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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

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The NY fire department broke us out

The NY fire department broke us out

Our family has been staying in Manhattan, NY for the past 10 days or so. It has been a great time. We took our son Mason to see The School of Rock which he thought was hilarious. The pure joy in watching him watch the show was palpable. One night we got a babysitter and went out with some friends of ours for dinner and drinks. We went to this steak restaurant that had been open for 150 years. We…
Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

The event is finally here. The Donald vs. Hillary. The first debate is tonight and some are predicting 100 million of us will be watching. That sounds crazy. Are you going to be watching?   In any debate what you say isn’t as important as how you present and express yourself.   In 2000, Al Gore supposedly had a good debate performance based on is the content of his words. He absolutely got killed though by W. in how he…
Are your Nerves Scaring Men Away?

Are your Nerves Scaring Men Away?

Please don’t be the one that gets the cold shoulder because you unintentionally have RBF on your dates. Or are you so nervous on dates that you aren’t able to express the real you.   We all react differently to being nervous on a date. Some of us talk too much. Some have RBF and hide their personality.   If you are too in your head, it WILL show on your face.   You may not even feel that nervous…
Are you being scammed in Dating?

Are you being scammed in Dating?

You all know that there are a grip of scammers, sex addicts and digital douches out there in dating land.   In case you don’t know, digital douches are men who would otherwise be nice upstanding gentlemen, but because we communicate now digitally or through online, text or email primarily they are major douchebags. They’re inner douchey demons are let out and run rampant in a digital world. They text, email and hit you up online in rude, overly sexual…
How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

Learn how to give a massage to your partner.  Yasuko Kawamura stops by The Date to Soul Mate Show to teach how to to give a good massage to someone. Yasuko is a Board Certified Licensed Massage Therapist and Reiki practitioner based in Orange County, California. Yasuko has a passion in teaching Couples Massage Class’ in which couples learn how to massage each other using easy massage techniques that do not hurt their fingers. By showing them how to effectively…
Beware of The Energy Vampires & Negative People

Beware of The Energy Vampires & Negative People

Do you feel like you don’t have time or energy for love? Do you find yourself dealing with other people’s problems, negative people and feeling completely depleted? There are family, friends, co-workers and other people out there who will suck the time and energy out of your life.  They are negative people.  They may or may not mean to but boy are they good at it. Audit Your Needy Naysers and Negative People in Your Life Before you can really be…
The Unhappiness Expert: The Golden Years

The Unhappiness Expert: The Golden Years

The Unhappiness Expert Series is a playful look at what you could say, think and do to become extremely unhappy. We will be showing you the best and most effective ways to become exceedingly unhappy. If you want to become an unhappiness expert, you will need to dedicate yourself and take consistent action to distort reality, ruin your relationships and sabotage any of your chances at success and happiness. If you would rather become an Un-unhappiness expert, you may want…
The No Fluff Key to Success in Love

The No Fluff Key to Success in Love

We are back in southern California after a month in Chicago and Wisconsin.  It’s cray cray how you can have a blast or have a miserable time no matter where you are depending on your mindset.  We’ve been having a great time.  Except we ate and drank our way through the Midwest so it’s detox time now baby. It’s always nice to see family and friends you haven’t seen in a while. Today we wanted to talk with you about…
The Donald vs. The Hills

The Donald vs. The Hills

Can you fathom how crazy the next 6 months will be in the presidential election? It’s down to two people. The Donald vs. The Hills No matter what your politics, you know it’s going to get vicious between these two. Old Donnie boy can’t help but throw verbal punches left and right.  He’s already accusing Bill Clinton of being a rapist and saying Hillary enabled it all. Hillary already put out an attack ad on the reality star using his…
Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

When you argue with your man what are you really arguing about? What are you thinking during the argument? What are you trying to do in the argument? Most of our arguments and fights aren’t what they appear to be on the surface. Whether you are arguing with some namby pamby on flakebook or your lip boxing with your lover, you are using all sorts of ninja like attacks and defensive moves that go deeper than just the topic of…

There’s a Douche Bag Blocking My Path

  This Douche Bag situation is critical to your love life.   We went out for a walk with our son Mason in the morning. He loves walking.   He also loves attention from the ladies young and old on our walks.   He is fascinated by the street performers on the promenade. Although “Pink Man” scares him silly. As we were leaving, one of our neighbors was frantically pacing back and forth by our driveway. We stopped to see…

Ashley’s Big Toe vs. A Marinara Sauce Jar

OOOOOOHHHHHH NNNOOOOOOOOOO   Michael heard a frightening scream and loud crying from the kitchen.   He was instantly hit with an intense fear. The kind of fear that stops your heart. Makes you hyper alert. The kind you only feel when you’re worried for your life.   Or for the life of someone you love.   Michael ran into the kitchen. Ashley was bent over crying. Our son Mason was sitting on the kitchen counter looking frightened.   Ashely was…

The Psychology of Love and Relationships: Why You Should Say Yes to Love

What is your relationship to creating lasting love in your life? Do you have a yes attitude or a no attitude? These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answers will make or break your dating/relationship success. It could be the reason you’ve been doing everything you can think of to find lasting love but nothing has worked. Your answers are related to the psychology of love and relationships. Initially, most of our clients have a no attitude toward…

How to Give a Romantic Massage to Your Lover

  Have you ever had an insanely busy, tense day where all you want to do is come home and melt into your partner’s arms or go straight to the spa for a massage?  You might even be thinking “HELLO! I feel that way every day!”   When we started our work with couples, we very quickly learned that there is nothing worse than when both partners are stressed out physically and emotionally.   Most of us have endless to do…

2 Tips on How to Let Go of Your Ex Forever

If you want to know how to let go of your ex once and for all you are in the right place.  Learn these 2 simple techniques to get over someone. A woman came to us in despair…. She couldn’t get the thought of that jerk out of her mind. She kept replaying all the bad things he ever did to her over and over again. She also couldn’t forget how good he made her feel. There were brief moments when she…

Dating after Divorce for Women

  Hey it’s Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael–   We recently spoke to a group of about 65 professionals who help people through the process of divorce.  There were lawyers, mediators, family therapists, realtors, financial consultants and many other types of professionals in the group.  We loved being with these people because they really help people navigate the uncertainty and confusion that people feel when getting divorced.   Our talk was about dating after divorce.  Privately, we work with many…

Will I Ever Find Love?

  Melissa came to our office. She was going to do some coaching with us on her love life. She was smart, strong, and successful and was what most men would consider physically attractive. She had been putting a lot of effort into finding her soul mate.   In fact, she had been doing this for at least 10 years. She had been dating guy after guy, but it never seemed to work. From the outside it seemed like she…

Improve Your Self Image to Improve Your Love Life

  What is your self image? Your self image is your map or mental blueprint of yourself.     It is how you picture and think about yourself. What you see yourself being able to do and be. How you see your strengths and limitations, successes and failures.   We all have a self image, but you may or may not be conscious of yours. Self image is frequently changing, except if you didn’t know to update yours, than you…

Feeling Depressed, Angry or Anxious? Don’t Try and Solve Your Relationship Problems

  Have you ever tried to talk to your partner about something or solve problems when you were feeling depressed, anxious and angry?   It’s practically impossible to solve anything when you are in a bad emotional state.   If you’ve ever watched any of the singing reality stars or professional athletes perform under pressure, you know that rational, talented and skilled people can look and act completely irrational, make poor decisions and look downright foolish when faced with intense…

How to Cope with Stress before it Ruins Your Relationship?

  We live in an information age. We have more stress now than ever. How you and your partner deal with stress will be one of the most important things to the health, happiness and longevity of your relationship. If you are single the same applies. How you cope with stress will be one of the biggest things to make or break your love life.   Stress is everywhere. You have numerous choices each day to make about how to…

How to Change Your Thinking – The Outside-In versus Inside-Out Perspective

  Do you have a fundamental misunderstanding of how life works?   Why do you think so many people have painful and terrible relationships, anxiety, depression, anger problems and are simply unhappy? One of the biggest underlying causes of all this pain and suffering is that most of us have a fundamental misunderstanding of how life works.   Most of us live life from an Outside-In perspective and this is exactly the opposite of how life really works.   Have…

Communication Problems – YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!

  Communication Problems and misunderstandings often lead to relationship problems. But you don’t have to believes us, let’s start with a story…….   YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!   How would it feel if your husband came home from work and told you that? Ya all the women reading this want to collectively stomp on this guy’s *$%#* with their sharpest 8 inch stilettos.   Believe it or not, a guy Ashley was working with…

What are Emotional Needs and How they Impact Your Love Life

  We love Starbucks. Ya we have sold out and gone commercial but it’s true. Michael loves their Americano’s and Ashley their bacon and Gouda breakfast sandwiches and don’t even get us started on their Holiday Latte’s.   The other day we were at Starbucks pretending to mind our own business, but we couldn’t help but notice a mother and daughter LOUDLY talking to each other. So, of course we had to eavesdrop.   The daughter must’ve had a big…

How To Balance Work and Life

  Bill and Sally are a couple. They are very busy and they also have kids. They both work and have high level jobs with lots of responsibility. Almost everyday Bill and Sally make each other a priority.     They connect with a minute here, a couple minutes there. They make each other a priority by being fully present when they are spending time together. They turn off all their media and they spend time together for a small,…

Flooding Yourself with Negative thoughts and Bad Memories of Your Partner

  We are major Foodies. We love talking about, preparing and eating FOOD. Ashley is an amazing cook and loves the process of cooking just as much as savoring the end result. She reads books, magazine and blogs on cooking FOR FUN.   Don’t even get her started on homemade baby food…….she could spend hours making it!   Michael feels like he hit the jackpot because his wife, mother and mother in-law are all great cooks. He can cook too,…

Giving up on Love? Discover One of the Most Destructive Habits for Your Love Life

  She walked in very slowly. Her shoulders were slumped down and she avoided eye contact with everyone. The way she felt made her look 10 years old than her actual age. Her husband of 5 years was trailing behind her looking like he was walking into a sex shop or something. Like he didn’t want anyone to see or recognize him here.   She sat down and after about one hour into the presentation she raised her hand and…

Relationship Problems? The #1 Thing You Can Do to Rescue Your Relationship

  We know a couple. Jack and Debbie. Jack is a Pediatrician and Debbie is a high level executive for a computer company. On paper they are a perfect match. They’re both attractive…..smart… successful…. And have pretty much the same values. They’re the kind of couple you look at and get jealous of because they seem like Ken and Barbie.   They also have two kids 2 year old Dakota and 4 year old Huntington. They’re so cute you almost…