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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Online Dating Advice

He usually isn’t who you think he’s going to be

It’s a strange but great time of year isn’t it. Summer is coming to an end. Families are traveling everywhere before school starts. You’re trying to get anything fun in you can before the fall weather hits. Yesterday, in our Attract the Man You Want Workshop (we get together and talk every Tuesday) we talked about WHO to date. Who you get to know and go out on dates with is CRITICAL. We usually mentally REJECT a majority of men…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

This is why you don’t feel excited for dates

We’re sitting down writing this to you from our kitchen. Our son Mason is in archaeology camp this week (it’s summer vacay after all) BUT he picked up a bug, so today he’s resting and sleeping it off at home. You know how much easier it is to cope with life’s challenges like having a sick kid when you have an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP. No drug, no wine (this is big for us to say this because we LOVE WINE), no…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…
Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

We get asked all the time “where are all the good men?”  Why can’t I meet and get into a relationship with a great guy? Every once in awhile you see a great guy online. When you message them, they don’t respond. You wait and hope that something will land in your inbox but the same cycle keeps happening. It’s not that you aren’t getting any action. Plenty of men are reaching out to you. It’s just not usually the…
Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

What are the critical deal breakers for dating?  What are the signs that he is not right for you and that you need to move on right now?  Deal Breakers for Dating Have you ever felt stuck in the middle with someone? You notice a few things about them that aren’t your favorite. You wonder if maybe these things about them might change. They seem to have some good qualities, but there are others that are just missing. Being…

Should I Sleep with Him?

We often get asked “Should I sleep with him?”  “Do I need to wait?” “Will he leave if I don’t?” Today we answer this age old question. How many times have you wondered “should I sleep with him?” What’s the current rule? Wait at least two, five, or ten dates? Should sex happen before or after exclusivity? Should you sleep with other people at the same time if you aren’t exclusive or are dating multiple people? Isn’t that like cheating?…

Is He The One? – Would you pass this dating test?

Is he the one for you?  What do you look for to know with certainty that he is right for you? Today we’ve got a simple yet IMPORTANT one question test for you. If you pass with flying colors, your chances of finding the right man for you skyrocket and you’ll never have to wonder ” is he the one for me” If you don’t pass (almost nobody does), you will not find the right guy for you no matter…

How to Text a Guy – One of the Worst texts to receive from a guy

Learn how to text a guy that you like.  Today we’ll talk about why it’s so important to be able to communicate through text, email, chat or in person. “hey you free to hang?” Have you ever gotten one of these texts from a guy you’re dating? He doesn’t plan something with you in advance. He just randomly texts you out of the blue to see if you’re “free to hang out”. What does that even mean? “HANG OUT” What…

Online Dating Tips for Women – Do you have Online Dating ADHD?

Today we got the best online dating tips for women just like you.  If you have online dating ADHD it will be nearly impossible the meet the right man online. Oh WOW. Our inbox’s get FLOODED from people desperately wanting help with online dating. People are at their BREAKING POINTS feeling overwhelmed with all the messages, winks, bells and whistles from these dating sites or apps. What do you pay attention to? What do you ignore? What is a complete…

Judging People – Use Other People’s Judgments to Your Favor

Should we stop judging people?  Can we stop others from judging us? We all judge people. When we’re out running errands, at work, socializing with friends, hanging with family, we judge people. People would be frightened if they KNEW our worst thoughts about others. We are 24/7 judgy judgersons. You can’t stop it. You also can’t stop others from judging you. The best thing to do is to use other people’s judgements of you to your advantage. You see, there…
Dating Background Check – Should you do background checks before you go on a date?

Dating Background Check – Should you do background checks before you go on a date?

Is a dating background check necessary or not?  Today we will talk you about if you should be doing background checks or not in dating. The internet is responsible for many of our dating challenges today. We can blame online dating for the paradox of choice and for letting us hide behind the computer screen instead of interacting face to face. We complain about how complicated dating is today because the getting to know you process is no longer organic…

Happily Ever After – He kept showing up uninvited

Today will show you how one couple lived happily ever after despite a rough start. The curious case of the happily ever after couple who should’ve never been together. It was 1963 and Nancy went out on a blind date with Harry. Nancy was 5 feet tall and she liked shorter men with brown hair. She didn’t like dating tall guys because she felt so small in comparison. Harry showed up at her door and she immediately wanted to cancel.…
How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

If you want to learn how to talk to a guy online or someone you’re interested than keep reading. Do you ever feel like all you’re doing is having fake “conversations” with people on: online dating sites/apps social media text chat email We are doing more “communicating” now than ever before, yet are we really saying anything? We are connected to each other 24/7 and yet disconnected from each other on a level never before seen. Digital communication has made…

Dating and Social Media – The social media scandal haunting your love life

Do dating and social media conflict with each other?  Today we talk about how social media can significantly help or hurt your chances in meeting the right guy for you. Let’s be real…when you swipe online, if there is someone you’re interested in, do you try to creep on their social media accounts? Of course. Who wouldn’t? All that is talked about in the media today is who “liked”, “poked” or “unfollowed” who on social media. Have you ever had…

The red carpet was “normal” that’s why it failed.

This was the title of the Cosmo headlines today. Being “normal” means that you fall between the cracks. Normal=Unmemorable Normal=Predictable Normal=Average Normal=Mediocre Normal=What is expected So, what does this have to do with your love life? Most people fall into the category of being “normal” in their love life. They take the steps they are “supposed” to take. They do what everyone else does to try to find love…which is stay stuck in an on again off again cycle of…

First Date Conversation – A mind blowing, bed rattling reason to Satisfy your inner goddess

What is the best first date conversation to have? On a first date, if someone asked you to describe yourself in 5 words, what would they be? Usually, the most BORING, INSIGNIFICANT, and run of the mill words come to mind… …Nice …Kind …Loyal And BLAH BLAH BLAH. How can you expect to have chemistry with ANY guy when you describe yourself as a roommate? Most of the people that choose to come to work with us have ZERO idea…
Why Do Men Pull Away – 4 Reasons Why Men Act Hot and Cold

Why Do Men Pull Away – 4 Reasons Why Men Act Hot and Cold

One of the most common questions we get is “Why do men pull away?”   “Why do men leave and come back?” We were talking to someone the other day….. She had just been hit with something she thought would never happen. Katie felt like she was spinning. She had been dating Josh for two years now. Granted, things were on and off, but he was always her go to. He said he didn’t want a commitment and she was ok…
First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

Today we give you our best first date advice and tips.  Here is what to do if you want to stop having dysfunctional first dates. First dates can really suck.  People tell us all the time they HATE first dates. They are almost always…. Boring Awkward Predictable Stuffy Fake and unnatural And worst of all…….. A complete waste of time. And guess what? When you do have a great first date, the guy totally flakes and you never see him…
How to Find My Soulmate

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online?  Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive.  He is an ambitious professional.  He is family…

Why you SHOULDN’T have a date on Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is one of those events that leads people to lose their freaking minds. If you are single, it can cause you to rip yourself to shreds. It’s the fakebook comparison game. Where you compare yourself to your “HAPPY” friends.  Your “IN LOVE” friends. All the people you see on fakebook proudly taking selfies of their once in a lifetime relationship. When you see that it’s easy to compare someone else’s fakebook highlight reel of their life to your…

while you were sleeping…..

About 3 weeks ago we sent a message to a select group of you who had reached out to us asking for help. We made an offer for these women to join our program if they needed help getting a different result. Most people did not take action on this offer.  They hesitated.  They doubted. A few of you did jump in right away at this offer to join our program. While you were sleeping last night…we got this email…

4 Reasons why men ghost

Our client, Natalie (pseudonym) is a great catch. She is smart, attractive, driven, and successful at most things in life. When she wants something, she sets a goal, creates a plan, and makes it happen. She has great friends and family. People she can count on, laugh with, and cry with. Overall, her life is very, very full and she feels fulfilled much of the time. The one thing hasn’t seemed to work out for her is her love life.…

Online Dating Doesn’t Work

During Summer 2017, two AMAZING women reached out to us. They were both equally frustrated, disheartened, and even feeling a bit hopeless about when or if they would ever find the love of their life. They both told us the same thing, “Online dating doesn’t work.” Both of these women are professionals who are very successful in many other areas of their lives. When we really dug deep, we found out they had both been going through the on again,…

Should I just cut him off?

Holly in our facebook group – Modern Romance for Professional Women (www.modernromance.com) asked the following question….. Question: “What do you do when you are emailing back and forth with a guy on an online dating site and it feels like you have to pull teeth to get them to talk? The one-liner person? Sometimes, I think well is it just because we are on the site, but after about 15 e-mails I am pretty tired of thinking about something to…

50 Shades of Dating

Dating really has 50 shades. Dating can be sexy and alluring…drawing you in with the promise to deliver you the DREAM you have for your love life. Sometimes it’s dark and twisty. You don’t understand it. It’s overwhelming. It messes with your head. Sometimes you crave it. You need a human connection. You are afraid to be without it. Sometimes it pushes you past your comfort zone. It makes you feel things you have never felt before. It drives you…