Unbeatable Mindset/Emotional Fitness

Is indecision keeping you single?

One of the biggest things that will prevent the kind of man you want from pursuing a committed relationship with you is indecision. We know this might sound crazy so stay with us and we will explain. We receive hundreds of applications every month from women who want our help to meet a really great guy that they’re excited about, is compatible with them, and is commitment ready. We actually offer our help personal help to less than 10% of…

Make Valentine’s day about this…

Happy Valentine’s day from TEAM ARN. Our whole family, Ashley, Michael, our son Mason and our two dogs Bear and Bailey are grateful to be a part of your life, however big or however small. We appreciate so much that you’ve become part of our family and we don’t take that lightly. We know you could spend your time, energy and attention on anything else and we are grateful for having a human connection with you. We recommend you make…

You’re probably single because…

You never forwarded those chain messages in 2008. JK 🙂 If you’ve ever been single on Valentine’s day, it basically sucks. The fact that there is even a nickname of “Single Awareness Day” is stupid. At the same time, the pressure is real. Anyone and everyone has to ask about your plans. If you say you are having a “Galentine’s day” there might be jokes about hating men. If you stay home alone, someone might criticize that you should go…

Take CONTROL of your day

Hey it’s Ashley flying solo today, Most of us spend our day reacting to others and to our environment. Taking a few minutes each morning to give yourself some TLC and put your day in YOUR control, not the control of others or the things that are happening around you, is going to have a drastic impact on your mood. Here’s the reality…making a decision to do this means NOT doing other things. For me, it means that I have…

James is looking for…….

James is a Vice President at an Ecommerce Company. He went to college and has worked his way up the corporate ladder. He’s never been married and doesn’t have any kids. He’s ambitious so he’s prioritized his education and work up until now. He is social, has a great group of friends and enjoys a number of activities. Recently a lot of his friends have been getting married and having kids. It’s still seems like a big step for him,…
Why your feelings don’t matter

Why your feelings don’t matter

How often do you FEEL like giving up looking for the right guy? Yes, you want to be in a great relationship but is the process to get there really worth it? The process is EXHAUSTING. It’s time INTENSIVE. It drains your energy It often beats you down mentally, emotionally and physically. There is another area of life that often FEELS similar… It’s your health and weight. We are in the midst of eating healthy and working out to hit…

Do great single men exist anymore?

Do great single men exist anymore? Are there any good men left or are they all already taken? Let’s dive into this and give you Immense value along the way. We talk to the best women in the world every day. You are Smart. Educated. Attractive. Fun. The list of your strengths goes on and on. That’s one of your biggest problems in finding a match. Your strengths eliminate 95% of men as a match for you. Most men, heck…

Is He Putting You Last?

If you put a man BEFORE you, you’ve taught him to put you LAST. Never Again! As an adult, you teach those around you how to treat you. If people aren’t stepping up and treating you the way you want you have several options: 1. Communicate what you want SPECIFICALLY 2. Communicate WHY you want this 3. Notice and appreciate when they’re getting closer to treating you the way you want 4. Communicate a boundary (ex “I won’t date a…

Stop Catfishing Immediately

If someone is happy to catfish you, be happy to leave the date in the first 5 minutes. If they look nothing like their photos or are way off in some other way stand up and say “you didn’t represent yourself accurately online so I’m leaving. I wish you the best of luck” Or if that’s TOO BOLD for you fake an emergency and get out. But we recommend you uplevel your boldness when it comes to dating. Rooting for…

Get Uncomfortable

Being comfortable is not the way to have the relationship you want. Comfort is one of the BIGGEST and most powerful forces that hold people back from an extraordinary relationship. It’s ALWAYS going to be through being uncomfortable that you find the right person and create a great relationship. It’s uncomfortable to look in the mirror and take responsibility (not fault) for where you are current at in your love life. Nobody likes doing that. It’s uncomfortable to look at…
How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

Today we are talking about how to set goals because you are on TEAM ARN and that means you are a constantly growing person. How to Set Goals and GSD You don’t settle for average and you don’t stagnate. That means setting goals is a part of your life. If it isn’t, that is changing right now. In our year long mentorship program Rise Up we focus a lot on how to set goals and actually GSD. Most other people…

How to Trust Again to have the Relationship You Want

Today you’re going to learn how to trust again and WHY it’s important. Do people have to PROVE themselves to you before you show them who you are? Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, Both of us had trust issues for years. We didn’t let people in. We pushed people away before they could hurt us. We held back on saying what we felt and what was real. We created these hard outer shells to protect who we…
Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is something that impacts many high level people. Many of us who are doing big things in life and have big goals we’re achieving struggle with being a perfectionist. Here is the definition of perfectionism: 1a: the doctrine that the perfection of moral character constitutes a person’s highest good 1b: the theological doctrine that a state of freedom from sin is attainable on earth 2: a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable Why does it matter…

Emotion and Relaxation Techniques

There are relaxation techniques that help you deeply relax, reduce stress and calm your nervous system. Other relaxation techniques help ADD energy to your life. To change your state and to feel more energetic. Today we will talk about how to change your physiology to both relax and have more energy. One of the most powerful skills you can learn is how to deeply relax or create more energy when you need to. There are many relaxation techniques and strategies…

I’ve tried everything in Dating!

If you feel like you’ve tried everything in dating today’s message is for you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael, This weekend we saw Santa with our son Mason. The pure joy on his face while talking with Santa was palpable. Last week Michael talked to a woman who was ADAMANT she had tried everything in dating. She wasn’t sure what we could do to help her since she had already tried “everything” to meet the right guy. She…
Courage over Fear

Courage over Fear

We tend to reflect on what we HAVEN’T done instead of embracing all of the AMAZING things we have done over the last year. Decide right now who you are going to be. Are you going to let the things that haven’t happened YET define you? OR Are you going to show more determination than ever to give the middle finger to everyone and everything that is getting in your way and get to your goal? You have willingly chosen…

Busting Liars and Cheaters

This is how you find a man who is DESIRABLE and FAITHFUL. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael popping in…. The other day we caught our son in a BIG LIE. He was lying to us for days with the expertise of a CON MAN. He would sit calmly in his chair at the dinner table. Without any hint of deception… He would weave a lie so convincing it came as a complete shock when we found out NONE…

Don’t read this if you’re easily offended

Happy Tuesday it’s Dr. Michael coming to you solo today, As you many of know, we got back at the end of last week from a live in person event with our VIP clients in Las Vegas. I’m so appreciative and grateful for all of you amazing women on TEAM ARN. You are kind, smart, courageous, committed and take action to live the life you want. I especially love being around those of you in our Meet the Man You…

Is NOTHING happening when it comes to men?

And how you can get moving in the right direction. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, He thought be might be stuck here FOREVER. Michael went to college in Florida even though he’s a die hard Wisconsinite for life. One day his friends took him out into the “sticks” of Florida. They had a great time fishing and camping.  The kind of fun you can only have when you’re FAR AWAY from civilized society. When it came time…
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

There is a great Gandhi quote… “You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Michael talks about how you can live this quote in your dating life.

Cast a Witches Spell on all Desirable Men

Learn how using a simple Halloween strategy can have a successful man wildly attracted to you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael coming your way before we scour our little wine country town for candy with our son Mason. Believe it or not he has TWO costumes.  We went to a local thrift store to try and find tennis rackets about a month ago and randomly found two AWESOME Halloween costumes for just $6 total. What a steal. So he’s going…
Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation is all about taking care of your inner child. Take just 5 minutes to create an unbeatable mindset, to be emotionally fit and to exercise your mind and body today. Audio Version – Taking Care of Your Inner Child – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation        
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn. We have a strong set of beliefs about the right way to stop dating UNAVAILABLE & UNDESIRABLE MEN and Find Lasting Love.   We call these the 10 Commandments to Meet the Man You Want and Create a Great Relationship for Successful Women   In this video we go over the first of these beliefs.   Here’s the First Commandment:   Find the Right Person to Love AND Learn to Love the…

[ Live an Ambitious Life AND be Happy? ]

We were just talking with an awesome client who’s doing big things in her life, but she’s having a frustrating day full of setbacks and things not going her way. We had a great conversation about how it’s possible to DO BIG THINGS and live an AMBITIOUS Life while being happy and content. Here are some of our insights: 1. Think in terms of choosing vs. things being forced upon you. Remind yourself that you are CHOOSING to live a…
Focus, Perseverance and Action Taking – Today’s Mindset Elixir

Focus, Perseverance and Action Taking – Today’s Mindset Elixir

Today we are hitting you with a powerful mindset elixir to help you conquer your week. It isn’t enough to use the best strategies to meet the right person or do anything big successfully. You also must CREATE & CONDITION an unbeatable mindset to have long term success. Here is today’s Mindset Elixir

3 BIG Mistakes in Dating

We are pumped to be here with you. Let’s make this week even better than the last. Last week we had our LIVE Meet Your Man OFFLINE Virtual Training. Congratulations to those early action takers who joined us. If there is ONE THING we reward on TEAM ARN, it’s taking action. Why? Because there is nothing more important to creating the love you want than taking consistent and courageous action each day. So, rest assured if you joined us for…
It Feels Impossible Till it’s Done

It Feels Impossible Till it’s Done

On TEAM ARN we dedicate time and energy to creating an unbeatable mindset. We know that you can have the best strategies in the world (that’s what we teach you ladies) but if you don’t have your mindset right you won’t get what you want. It’s crucial to have both the most effective strategy AND an unbeatable mindset to get high level results in the least amount of time. Today we have a mindset elixir for you. Something to help…
Are you TOO PICKY? (personal photo)

Are you TOO PICKY? (personal photo)

This woman was told she was too picky. Too much… Too this… Too that… Too everything…. None of it was true. She didn’t need to dim her light to meet the right person. In fact, quite the opposite. You will have people around you telling you to do or not do all sorts of things. Most of them mean well and want the best for you. Most of their advice is B.S. even though they mean well. You can do…