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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Inspiration and Motivation

How to have Superpowers this Week!

It’s MONDAY. Do you feel like you have a million things you COULD DO? Does it feel like you have more things to do than time to do it? The brutal truth is most things we do DON’T MATTER. Most of our lives are spent talking about and doing things that don’t have a meaningful impact on our life or goals. THIS IS GOOD. It means we could drop the ball on most things we are currently doing and nothing…

Why You Don’t Get What You Deserve

We were just talking with a client about when you’re talking with your partner or even yourself about what you want or what kind of life you want to live, it’s important to take the first surface level answer and go MUCH BIGGER. We usually only allow ourselves to think about or talk about what we want in terms of what we feel we deserve. The problem is we often have a very low opinion of what we believe we…
It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

Helloo from the TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters, We had an event filled WEDDING WEEKEND. One of our amazing clients who lives in Canada got married. And guess what? They got married in wine country California. We couldn’t contain our excitement that this client found love with the right person AND was getting married near the famous TEAM ARN Wine Country Head Quarters. But just a few years ago, this client’s life wasn’t anything close to the fairytale it…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

This is why you don’t feel excited for dates

We’re sitting down writing this to you from our kitchen. Our son Mason is in archaeology camp this week (it’s summer vacay after all) BUT he picked up a bug, so today he’s resting and sleeping it off at home. You know how much easier it is to cope with life’s challenges like having a sick kid when you have an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP. No drug, no wine (this is big for us to say this because we LOVE WINE), no…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…

#1 Secret to Solving Relationship Problems

Today we are going to reveal the #1 secret to solving your relationship problems. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…

How she reconnected with the right guy……

We had a great Father’s Day weekend.  Ashley and our son Mason went all out to make Michael feel special.  They cooked his favorite meals and Mason even bought him a framed photograph at a garage sale for 25 cents.  He was very proud of himself for getting such a good deal. If you want to see what Ashley had to say about Father’s Day you can go watch it here: http://datetosoulmate.com/fathers-day-arns/ We just received a message from a client…

Does big thinking beat small thinking?

For years we thought BIG. Big goals. Big motivation. Big beliefs. We were taking on the world and we trained our minds to think that way. Michael used to compete in golf tournaments. The best of the best were competing. He would visualize himself WINNING the big prize. He would imagine what it would be like to hold the trophy in his hands as the ultimate winner. He came up with mantras and created beliefs about how he could WIN…
I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

“I want a baby but I’m single!”  “I want a baby so bad.” The cold hard truth about being a mom. Is it for you? Ashley is writing…. Years ago, Michael and I were madly in love and having the time of our lives. We had been married for a few years and were having a blast. We traveled EVERYWHERE. We did whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We went out late with friends. We slept until noon, laying there…

💩 it Doesn’t Fit 😭

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley.. I’m jumping on here to talk with your privately….Michael doesn’t know I’m doing this. This totally happened to me recently and I thought you might relate. I’m in a wedding and I ordered this dress.  It shows up and try it on and….. S%@#!!!! It doesn’t fit. The dress was ordered 4 months and $300 ago. I am supposed to be in a wedding in 6 weeks and EVERYTHING about this dress doesn’t fit. It’s one…
Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Do you  believe men or a man you’re dating has commitment issues?  Is MAN-ogamy even something that is possible or desirable? Can a man really commit to monogamy in this day and age? A big challenge with online dating today is that people are no longer just dating ONE person when they meet. There is no denying that this is the way that dating is today, regardless of whether you are meeting people online or offline. So, should you just…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…
Live the Good Life – These are the Keys to the GOOD LIFE

Live the Good Life – These are the Keys to the GOOD LIFE

Do you want to live the good life?  Today we’ll teach you what it takes to live a life full of love, happiness and impact. “There is no heavier burden than an unfulfilled potential” – Charles Schulz Happy Friday TEAM ARN, We want to give you so much VALUE today that you explode into your weekend with purpose and intention.  We show up DAILY for you in this VIP newsletter to help YOU show up daily in your own life. We know that…
How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

Today we talk about how to improve your life by building relationships that last with the right people. Who do you spend the most time with? Do you really know them? Do they add to the quality of your life? The 5 people you devote the majority of your relationship time and energy to will by and large determine the quality of your life!  That’s why building relationships that last with the right people is so important. Why are these people so…

Communicate with Confidence – It only takes one……?

Why is it so important to communicate with confidence? Today we’ll show you why communicating confidently and being proactive in connecting with others is so important. You are only one interaction away from getting anything you want in life, you just don’t know which interaction it will be. Ever since she turned 30 years old, people around her treated her love life different. Before they would tell her “I envy your freedom and independence”. Now friends, family members and even…
Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad dating advice is everywhere. It comes in all forms. From… ….society ….celebrities ….family members ….coworkers and today we are going to talk about bad dating advice from your FRIENDS. It’s one of the worst kinds. You don’t want to find yourself copying women in your life that AREN’T successful in love. When a single friend says “You have got to try this.” Don’t listen! Unless she has proof that this is a technique that will actually lead to the…

Happily Ever After – He kept showing up uninvited

Today will show you how one couple lived happily ever after despite a rough start. The curious case of the happily ever after couple who should’ve never been together. It was 1963 and Nancy went out on a blind date with Harry. Nancy was 5 feet tall and she liked shorter men with brown hair. She didn’t like dating tall guys because she felt so small in comparison. Harry showed up at her door and she immediately wanted to cancel.…
Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand.  There is no separating them. You can’t be happy without gratitude. Today we are going to lay out the secrets of gratitude and happiness AND the non-secrets of stinkin thinkin. Let’s talk about one of our clients. In LESS THAN ONE YEAR, she met AND married a man that is incredible. Together, they have chemistry, compatibility, connection and commitment. These are the four essential elements of long-term relationship success. She got married in…
Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

It’s time for you to get unstuck and gain momentum in your life! We had a great weekend. We love to cook and host people and had quite a few friends over this weekend. We also got to spend time having fun with our little man, laughing and doing all sorts of crazy things. We woke up to this message from a client today who got unstuck… “I thought I’d let you know that I have connected with men much…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him!  I don’t know.  Maybe!  Ya I think I’d like to do that.  I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar?  Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…

while you were sleeping…..

About 3 weeks ago we sent a message to a select group of you who had reached out to us asking for help. We made an offer for these women to join our program if they needed help getting a different result. Most people did not take action on this offer.  They hesitated.  They doubted. A few of you did jump in right away at this offer to join our program. While you were sleeping last night…we got this email…

It’s not you, it’s me. I need to stop dating losers.

Jennifer started talking to this guy on match.com.  She didn’t get her hopes up anymore in the beginning because most of the other guys she met up with hadn’t lived up to their hype. This guy was witty and seemed handsome in his photos.  They had some good text banter.  She thought “at least he knows how to structure a real sentence in proper English”. After some more text flirting he asked her out on a date. They met at…

We don’t claim to help everyone.

We’ve been at this for over a decade. In that time, we have tried to help our clients in A LOT of different ways. We worked with clients face-to-face in our office in the traditional therapy model. We met for an hour a week….and every week it felt like we were starting over again. Progress was SLOW. We created ebooks. We had monthly memberships where people could ask us questions. We had products that highlighted one part of our system…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…