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Online Dating Advice

while you were sleeping…..

About 3 weeks ago we sent a message to a select group of you who had reached out to us asking for help. We made an offer for these women to join our program if they needed help getting a different result. Most people did not take action on this offer.  They hesitated.  They doubted. A few of you did jump in right away at this offer to join our program. While you were sleeping last night…we got this email…

4 Reasons why men ghost

Our client, Natalie (pseudonym) is a great catch. She is smart, attractive, driven, and successful at most things in life. When she wants something, she sets a goal, creates a plan, and makes it happen. She has great friends and family. People she can count on, laugh with, and cry with. Overall, her life is very, very full and she feels fulfilled much of the time. The one thing hasn’t seemed to work out for her is her love life.…

Online Dating Doesn’t Work

During Summer 2017, two AMAZING women reached out to us. They were both equally frustrated, disheartened, and even feeling a bit hopeless about when or if they would ever find the love of their life. They both told us the same thing, “Online dating doesn’t work.” Both of these women are professionals who are very successful in many other areas of their lives. When we really dug deep, we found out they had both been going through the on again,…

Should I just cut him off?

Holly in our facebook group – Modern Romance for Professional Women (www.modernromance.com) asked the following question….. Question: “What do you do when you are emailing back and forth with a guy on an online dating site and it feels like you have to pull teeth to get them to talk? The one-liner person? Sometimes, I think well is it just because we are on the site, but after about 15 e-mails I am pretty tired of thinking about something to…

50 Shades of Dating

Dating really has 50 shades. Dating can be sexy and alluring…drawing you in with the promise to deliver you the DREAM you have for your love life. Sometimes it’s dark and twisty. You don’t understand it. It’s overwhelming. It messes with your head. Sometimes you crave it. You need a human connection. You are afraid to be without it. Sometimes it pushes you past your comfort zone. It makes you feel things you have never felt before. It drives you…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…
Online Dating Shocker

Online Dating Shocker

It seems like every day there is some hot new trend or fad. Have you ever BELIEVED without a shadow of a doubt that one of these “hot” trends was BAD for people? We have. We thought Atkins diet was for sure going to clog people’s arteries and lead to a whole host of problems. Now they say fat is good for you and it’s the primary focus of popular diets like keto. Who knew?! At the time, we thought…

The Old Fashioned Way

Our client, Leslie (pseudonym) wanted to meet someone the old fashioned way. When she first called us, she was 46 years old and had pretty much been single her entire life. She chose to reach out to us for help because she recently had a medical condition that required surgery. She found herself alone, unable to take care of her basic needs, and having to call upon family to help her post surgery. As her family members rallied around her,…

“How can I be what he wants?”

A single, beautiful, successful woman asked us “How can I be what he wants?” and here was our answer… You could easily follow the random tips and strategies out there to turn yourself into what the media says that a man wants.….. Lose weight Try more night cream Become a siren (what does that mean?) Change your hair Change your face Don’t talk about what you want when you meet a man Buy a push up bra Don’t call a…

“I rejected the WRONG guy!”

“I rejected the WRONG guy!” Yesterday we were on a live call with our awesome, kick a$$, women’s group. One of our clients was excited to share a win. Every week, sharing wins is an important part of this call. Think about it for a second…. What place do you have in your life where you can brag and give yourself props for the actions you are taking in any area of your life? For most of us, we don’t…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…
Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

The best dating advice we can give you is to have a plan. Most people don’t have a plan when it comes to their love life. We act weird in our love lives. We don’t plan anything. We don’t want to plan how to meet the right person. We don’t believe we need a plan. People have probably told you for years that “It’ll happen when it’s right.” But in what other area of our life do we use this…
How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

Today you are going to learn how to attract men who are compatible with YOU. Do you feel like no matter what you do you aren’t attracting or dating men who are up to your standards? Compatibility is important to the success and fulfilment of a relationship. If you are consistently ending up dating people who are off from what you are looking for something needs to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re way off physically, intellectually, personality wise or…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Every day, we see successful, intelligent, amazing professional women go home ALONE at night.   During the day they mostly feel fine as they work through the hustle and bustle of their jobs.   But, the nights and weekends are the WORST.   They schedule themselves to the point of exhaustion to avoid thinking about how, when, or if they will ever have what they really want…a partner to share life with.   They wake up at 3 a.m FREAKING…

Is Online Dating a Problem?

Over the last few years, we’ve taught a small group of AMAZING women how to find and attract their ideal partner online. Once they knew… **WHERE to find him. **HOW TO authentically present themselves. **and WHAT to communicate to transition to a REAL date while screening out the catfishers. They were able to TAKE CONTROL of their dating life instead of feeling like it may never happen for them. For most people, online dating is a black hole of time…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

How one woman found love online with a guy she previously would’ve rejected.

We are so happy for one of our clients.  She took responsibility for her results in love.  She reached out to work with us. She committed to doing things differently.  She put in the hard work. She made some significant changes in a very short amount of time. She has fallen in love with an amazing guy who is perfect for HER. Here is the message she just sent to us….. BRAVO! We couldn’t be happier for you and you…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…
How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

Megan was 34. She had a graduate degree and a great career. She was attractive, fit and smart. She had a full life. Yet she kept dating the wrong men. Sure, men were pursuing her, but all these guys were way off from what she was looking for…. OR She was into a guy, only to have him leave her after things seemed to be going great. She was stuck in a repeating cycle of wrong guy after wrong guy.…
4 Online Dating Tips for Women

4 Online Dating Tips for Women

In the latest Date to Soul Mate Show we talk about 4 steps to successfully find the right person online. Online dating can be a complete time and energy wasting rabbit hole. We also have many clients who find love online after years of dating the wrong people. If you focus on these 4 steps you put yourself in a much better position to find the right person for you online. APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT…
Have Him Pursue You

Have Him Pursue You

Let’s get together sometime! Let’s meet up soon. We’ll figure it out. I’ll hit you up sometime. One of the worst things in dating is when a person is SOMETIMING you. When they’re SOONING you. Even worse is when they expect you to do ALL the work. Let me know when you’re free! Let me know when you want to get together again. If you want to be the person in charge of making all the plans and giving all…

SAY THIS, NOT THAT in Dating & Relationships….

There is the end of the conversation when you want someone to take your phone number and call or text you. What do we normally do? Usually we say nothing and miss out on ever talking to that person again. or we say “here’s my number give me a call” or “give me your number” Next time SAY THIS: “I have to go, it was great talking to you.” followed by…… 1. You seem fun! Feel free to shoot me…
Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Discover why men pull away after getting close.  Why do men disappear after things seemed to be going well?  We’ll answer these questions for you once and for all. It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on…
Why don’t MEN change?

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…