Unbeatable Mindset/Emotional Fitness

“WHO IS HELPING THE MEN GET THEIR ACTS TOGETHER?”

This is a question we received from a woman today. We answered: “There are many coaches and experts helping men. Many men are seeking this help. It’s a huge million dollar industry. We happen to specialize in working with women. Have a great day.” The sad part to us is that she is asking a question that dis-empowers her. It takes her away from her own success. It focuses her on something she can’t control. With our clients, one of…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction.   That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur.   Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control.   Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you.   The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge.   The parts of you…
The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

If you want to be one of the world’s foremost experts in unhappiness and loneliness we have a great strategy for you. Sure, there are many unhappy people out there, but with dedicated practice you can learn to surpass most other people’s unhappiness. First, identify the best practices out there in terms of how to find love and how to be happy. Discover what the happiest and most in love people have done to get there. Take each one of these…
What frame of Meaning are You Using?

What frame of Meaning are You Using?

Our 5-year-old son, Mason, asked me what it means when you hear sirens from firetrucks and the ambulance. I told him it means there are brave and courageous men and women going to help someone. The sirens are an affirmation that there are helpers out there at all times. That’s the frame of meaning I choose to believe and choose to convey to Mason. You could put a different frame of meaning on it. It could mean that someone is…

Approach Your Love Life as a Series of Sprints

We were talking with our workshop clients today about the importance of approaching dating & relationships as a SERIES OF SPRINTS.   You want to SPRINT (work hard, go on dates, interact with people on a dating site or app etc.) and take a break.   Sprint and take a break.   Sprint and take a break.   Go all out for a period of time. Invest a lot of your time and energy into finding the right person. Sprint…
“I’m not able to give you what I think you’re looking for”

“I’m not able to give you what I think you’re looking for”

Those were the words that changed our client’s life. We just got off the phone with a client who is in an exclusive relationship with an amazing guy. We are so proud of her. She told us that she decided to work with us after hearing those words. Her boyfriend told her those exact words. It was the second time in her life where she thought things were going well, only to find out her boyfriend wasn’t ready for a…
How to stop Falling in Love with the Wrong Men

How to stop Falling in Love with the Wrong Men

Getting dumped when you’re in love with someone is the worst. Realizing that the person you have the feelz for is totally wrong for you is excruciating. We know how hard it is to choose the right person to love. Many of you have asked us how you can stop falling for guys so quickly. How you can stop falling for the wrong guys over and over again. We teach our clients a specific dating process for how they can…
Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Discover why men pull away after getting close.  Why do men disappear after things seemed to be going well?  We’ll answer these questions for you once and for all. It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on…
Is Comfort Holding You Back from Love?

Is Comfort Holding You Back from Love?

Often what’s OKAY, GOOD or COMFORTABLE is the main obstacle to your ultimate fulfillment in love. Comfort and Okayness are dream killers. They seduce you into complacency. They cause you to retreat back to old habits that are comfortable yet hold you back when you hit a big challenge. They stop you from taking the emotionally hard actions that lead to experiencing the kind of relationship you want and deserve. Our clients have that “hell no” moment. That moment when…
Why don’t MEN change?

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…

Breaking free of the bread crumbers…..

We got off the phone with a client who finally broke her main forever single dating pattern. She had been dating bread crumbers for a LONG time. For the past two years she had dated a guy on and off who bread crumbed her the whole time. She had given her blood, sweat and tears to this guy and got very little in return. She was showing up day after day for this guy. Meeting his needs. Stepping up to…
Who are you NOT dating anymore?

Who are you NOT dating anymore?

We work with many clients in our live workshop and in our ongoing mentorship program. One of the first things we do with them is get CRYSTAL clear about who they won’t be dating anymore. Yes it’s important to know WHO is right for you. In the beginning it’s more important to know who you WON’T date from this day forward. Notice, we didn’t way wrong for you. Many of us continue to date people who are wrong for us.…
Can’t stop the Perfection….

Can’t stop the Perfection….

In our household the theme song from Troll’s plays a lot right now. Our son Mason is a huge fan. Can’t stop the feeling…… Can’t stop the feeling….. We usually have it stuck in our heads. Most of us have another song stuck in our heads day in and day out. It’ called… Can’t stop the perfection…. We play it all day – everyday. We strive to be perfect. In every area of our lives. We NEED to have the…
You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

Most of our clients initially come to us for dating and relationship strategies. They know we’ve created a proven system for finding love with the right person and they want to KNOW the tactics we teach. People focus on tips and tactics. You want to know how to flirt. Where to find the right person. What site or app to use. What to say. Same with dieting.  We want to know the latest tactic or strategy for losing weight. Most…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

Our internal voices are either our jailers or they lead you to living an authentic and fulfilling life. We all hear voices. Don’t let any psychiatrist tell you differently. Your internal voices are simply your conscious and unconscious thoughts. You have roughly 60 THOUSAND thoughts per day. Some of them are helpful. Many of them are harmful to your happiness and goals. How do you know when to TRUST your inner voice and when to ignore it? Us humans are…
Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Can you imagine talking to who you think is an attractive CFO named Derek but is instead a slobbering pervert and sex addict who lives in his mama’s basement? You know what we’re talking about. The ultimate catfish. It’s dating the biggest liar of them all. We’ve all heard the catfish horror stories. There are many people who tell lies in their dating life. These lies range from the white variety to the I’m nothing like who I said I…
Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We have a new 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation for you today.  This episode is all about how you can make one small change today to be a catalyst for a whole different life in the future.  Be the spark as we call it.  It’s powerful and simple at the same time. Be the Spark – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn
What are you avoiding?

What are you avoiding?

What are 2 crucial steps you’re avoiding doing when it comes to dating or love? These are 2 actions you know you should do to find the right person for you, but you’ve been putting them off. Avoiding them. Saying you’ll do them next week. We all have things that are important for us to be doing that we are totally avoiding. We do it in all areas of our lives. We avoid working out. We avoid eating vegetables. We avoid…
The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

  I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink He drinks a Lager drink,…

Why, What and How – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

In today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation we focus on Why, What and How. These 3 questions and your answers to them will dramatically impact if you find love or not. They will impact if you achieve any of your goals. Determining your why, what and how are crucial factors. You also need to learn to put 90% of your focus on your why and what or you won’t get to where you want to go. Listen here: Life Has…
Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

You are better off making the wrong decision than you are analyzing the situation to death in your head. Why is this true? Because making decisions provides you with real world feedback.  It enables you to have positive momentum. It also allows you to make an even better future decision. Once you’ve made an imperfect choice, you can make an even better future decision after factoring in the real world feedback you’ll receive. Your choices and actions are ALWAYS imperfect. Don’t…
THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

Picture this: your mind is racing wondering what to say or do about the current guy you’re dating. He’s not texting you back. He’s not asking you out again. He’s acting hot and cold. You think of all these scenarios about WHY he is acting this way. and What you can do about it. You talk to your friends about it. You read blogs. Maybe you even follow the so called “rules” of dating to try to MAKE him pursue you.…
The Invisible Consequences of an Amazing Relationship

The Invisible Consequences of an Amazing Relationship

Everything you want or do in life comes with benefits and costs. Nothing is totally great or bad. Some of the worst things in life have unintended benefits… Lets rap about something everyone would say isn’t good for your life… Drinking too much alcohol. You can also get some hidden “benefits” when you drink too much. You get a release from the stress of life and can let go. People connect to you through your drinking or your drinking problem.…
Life has seasons….

Life has seasons….

Life has seasons and they ALWAYS CHANGE. It doesn’t matter if you’re in summer, spring, fall or winter in your life right now this season is temporary. If things are going great they will change. If your love life sucks right now this will change. It’s inevitable. You can have certainty that this current version of now will change. You can have a great peace of mind when you accept that life has seasons. You know that if you’re going…