Online Dating Advice

Is He Putting You Last?

If you put a man BEFORE you, you’ve taught him to put you LAST. Never Again! As an adult, you teach those around you how to treat you. If people aren’t stepping up and treating you the way you want you have several options: 1. Communicate what you want SPECIFICALLY 2. Communicate WHY you want this 3. Notice and appreciate when they’re getting closer to treating you the way you want 4. Communicate a boundary (ex “I won’t date a…

Dating narcissists, players and fixer uppers?

Many are making the mistake of putting SELECTION before ATTRACTION. To be effective in dating, Attraction comes BEFORE Selection. You must be a magnet to the kind of man you want (you’ll also attract a lot of men you don’t want in this phase which is okay). Once your ATTRACTION has men pursuing you it’s time for harsh SELECTION. Both are important but the order in which you do them is critical. If you are pushing men away, have your…

Stop Catfishing Immediately

If someone is happy to catfish you, be happy to leave the date in the first 5 minutes. If they look nothing like their photos or are way off in some other way stand up and say “you didn’t represent yourself accurately online so I’m leaving. I wish you the best of luck” Or if that’s TOO BOLD for you fake an emergency and get out. But we recommend you uplevel your boldness when it comes to dating. Rooting for…

Get Uncomfortable

Being comfortable is not the way to have the relationship you want. Comfort is one of the BIGGEST and most powerful forces that hold people back from an extraordinary relationship. It’s ALWAYS going to be through being uncomfortable that you find the right person and create a great relationship. It’s uncomfortable to look in the mirror and take responsibility (not fault) for where you are current at in your love life. Nobody likes doing that. It’s uncomfortable to look at…

Dating is a Means to an End, so let’s End It.

2018 was a great year for us. We are so grateful for the opportunity to have helped hundreds of women this year to build a lasting relationship with a man who is on their level, pursued them, and was ready for a commitment. The women on Team Arn had a few things in common when we started on this journey. On some level, they felt like the kind of man they wanted or relationship wasn’t really possible. They were stuck…

How to Trust Again to have the Relationship You Want

Today you’re going to learn how to trust again and WHY it’s important. Do people have to PROVE themselves to you before you show them who you are? Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, Both of us had trust issues for years. We didn’t let people in. We pushed people away before they could hurt us. We held back on saying what we felt and what was real. We created these hard outer shells to protect who we…

How to spend less time dating AND Meet your Man

If you are wasting a lot of time online dating, swiping, messaging and going on dates that don’t go anywhere today’s message is for you. When we talk with single women who want to find love, we notice a few patterns. 1. The first type of person hasn’t dated much, at least recently. It’s not that they’re meeting a lot of the wrong men, they aren’t meeting many men at all. 2. The second type of person has been dating…

This is the fastest way to meet him in 2019

FIND-ATTRACT-CONNECT-SELECT is the fastest way to meet him! There is no better way to find the right MAN for you right now. If you’re on TEAM ARN you are an action-taker. You’re not average. Don’t do what everyone else in the world does and sit back and wait. You can make this happen. Go watch our f.ree training on our unique 4 step process to stop dating unavailable and undesirable men immediately. Rooting for you, Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael…

I’ve tried everything in Dating!

If you feel like you’ve tried everything in dating today’s message is for you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael, This weekend we saw Santa with our son Mason. The pure joy on his face while talking with Santa was palpable. Last week Michael talked to a woman who was ADAMANT she had tried everything in dating. She wasn’t sure what we could do to help her since she had already tried “everything” to meet the right guy. She…

If a man is interested he will pursue you? Not so fast!

 Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael We hope you had a great holiday week. Our son Mason and our two dogs Bailey and Bearsly loved spending the whole week together playing, eating wildly good yet slightly bad for you foods and spending extended time with their grandparents. The other day we made a post on facebook that said this…. If a man is interested in you he’ll pursue you! Yes or No? A vast majority of women responded…
Courage over Fear

Courage over Fear

We tend to reflect on what we HAVEN’T done instead of embracing all of the AMAZING things we have done over the last year. Decide right now who you are going to be. Are you going to let the things that haven’t happened YET define you? OR Are you going to show more determination than ever to give the middle finger to everyone and everything that is getting in your way and get to your goal? You have willingly chosen…

If a Man is Interested in You he’ll Pursue You?

We just made a post on facebook…. If a man is interested in you he’ll pursue you! Yes or No? What do you think?  Is it true or not that a man will pursue you if he’s interested. We’ve stirred up a lot of discussion with this one. Go here to give your two cents. http://bit.ly/2P1AmbG

Busting Liars and Cheaters

This is how you find a man who is DESIRABLE and FAITHFUL. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael popping in…. The other day we caught our son in a BIG LIE. He was lying to us for days with the expertise of a CON MAN. He would sit calmly in his chair at the dinner table. Without any hint of deception… He would weave a lie so convincing it came as a complete shock when we found out NONE…

Our garden will help you stop dating the wrong men

You can stop dating unavailable and undesirable men by taking a trip to our garden Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael dropping by…. We’ve gotten into gardening the last two years. Before that NOT so much. Our friends knew us as black thumbs. If they needed a plant or flower killed they gave it to us 😊 It didn’t help that we lived in Los Angeles and had no outdoor space. Two years ago, we moved to our quaint little town…

The real reason amazing women are single

You don’t want to be dating forever. Heck you don’t want to be doing it for 3 more months do you? You want to IMMEDIATELY stop having to beautify yourself for dates. Having to psyche yourself up mentally and emotionally to meet a stranger after a long tiring day of work. Needing to rush across town, spend your hard-earned money on transportation and parking…… Only to meet your date and feel like RUNNING out of the place immediately in disgust…

Cast a Witches Spell on all Desirable Men

Learn how using a simple Halloween strategy can have a successful man wildly attracted to you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael coming your way before we scour our little wine country town for candy with our son Mason. Believe it or not he has TWO costumes.  We went to a local thrift store to try and find tennis rackets about a month ago and randomly found two AWESOME Halloween costumes for just $6 total. What a steal. So he’s going…
How to Text a Guy Between Dates

How to Text a Guy Between Dates

Know exactly what to text him before or in between dates to spark attraction. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael from TEAM ARN with a short but powerful message, One of our clients in our Meet the Man You Want Bootcamp asked about how she could text a man between dates. She connected with a guy who was working on the road for a few weeks and she wanted to know how to message him before they could get…
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn. We have a strong set of beliefs about the right way to stop dating UNAVAILABLE & UNDESIRABLE MEN and Find Lasting Love.   We call these the 10 Commandments to Meet the Man You Want and Create a Great Relationship for Successful Women   In this video we go over the first of these beliefs.   Here’s the First Commandment:   Find the Right Person to Love AND Learn to Love the…
Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle?

Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle?

Stuck in the Modern Woman’s Dating Cycle? It seems like the things that used to work in dating don’t work anymore for the modern professional woman. THE BOTTOM LINE? Even though there are more single men now than ever, and even though it’s easier to meet people due to the EXPLOSION of online dating……more amazing women are single than ever before. We’re Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn and we help professional women stop dating unavailable and undesirable men using…

3 BIG Mistakes in Dating

We are pumped to be here with you. Let’s make this week even better than the last. Last week we had our LIVE Meet Your Man OFFLINE Virtual Training. Congratulations to those early action takers who joined us. If there is ONE THING we reward on TEAM ARN, it’s taking action. Why? Because there is nothing more important to creating the love you want than taking consistent and courageous action each day. So, rest assured if you joined us for…

The #1 question to meet the man you want

Hey! It’s back to work after the long weekend. As you know, we adopted two dogs over the weekend so we were busy welcoming them to the family. So far, it’s been a pretty smooth transition. Our son Mason is loving that he has two siblings now. Ashley planted our fall garden over the weekend while the dogs ran around and played. Michael gave both of them a haircut and a bath. We also got to thinking about the conversations…
Are you TOO PICKY? (personal photo)

Are you TOO PICKY? (personal photo)

This woman was told she was too picky. Too much… Too this… Too that… Too everything…. None of it was true. She didn’t need to dim her light to meet the right person. In fact, quite the opposite. You will have people around you telling you to do or not do all sorts of things. Most of them mean well and want the best for you. Most of their advice is B.S. even though they mean well. You can do…

He usually isn’t who you think he’s going to be

It’s a strange but great time of year isn’t it. Summer is coming to an end. Families are traveling everywhere before school starts. You’re trying to get anything fun in you can before the fall weather hits. Yesterday, in our Attract the Man You Want Workshop (we get together and talk every Tuesday) we talked about WHO to date. Who you get to know and go out on dates with is CRITICAL. We usually mentally REJECT a majority of men…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

This is why you don’t feel excited for dates

We’re sitting down writing this to you from our kitchen. Our son Mason is in archaeology camp this week (it’s summer vacay after all) BUT he picked up a bug, so today he’s resting and sleeping it off at home. You know how much easier it is to cope with life’s challenges like having a sick kid when you have an AMAZING RELATIONSHIP. No drug, no wine (this is big for us to say this because we LOVE WINE), no…
Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Who’s Infiltrating Your Mind & Decisions?

Hey ACTION-TAKER, It is a glorious day here in wine country California. Tuesday nights here are FARMERS MARKET starting at 5:30pm. We had an amazing time last night picking up some veggies, sipping on some bubbly, listening to the local band and devouring tasting eats from the GREEN Grocer (a bomb food stand that uses fresh ingredients straight from the market). Despite all the fun we are having, we carved out a bit of time to talk with you about…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…
Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

Where are All the Good Men? – Why Can’t I Find or Connect with a Great Guy?

We get asked all the time “where are all the good men?”  Why can’t I meet and get into a relationship with a great guy? Every once in awhile you see a great guy online. When you message them, they don’t respond. You wait and hope that something will land in your inbox but the same cycle keeps happening. It’s not that you aren’t getting any action. Plenty of men are reaching out to you. It’s just not usually the…
Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

What are the critical deal breakers for dating?  What are the signs that he is not right for you and that you need to move on right now?  Deal Breakers for Dating Have you ever felt stuck in the middle with someone? You notice a few things about them that aren’t your favorite. You wonder if maybe these things about them might change. They seem to have some good qualities, but there are others that are just missing. Being…