” If you don’t pass (almost nobody does), you will not find the right guy for you no matter…

How to Text a Guy – One of the Worst texts to receive from a guy

Learn how to text a guy that you like.  Today we’ll talk about why it’s so important to be able to communicate through text, email, chat or in person. “hey you free to hang?” Have you ever gotten one of these texts from a guy you’re dating? He doesn’t plan something with you in advance. He just randomly texts you out of the blue to see if you’re “free to hang out”. What does that even mean? “HANG OUT” What…

Judging People – Use Other People’s Judgments to Your Favor

Should we stop judging people?  Can we stop others from judging us? We all judge people. When we’re out running errands, at work, socializing with friends, hanging with family, we judge people. People would be frightened if they KNEW our worst thoughts about others. We are 24/7 judgy judgersons. You can’t stop it. You also can’t stop others from judging you. The best thing to do is to use other people’s judgements of you to your advantage. You see, there…
How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

Today we talk about how to improve your life by building relationships that last with the right people. Who do you spend the most time with? Do you really know them? Do they add to the quality of your life? The 5 people you devote the majority of your relationship time and energy to will by and large determine the quality of your life!  That’s why building relationships that last with the right people is so important. Why are these people so…

Communicate with Confidence – It only takes one……?

Why is it so important to communicate with confidence? Today we’ll show you why communicating confidently and being proactive in connecting with others is so important. You are only one interaction away from getting anything you want in life, you just don’t know which interaction it will be. Ever since she turned 30 years old, people around her treated her love life different. Before they would tell her “I envy your freedom and independence”. Now friends, family members and even…
Men and Women Differences – Who wins in a fight: Men vs. Women

Men and Women Differences – Who wins in a fight: Men vs. Women

Men and women differences – Do these differences matter and what can you do to overcome them and have a great relationship. Ouch yes we went there.  You’ve probably heard Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. What a BS concept. Ashley is from Laguna Niguel, CA and Michael is from New Glarus, WI (home of the best beer ever made) We aren’t from different planets. Men and women are more ALIKE than they are different. All of…
What Men Want in a Woman – How to Bring Him Closer

What Men Want in a Woman – How to Bring Him Closer

Today let’s rap about what men want in a woman.  It’s not what you think. Do you want to know one of the craziest secrets to bringing a man closer to you? To having him so intrigued that he wants to get inside your heart? To him obsessing over being with you long term? Don’t you fret, we are about to reveal to you what men want in a woman straight with no chaser… If you don’t already know, Ashley…
How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

If you want to learn how to talk to a guy online or someone you’re interested than keep reading. Do you ever feel like all you’re doing is having fake “conversations” with people on: online dating sites/apps social media text chat email We are doing more “communicating” now than ever before, yet are we really saying anything? We are connected to each other 24/7 and yet disconnected from each other on a level never before seen. Digital communication has made…

First Date Conversation – A mind blowing, bed rattling reason to Satisfy your inner goddess

What is the best first date conversation to have? On a first date, if someone asked you to describe yourself in 5 words, what would they be? Usually, the most BORING, INSIGNIFICANT, and run of the mill words come to mind… …Nice …Kind …Loyal And BLAH BLAH BLAH. How can you expect to have chemistry with ANY guy when you describe yourself as a roommate? Most of the people that choose to come to work with us have ZERO idea…
How to Find My Soulmate

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online?  Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive.  He is an ambitious professional.  He is family…

Should I just cut him off?

Holly in our facebook group – Modern Romance for Professional Women (www.modernromance.com) asked the following question….. Question: “What do you do when you are emailing back and forth with a guy on an online dating site and it feels like you have to pull teeth to get them to talk? The one-liner person? Sometimes, I think well is it just because we are on the site, but after about 15 e-mails I am pretty tired of thinking about something to…
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…
How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…
How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

Today you are going to learn how to attract men who are compatible with YOU. Do you feel like no matter what you do you aren’t attracting or dating men who are up to your standards? Compatibility is important to the success and fulfilment of a relationship. If you are consistently ending up dating people who are off from what you are looking for something needs to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re way off physically, intellectually, personality wise or…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

I’ve been studying successful people from different time periods recently. Abraham Lincoln was a big giver in his orientation toward others. Many people initially thought this was a weakness of his. They underestimated him as a result, however he consistently showed up as a giver and was extremely successful over the long haul as a result. It reminds me of this quote by Chip Conley “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a…
How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

Today we will teach you how to tell if a guy likes you without coming across as a total weirdo. Does it even matter if he likes you? If you want to know the signs he likes you today’s Date to Soul Mate Show is for you. We get asked all the time about How to tell if a guys likes you. There are many people telling you to read his body language, decode his words and scan him for…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction.   That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur.   Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control.   Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you.   The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge.   The parts of you…