Inspiration and Motivation

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…

How she reconnected with the right guy……

We had a great Father’s Day weekend.  Ashley and our son Mason went all out to make Michael feel special.  They cooked his favorite meals and Mason even bought him a framed photograph at a garage sale for 25 cents.  He was very proud of himself for getting such a good deal. If you want to see what Ashley had to say about Father’s Day you can go watch it here: http://datetosoulmate.com/fathers-day-arns/ We just received a message from a client…

Does big thinking beat small thinking?

For years we thought BIG. Big goals. Big motivation. Big beliefs. We were taking on the world and we trained our minds to think that way. Michael used to compete in golf tournaments. The best of the best were competing. He would visualize himself WINNING the big prize. He would imagine what it would be like to hold the trophy in his hands as the ultimate winner. He came up with mantras and created beliefs about how he could WIN…
I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

“I want a baby but I’m single!”  “I want a baby so bad.” The cold hard truth about being a mom. Is it for you? Ashley is writing…. Years ago, Michael and I were madly in love and having the time of our lives. We had been married for a few years and were having a blast. We traveled EVERYWHERE. We did whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We went out late with friends. We slept until noon, laying there…

💩 it Doesn’t Fit 😭

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley.. I’m jumping on here to talk with your privately….Michael doesn’t know I’m doing this. This totally happened to me recently and I thought you might relate. I’m in a wedding and I ordered this dress.  It shows up and try it on and….. S%@#!!!! It doesn’t fit. The dress was ordered 4 months and $300 ago. I am supposed to be in a wedding in 6 weeks and EVERYTHING about this dress doesn’t fit. It’s one…
Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Do you  believe men or a man you’re dating has commitment issues?  Is MAN-ogamy even something that is possible or desirable? Can a man really commit to monogamy in this day and age? A big challenge with online dating today is that people are no longer just dating ONE person when they meet. There is no denying that this is the way that dating is today, regardless of whether you are meeting people online or offline. So, should you just…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…
Live the Good Life – These are the Keys to the GOOD LIFE

Live the Good Life – These are the Keys to the GOOD LIFE

Do you want to live the good life?  Today we’ll teach you what it takes to live a life full of love, happiness and impact. “There is no heavier burden than an unfulfilled potential” – Charles Schulz Happy Friday TEAM ARN, We want to give you so much VALUE today that you explode into your weekend with purpose and intention.  We show up DAILY for you in this VIP newsletter to help YOU show up daily in your own life. We know that…
How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

How to Improve Your Life – 5 People Will Determine the Quality of Your Life!

Today we talk about how to improve your life by building relationships that last with the right people. Who do you spend the most time with? Do you really know them? Do they add to the quality of your life? The 5 people you devote the majority of your relationship time and energy to will by and large determine the quality of your life!  That’s why building relationships that last with the right people is so important. Why are these people so…

Communicate with Confidence – It only takes one……?

Why is it so important to communicate with confidence? Today we’ll show you why communicating confidently and being proactive in connecting with others is so important. You are only one interaction away from getting anything you want in life, you just don’t know which interaction it will be. Ever since she turned 30 years old, people around her treated her love life different. Before they would tell her “I envy your freedom and independence”. Now friends, family members and even…
Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad dating advice is everywhere. It comes in all forms. From… ….society ….celebrities ….family members ….coworkers and today we are going to talk about bad dating advice from your FRIENDS. It’s one of the worst kinds. You don’t want to find yourself copying women in your life that AREN’T successful in love. When a single friend says “You have got to try this.” Don’t listen! Unless she has proof that this is a technique that will actually lead to the…

Happily Ever After – He kept showing up uninvited

Today will show you how one couple lived happily ever after despite a rough start. The curious case of the happily ever after couple who should’ve never been together. It was 1963 and Nancy went out on a blind date with Harry. Nancy was 5 feet tall and she liked shorter men with brown hair. She didn’t like dating tall guys because she felt so small in comparison. Harry showed up at her door and she immediately wanted to cancel.…
Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand.  There is no separating them. You can’t be happy without gratitude. Today we are going to lay out the secrets of gratitude and happiness AND the non-secrets of stinkin thinkin. Let’s talk about one of our clients. In LESS THAN ONE YEAR, she met AND married a man that is incredible. Together, they have chemistry, compatibility, connection and commitment. These are the four essential elements of long-term relationship success. She got married in…
Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

It’s time for you to get unstuck and gain momentum in your life! We had a great weekend. We love to cook and host people and had quite a few friends over this weekend. We also got to spend time having fun with our little man, laughing and doing all sorts of crazy things. We woke up to this message from a client today who got unstuck… “I thought I’d let you know that I have connected with men much…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him!  I don’t know.  Maybe!  Ya I think I’d like to do that.  I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar?  Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…

while you were sleeping…..

About 3 weeks ago we sent a message to a select group of you who had reached out to us asking for help. We made an offer for these women to join our program if they needed help getting a different result. Most people did not take action on this offer.  They hesitated.  They doubted. A few of you did jump in right away at this offer to join our program. While you were sleeping last night…we got this email…

It’s not you, it’s me. I need to stop dating losers.

Jennifer started talking to this guy on match.com.  She didn’t get her hopes up anymore in the beginning because most of the other guys she met up with hadn’t lived up to their hype. This guy was witty and seemed handsome in his photos.  They had some good text banter.  She thought “at least he knows how to structure a real sentence in proper English”. After some more text flirting he asked her out on a date. They met at…

We don’t claim to help everyone.

We’ve been at this for over a decade. In that time, we have tried to help our clients in A LOT of different ways. We worked with clients face-to-face in our office in the traditional therapy model. We met for an hour a week….and every week it felt like we were starting over again. Progress was SLOW. We created ebooks. We had monthly memberships where people could ask us questions. We had products that highlighted one part of our system…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…
“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!” He came running in the house yelling “She loves me!”. He whipped open his backpack and eagerly pulled out this picture of him and his beautiful lady. She had also drawn him this card filled with hearts. Our son, who is 5 years old, was on top of the world. The little girl in his class that he has had a crush on for five months, had come around. Originally, when he asked her to marry him,…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…
How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

What are your options?  Do you know how to find love when you’re single and you aren’t meeting the kind of attractive, compatible, relationship ready man you want? We get asked all the time…    How do I find Love? You have several options available to you to try and find your soulmate.  We are going to lay them out for you so that you can choose the option that is best for you. Maybe you’ve thought about …. **hiring a…

Today I’m thinking about Shiny objects!

You know what I really want? A vacation. Cocktails on the beach and beautiful sunsets. You know what I need? Mentorship so I can be the best leader and change agent for my clients. Don’t get me wrong, that vacation or buying a bunch of hot Christmas stuff on sale would feel great….especially in the moment. But, I’m going to choose to set myself up for success for the whole year, not to just have fun in the moment. I’m…

Today I am on a high due to the success of a great client.

When we first spoke, she was living in a big city, but feeling alone. She has been super successful in her career and at a very young age. She kept watching all of her friends couple up and move on to the next chapter without her. She didn’t much or really have relationships. She knew she wanted to, but she didn’t know HOW. She rarely met men she felt a spark with and when she did, she felt like it…
Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

To date or not to date during the holidays that is the question. We emphatically say DO IT if you really want to meet someone. This is a great time of year to date for a number of reasons, which we talk about in todays Date to Soul Mate Show. Don’t let your brain come up with all sorts of noble obstacles (excuses) why now isn’t a good time. Don’t rationalize why you aren’t ready yet or that you need…