Unbeatable Mindset/Emotional Fitness

Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

When you argue with your man what are you really arguing about? What are you thinking during the argument? What are you trying to do in the argument? Most of our arguments and fights aren’t what they appear to be on the surface. Whether you are arguing with some namby pamby on flakebook or your lip boxing with your lover, you are using all sorts of ninja like attacks and defensive moves that go deeper than just the topic of…

There’s a Douche Bag Blocking My Path

  This Douche Bag situation is critical to your love life.   We went out for a walk with our son Mason in the morning. He loves walking.   He also loves attention from the ladies young and old on our walks.   He is fascinated by the street performers on the promenade. Although “Pink Man” scares him silly. As we were leaving, one of our neighbors was frantically pacing back and forth by our driveway. We stopped to see…

Ashley’s Big Toe vs. A Marinara Sauce Jar

OOOOOOHHHHHH NNNOOOOOOOOOO   Michael heard a frightening scream and loud crying from the kitchen.   He was instantly hit with an intense fear. The kind of fear that stops your heart. Makes you hyper alert. The kind you only feel when you’re worried for your life.   Or for the life of someone you love.   Michael ran into the kitchen. Ashley was bent over crying. Our son Mason was sitting on the kitchen counter looking frightened.   Ashely was…

The Psychology of Love and Relationships: Why You Should Say Yes to Love

What is your relationship to creating lasting love in your life? Do you have a yes attitude or a no attitude? These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answers will make or break your dating/relationship success. It could be the reason you’ve been doing everything you can think of to find lasting love but nothing has worked. Your answers are related to the psychology of love and relationships. Initially, most of our clients have a no attitude toward…

How to Give a Romantic Massage to Your Lover

  Have you ever had an insanely busy, tense day where all you want to do is come home and melt into your partner’s arms or go straight to the spa for a massage?  You might even be thinking “HELLO! I feel that way every day!”   When we started our work with couples, we very quickly learned that there is nothing worse than when both partners are stressed out physically and emotionally.   Most of us have endless to do…

2 Tips on How to Let Go of Your Ex Forever

If you want to know how to let go of your ex once and for all you are in the right place.  Learn these 2 simple techniques to get over someone. A woman came to us in despair…. She couldn’t get the thought of that jerk out of her mind. She kept replaying all the bad things he ever did to her over and over again. She also couldn’t forget how good he made her feel. There were brief moments when she…

Dating after Divorce for Women

  Hey it’s Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael–   We recently spoke to a group of about 65 professionals who help people through the process of divorce.  There were lawyers, mediators, family therapists, realtors, financial consultants and many other types of professionals in the group.  We loved being with these people because they really help people navigate the uncertainty and confusion that people feel when getting divorced.   Our talk was about dating after divorce.  Privately, we work with many…

Will I Ever Find Love?

  Melissa came to our office. She was going to do some coaching with us on her love life. She was smart, strong, and successful and was what most men would consider physically attractive. She had been putting a lot of effort into finding her soul mate.   In fact, she had been doing this for at least 10 years. She had been dating guy after guy, but it never seemed to work. From the outside it seemed like she…

Improve Your Self Image to Improve Your Love Life

  What is your self image? Your self image is your map or mental blueprint of yourself.     It is how you picture and think about yourself. What you see yourself being able to do and be. How you see your strengths and limitations, successes and failures.   We all have a self image, but you may or may not be conscious of yours. Self image is frequently changing, except if you didn’t know to update yours, than you…

Feeling Depressed, Angry or Anxious? Don’t Try and Solve Your Relationship Problems

  Have you ever tried to talk to your partner about something or solve problems when you were feeling depressed, anxious and angry?   It’s practically impossible to solve anything when you are in a bad emotional state.   If you’ve ever watched any of the singing reality stars or professional athletes perform under pressure, you know that rational, talented and skilled people can look and act completely irrational, make poor decisions and look downright foolish when faced with intense…

How to Cope with Stress before it Ruins Your Relationship?

  We live in an information age. We have more stress now than ever. How you and your partner deal with stress will be one of the most important things to the health, happiness and longevity of your relationship. If you are single the same applies. How you cope with stress will be one of the biggest things to make or break your love life.   Stress is everywhere. You have numerous choices each day to make about how to…

How to Change Your Thinking – The Outside-In versus Inside-Out Perspective

  Do you have a fundamental misunderstanding of how life works?   Why do you think so many people have painful and terrible relationships, anxiety, depression, anger problems and are simply unhappy? One of the biggest underlying causes of all this pain and suffering is that most of us have a fundamental misunderstanding of how life works.   Most of us live life from an Outside-In perspective and this is exactly the opposite of how life really works.   Have…

Communication Problems – YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!

  Communication Problems and misunderstandings often lead to relationship problems. But you don’t have to believes us, let’s start with a story…….   YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!   How would it feel if your husband came home from work and told you that? Ya all the women reading this want to collectively stomp on this guy’s *$%#* with their sharpest 8 inch stilettos.   Believe it or not, a guy Ashley was working with…

What are Emotional Needs and How they Impact Your Love Life

  We love Starbucks. Ya we have sold out and gone commercial but it’s true. Michael loves their Americano’s and Ashley their bacon and Gouda breakfast sandwiches and don’t even get us started on their Holiday Latte’s.   The other day we were at Starbucks pretending to mind our own business, but we couldn’t help but notice a mother and daughter LOUDLY talking to each other. So, of course we had to eavesdrop.   The daughter must’ve had a big…

How To Balance Work and Life

  Bill and Sally are a couple. They are very busy and they also have kids. They both work and have high level jobs with lots of responsibility. Almost everyday Bill and Sally make each other a priority.     They connect with a minute here, a couple minutes there. They make each other a priority by being fully present when they are spending time together. They turn off all their media and they spend time together for a small,…

Flooding Yourself with Negative thoughts and Bad Memories of Your Partner

  We are major Foodies. We love talking about, preparing and eating FOOD. Ashley is an amazing cook and loves the process of cooking just as much as savoring the end result. She reads books, magazine and blogs on cooking FOR FUN.   Don’t even get her started on homemade baby food…….she could spend hours making it!   Michael feels like he hit the jackpot because his wife, mother and mother in-law are all great cooks. He can cook too,…

Giving up on Love? Discover One of the Most Destructive Habits for Your Love Life

  She walked in very slowly. Her shoulders were slumped down and she avoided eye contact with everyone. The way she felt made her look 10 years old than her actual age. Her husband of 5 years was trailing behind her looking like he was walking into a sex shop or something. Like he didn’t want anyone to see or recognize him here.   She sat down and after about one hour into the presentation she raised her hand and…

Relationship Problems? The #1 Thing You Can Do to Rescue Your Relationship

  We know a couple. Jack and Debbie. Jack is a Pediatrician and Debbie is a high level executive for a computer company. On paper they are a perfect match. They’re both attractive…..smart… successful…. And have pretty much the same values. They’re the kind of couple you look at and get jealous of because they seem like Ken and Barbie.   They also have two kids 2 year old Dakota and 4 year old Huntington. They’re so cute you almost…

The Work Wife – The Explosion of Cheating and Sex At Work

  The Work Wife – the Explosion of Cheating and Sex at Work   You wouldn’t believe the stories we’ve heard of cheating in relationships being relationship experts and talking to lots of people about their relationship problems.   Cheating and sex at work are so common that there are even new terms to describe what’s happening….   WORK WIFE or WORK HUSBAND   That’s right, after all the effort it took to get some caveman to commit to you,…

Marriage Breakdown 101: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

  Famed Psychologist and Marriage Researcher Dr. John Gottman has identified 4 communication behaviors that are signs of a marriage breakdown.   Dr. Gottman named these behaviors The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Before you start thinking your relationship is doomed or you’re headed for a marriage breakdown, these behaviors are often reversible.   The first step is being aware that you and your partner are engaging in these destructive behaviors. Also, all couples use these behaviors at times, but…

Dealing with a Long Distance Relationship

Mailbag Question: Dealing with a Long Distance Relationship   I moved to Texas with the intention of working there for a year, maybe more. Within the first three months I met a man and we hit it off from the start. He was everything I had ever wanted in a man in terms of personality and morals. We got to the stage of deciding whether to take things to the next level (boyfriend and girlfriend). This was before I went…

Relationships Suck….Sometimes

  Relationships suck sometimes. That’s right. We said it. Relationships suck sometimes.   Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’ve been dumped by the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. It sucks.   Maybe, you’ve been in a long-term relationship or you’re married and things were good at first but have just slowly dwindled down to nothing; no passion, little love – just sort of roommates passing by as the days go…

How to Get Your Partner’s Undivided Attention Today

Today you are going to learn how to get your partner focused on YOU. Yes, that’s right…… I know it sounds impossible but just keep reading and you can believe us later Now, we are going to share with you part of Section: 8 Spotlight Texts – Getting Your Partner’s Undivided Attention from the Passionate Communication Program If you have been with your partner for some time, you probably text about who is going to pick up the groceries on…

3 Ways to Stop Fighting in a Relationship

Learn 3 Ways to Stop Fighting in a Relationship and make your relationship better instantly. Are you and your partner stuck constantly fighting? Crucial Habits for relationship success

Make Your Marriage Work By Using Pain as a Weapon for Good

Learn how to make your marriage work by using pain to help you get unstuck and through any relationship challenges. Create a simple habit to make your marriage work and improve the quality of your relationship. Free Relationship Advice!