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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

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Who are you NOT dating anymore?

Who are you NOT dating anymore?

We work with many clients in our live workshop and in our ongoing mentorship program. One of the first things we do with them is get CRYSTAL clear about who they won’t be dating anymore. Yes it’s important to know WHO is right for you. In the beginning it’s more important to know who you WON’T date from this day forward. Notice, we didn’t way wrong for you. Many of us continue to date people who are wrong for us.…
Can’t stop the Perfection….

Can’t stop the Perfection….

In our household the theme song from Troll’s plays a lot right now. Our son Mason is a huge fan. Can’t stop the feeling…… Can’t stop the feeling….. We usually have it stuck in our heads. Most of us have another song stuck in our heads day in and day out. It’ called… Can’t stop the perfection…. We play it all day – everyday. We strive to be perfect. In every area of our lives. We NEED to have the…
You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

Most of our clients initially come to us for dating and relationship strategies. They know we’ve created a proven system for finding love with the right person and they want to KNOW the tactics we teach. People focus on tips and tactics. You want to know how to flirt. Where to find the right person. What site or app to use. What to say. Same with dieting.  We want to know the latest tactic or strategy for losing weight. Most…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

When you shouldn’t listen to the voice inside

Our internal voices are either our jailers or they lead you to living an authentic and fulfilling life. We all hear voices. Don’t let any psychiatrist tell you differently. Your internal voices are simply your conscious and unconscious thoughts. You have roughly 60 THOUSAND thoughts per day. Some of them are helpful. Many of them are harmful to your happiness and goals. How do you know when to TRUST your inner voice and when to ignore it? Us humans are…
Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Can you imagine talking to who you think is an attractive CFO named Derek but is instead a slobbering pervert and sex addict who lives in his mama’s basement? You know what we’re talking about. The ultimate catfish. It’s dating the biggest liar of them all. We’ve all heard the catfish horror stories. There are many people who tell lies in their dating life. These lies range from the white variety to the I’m nothing like who I said I…
Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

Be the Spark and Make One Small Change Today – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We have a new 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation for you today.  This episode is all about how you can make one small change today to be a catalyst for a whole different life in the future.  Be the spark as we call it.  It’s powerful and simple at the same time. Be the Spark – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn
What are you avoiding?

What are you avoiding?

What are 2 crucial steps you’re avoiding doing when it comes to dating or love? These are 2 actions you know you should do to find the right person for you, but you’ve been putting them off. Avoiding them. Saying you’ll do them next week. We all have things that are important for us to be doing that we are totally avoiding. We do it in all areas of our lives. We avoid working out. We avoid eating vegetables. We avoid…
The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

  I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink He drinks a Lager drink,…

Why, What and How – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

In today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation we focus on Why, What and How. These 3 questions and your answers to them will dramatically impact if you find love or not. They will impact if you achieve any of your goals. Determining your why, what and how are crucial factors. You also need to learn to put 90% of your focus on your why and what or you won’t get to where you want to go. Listen here: Life Has…
Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

Why making the wrong decision is better than no decision

You are better off making the wrong decision than you are analyzing the situation to death in your head. Why is this true? Because making decisions provides you with real world feedback.  It enables you to have positive momentum. It also allows you to make an even better future decision. Once you’ve made an imperfect choice, you can make an even better future decision after factoring in the real world feedback you’ll receive. Your choices and actions are ALWAYS imperfect. Don’t…
THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

Picture this: your mind is racing wondering what to say or do about the current guy you’re dating. He’s not texting you back. He’s not asking you out again. He’s acting hot and cold. You think of all these scenarios about WHY he is acting this way. and What you can do about it. You talk to your friends about it. You read blogs. Maybe you even follow the so called “rules” of dating to try to MAKE him pursue you.…
The Invisible Consequences of an Amazing Relationship

The Invisible Consequences of an Amazing Relationship

Everything you want or do in life comes with benefits and costs. Nothing is totally great or bad. Some of the worst things in life have unintended benefits… Lets rap about something everyone would say isn’t good for your life… Drinking too much alcohol. You can also get some hidden “benefits” when you drink too much. You get a release from the stress of life and can let go. People connect to you through your drinking or your drinking problem.…
Life has seasons….

Life has seasons….

Life has seasons and they ALWAYS CHANGE. It doesn’t matter if you’re in summer, spring, fall or winter in your life right now this season is temporary. If things are going great they will change. If your love life sucks right now this will change. It’s inevitable. You can have certainty that this current version of now will change. You can have a great peace of mind when you accept that life has seasons. You know that if you’re going…
Today is Practice for Tomorrow – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

Today is Practice for Tomorrow – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

Do you want to reduce stress and give your mind an effective 5 Minute Workout? If, so listen to today’s 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation It’s the ultimate mind/body exercise for busy people who hate mindfulness and meditation. Here is this weeks 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation Today is Practice for Tomorrow – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation If you haven’t yet joined our free facebook group: Mastering Dating & Love for Ambitious Women – head over there now so…
A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

It’s Monday.  We have a new Monday 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation. It’s the ultimate mind/body exercise for busy people who hate mindfulness and meditation. In today’s session we explore the nature of your thoughts and how you can create a completely different relationship to your thoughts.  This will help you be emotionally fit, more present and to truly connect with someone else. Here is this weeks 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation. A New Relationship with Your Thoughts – 5…
Soul Mates are Created

Soul Mates are Created

First you find the right person for you, then you fight like hell for the rest of your life to be soul mates. Last Sunday we realized something was off between us and had been for 2 weeks. We weren’t connecting. weren’t on the same page. We were bickering over little things. getting annoyed with each other over day to day things. We caught ourselves not prioritizing each other and not prioritizing our relationship. For several weeks we had both been…
Push the Fear Away

Push the Fear Away

Fear will eat away at your success and life if you let it! Our son Mason received his first STRIPE in taekwondo. He was SOOOOO EXCITED. He had the biggest ear to ear grin on his face. You could tell he was proud of himself. He was almost manic with glee. It didn’t start out this way though with taekwondo. In fact quite the opposite. At first he was SCARED to even join the class. He was one of the…

4 Steps to End Bread Crumbing Now

We recently talked to you about The Bread Crumbing Dating Pattern and today we are going to teach you What to do when you’re stuck in this pattern. But before we get there, if you want a quick giggle, go check out this article and pictures of this couple who have been married 37 years and dress in matching outfits everyday http://datetosoulmate.com/stylish-couple-world/ Let’s refresh our memories about Bread Crumbing so we are all on the same page. Bread crumbing is when…