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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

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How to have Superpowers this Week!

It’s MONDAY. Do you feel like you have a million things you COULD DO? Does it feel like you have more things to do than time to do it? The brutal truth is most things we do DON’T MATTER. Most of our lives are spent talking about and doing things that don’t have a meaningful impact on our life or goals. THIS IS GOOD. It means we could drop the ball on most things we are currently doing and nothing…
It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

Helloo from the TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters, We had an event filled WEDDING WEEKEND. One of our amazing clients who lives in Canada got married. And guess what? They got married in wine country California. We couldn’t contain our excitement that this client found love with the right person AND was getting married near the famous TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters. But just a few years ago, this client’s life wasn’t anything close to the fairytale it…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…

#1 Secret to Solving Relationship Problems

Today we are going to reveal the #1 secret to solving your relationship problems. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…

How she reconnected with the right guy……

We had a great Father’s Day weekend.  Ashley and our son Mason went all out to make Michael feel special.  They cooked his favorite meals and Mason even bought him a framed photograph at a garage sale for 25 cents.  He was very proud of himself for getting such a good deal. If you want to see what Ashley had to say about Father’s Day you can go watch it here: http://datetosoulmate.com/fathers-day-arns/ We just received a message from a client…

Does big thinking beat small thinking?

For years we thought BIG. Big goals. Big motivation. Big beliefs. We were taking on the world and we trained our minds to think that way. Michael used to compete in golf tournaments. The best of the best were competing. He would visualize himself WINNING the big prize. He would imagine what it would be like to hold the trophy in his hands as the ultimate winner. He came up with mantras and created beliefs about how he could WIN…
I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

“I want a baby but I’m single!”  “I want a baby so bad.” The cold hard truth about being a mom. Is it for you? Ashley is writing…. Years ago, Michael and I were madly in love and having the time of our lives. We had been married for a few years and were having a blast. We traveled EVERYWHERE. We did whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We went out late with friends. We slept until noon, laying there…
Are Relationships Hard? –  This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are Relationships Hard? – This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are relationships hard or should they be easy when you’ve found the right person? On today’s brand-new Date to Soul Mate Show we get personal and you get a behind the scenes look into what a real relationship is like. Ashley doesn’t hold back and confesses what she can’t stand most about Michael. Michael lets loose on what he really thinks about Ashley. If you have a weak stomach DON’T watch today’s Show. We know you’ve been hearing conflicting opinions…

💩 it Doesn’t Fit 😭

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley.. I’m jumping on here to talk with your privately….Michael doesn’t know I’m doing this. This totally happened to me recently and I thought you might relate. I’m in a wedding and I ordered this dress.  It shows up and try it on and….. S%@#!!!! It doesn’t fit. The dress was ordered 4 months and $300 ago. I am supposed to be in a wedding in 6 weeks and EVERYTHING about this dress doesn’t fit. It’s one…
How to Get Over Your Ex

How to Get Over Your Ex

Learn how to get over your ex so that you can move ON & UP from him.  Now you can stop thinking about your ex once and for all. Do you think about your ex a lot? When you were with this person, likely things weren’t always great. After all, the relationship ended, right? Usually, there is a BIG reason why it did end and the best thing for you can do is get over your ex. The funny (not…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…

Judging People – Use Other People’s Judgments to Your Favor

Should we stop judging people?  Can we stop others from judging us? We all judge people. When we’re out running errands, at work, socializing with friends, hanging with family, we judge people. People would be frightened if they KNEW our worst thoughts about others. We are 24/7 judgy judgersons. You can’t stop it. You also can’t stop others from judging you. The best thing to do is to use other people’s judgements of you to your advantage. You see, there…
How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

Today we talk about how to improve your life by building relationships that last with the right people. Who do you spend the most time with? Do you really know them? Do they add to the quality of your life? The 5 people you devote the majority of your relationship time and energy to will by and large determine the quality of your life!  That’s why building relationships that last with the right people is so important. Why are these people so…

How to Achieve Goals – Stop Shoulding on Yourself!

Do you want to know how to achieve goals? There is a counter intuitive step to take that is crucial to you achieving your goals. How many goals do you have that you think about and put on your proverbial “to do list”? Do ever actually get those things done? How often are you “shoulding” on yourself where you find yourself thinking “I really should do xxx”? You might even be doing this with your love life. You might be…

Dating a Bad Boy – Why you tend to go for the Scott Disick bad boy

Why are we dating a bad boy?  What about them draws us in? Scott Disick is a renowned bad boy. When you’re dating a bad boy, you will notice…. He’s funny. He’s intriguing. He’s fun. He’s charismatic. He’s sexy. When you are with him you feel like the world stops revolving, even just for a few hours. He’s the guy that always has a great reason for why he didn’t show up and is full of “I’m sorry”. On the…
Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand.  There is no separating them. You can’t be happy without gratitude. Today we are going to lay out the secrets of gratitude and happiness AND the non-secrets of stinkin thinkin. Let’s talk about one of our clients. In LESS THAN ONE YEAR, she met AND married a man that is incredible. Together, they have chemistry, compatibility, connection and commitment. These are the four essential elements of long-term relationship success. She got married in…
Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

It’s time for you to get unstuck and gain momentum in your life! We had a great weekend. We love to cook and host people and had quite a few friends over this weekend. We also got to spend time having fun with our little man, laughing and doing all sorts of crazy things. We woke up to this message from a client today who got unstuck… “I thought I’d let you know that I have connected with men much…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him!  I don’t know.  Maybe!  Ya I think I’d like to do that.  I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar?  Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…
How to Find My Soulmate

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online?  Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive.  He is an ambitious professional.  He is family…

Why you SHOULDN’T have a date on Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is one of those events that leads people to lose their freaking minds. If you are single, it can cause you to rip yourself to shreds. It’s the fakebook comparison game. Where you compare yourself to your “HAPPY” friends.  Your “IN LOVE” friends. All the people you see on fakebook proudly taking selfies of their once in a lifetime relationship. When you see that it’s easy to compare someone else’s fakebook highlight reel of their life to your…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…
What are Your Flat Tires…

What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball. On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise. THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP! This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…

She Used to Believe it COULDN’T Happen for Her… Then it Did!

We just got this message from a client who USED to believe this couldn’t happen for her. We are so excited for her and my ❤️ is full! This is what happens when you take committed action, take different actions then before and follow a step-by-step system.   FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If you are…