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She’s getting married in November

She’s getting married in November

It’s celebration time. Our client Angela is getting married in November to a MAN that she’s been dreaming of for a long time. For many years it seemed like he might just be that. A dream. A dream that never turns into reality. For a long time, Angela felt successful in other areas of her life, but kept dating guys who wouldn’t open up to her, didn’t feel right or wouldn’t commit. She couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t having…

The 1 rule to have in dating…

We don’t believe in “rules” when it comes to dating and love. Even that “rule” we believe in breaking from time to time. If you are dating it’s important to set one rule for yourself….. NEVER GIVE ANYONE MONEY THAT YOU’RE DATING! Don’t do it. Not for any reason. Not for any “story” they have. There are criminal networks out there obsessing over ways to prey on someone feeling lonely and extracting as much money from you as they can.…
Are you making choices from your feelings or your system?

Are you making choices from your feelings or your system?

If you want to break out of dating the wrong guys over and over again you need a system. If you want to stop searching endless profiles online of guys you don’t like you need a system. To do anything great long term you need a system. Whether it’s your health, physical fitness, your career or having great relationships with others you need a system for long term success. Most of people don’t have a system when it comes to dating.…
she was scared to get new photos

she was scared to get new photos

One of our clients just got new photos done for online dating. and it will make a huge difference in WHO she is attracting online. We are so excited for her, because we know the difference it WILL make. She had fears around getting new photos. Most of us do. We feel vulnerable and out of our comfort zone getting photos done. We make all kinds of excuses why we don’t get photos. “guys should like me just for me”…
Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

He’s soooo nice, BUT I’m not into him! He’s a great guy, BUT I don’t feel any chemistry! He wants to be with me, BUT I’m not attracted to him! Many of the clients we work with come to us initially having zero chemistry with the men their “SUPPOSED” to like and having a lot of chemistry with emotionally unavailable men. Their frustrated that they aren’t attracted to these NICE and GOOD guys. The questions is… Do you really need…
Music, wine and your packaging

Music, wine and your packaging

Last Friday and Saturday we went to a local concert here in Sonoma, CA called Huichica. The whole shindig is held at a cool winery called Gundlach Bunschu or Gunbun as the locals like to call it. So it was a weekend full of music, wine and great food. It was also a great place to do some people watching… As you know, we are psychologists so we love people watching. One of the most interesting parts of people watching…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You just don’t know which green light signal it will be! That’s right. One green light signal or one conversation with the RIGHT PERSON at the RIGHT TIME will change the course of your life. The problem is we don’t connect with each other anymore. We are more unapproachable than ever. We are stuck in our phones, stuck in our mental to do list, and running from one activity to another. We also have our walls up because we’ve been hurt…
Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

There is a special kind of boiling frustration that engulfs you when a guy you met online continues to want to be message pals or text buddies. The dreaded never ending messages. He messages you over and over again. or He halfheartedly messages you every once in awhile. All without ever asking you out on a REAL DATE. The growing resentment inside of you explodes when he send you another “what’s up” message. The worst part of it is you…
What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

We LOVE San Francisco. We love going there for weekend romantic getaways. In fact, our FAVORITE Italian restaurant in the whole world is there, Franchino’s. It’s the kind of restaurant where it feels like your mother is doing the cooking, only its a version of your mother that is an even better cook. (sshhhh don’t tell our mothers we said that) It’s run by an Italian family. The father is the host and runs the front end of the restaurant…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Here is our Bumble Dating Review and our tips and secrets to use Bumble successfully. Have you used the dating app Bumble? Bumble is one of the hottest and most popular dating apps out there right now. Many women are jumping on the app.  In fact it is one of the most successful dating apps for our clients.  Many of our clients have met the man they want on bumble. It’s similar to Tinder in that both you and a…
Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Anytime you are doing something difficult or big you will come up against resistance. Resistance from yourself. Resistance from family and friends. Resistance from strangers who will criticize you. Resistance from all the different challenges life throws at you. And finding lasting love with the right person IS BIG. It’s one of the most impactful elements of your life. Yes, anyone can fall into a relationship with someone. But to find love and create an amazing long term bond is…
Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Don’t be Catfished in Online Dating

Can you imagine talking to who you think is an attractive CFO named Derek but is instead a slobbering pervert and sex addict who lives in his mama’s basement? You know what we’re talking about. The ultimate catfish. It’s dating the biggest liar of them all. We’ve all heard the catfish horror stories. There are many people who tell lies in their dating life. These lies range from the white variety to the I’m nothing like who I said I…
Attractive Complementary Qualities

Attractive Complementary Qualities

On Today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn talk about How you can be your most attractive self using Attractive Complementary Qualities. Attractive Complementary Qualities – The Date to Soul Mate Show APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT PERSONALIZED BLUEPRINT! FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If…
The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

  I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down I get knocked down, but I get up again You are never gonna keep me down He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink He drinks a Lager drink,…
THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

THE DISEASE OF MORE THINKING

Picture this: your mind is racing wondering what to say or do about the current guy you’re dating. He’s not texting you back. He’s not asking you out again. He’s acting hot and cold. You think of all these scenarios about WHY he is acting this way. and What you can do about it. You talk to your friends about it. You read blogs. Maybe you even follow the so called “rules” of dating to try to MAKE him pursue you.…
Do men care about your career?

Do men care about your career?

“I can’t attract successful guys because I’m not in a good place in my career or financially.  I don’t own a house” Michael was on the phone with a potential new client for free Single to Soul Mates Session.   He asked her what was getting in the way of her finding love. She told him that she was attracted to successful and ambitious guys, but that she wasn’t attractive to them. She said that she was “renting” and that she…
What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show, we talk about what people’s real intentions are in online dating. What are they looking for when they’re swiping right? Are you wasting your time even looking for love online? Why you need a strategy to combat WHAT people are looking for on dating apps and sites. How online sites are like Wine Tasting events! What? Yes we get into it all. Go watch the show here: What People are REALLY looking for in…

People use Tinder for “confidence boosting procrastination”

44% of people using Tinder use the app for “confidence boosting procrastination”. Whoa… Read that again. A large percentage of people on Tinder aren’t looking for love. They aren’t even looking to hook up. They are doing “confidence boosting procrastination.” What does that mean? It is the act of avoiding the real stuff in life while doing something that makes you feel good about yourself. Procrastinating on the important stuff in life while boosting your ego with strangers liking how…

She thinks we are wrong….Uuuh Ohhhh

Tanya disagrees with us that soul mates are created. Here is what she said “I’m sorry to say!  I disagree with your point of view on soulmates. you don’t create a soulmate. if that were true then we could pick anyone and make them into your soulmate.  your soulmate is the one who when you meet them you know I mean you really know its them. the love from your heart never goes away and neither does the pain when…
He has to have…..

He has to have…..

“He has to be tall, have dark eyes and dark hair.  It’s a must! It’s what I’m attracted to, I can’t help it and I’m not settling!” Hello fellow adventurers in love, A potential client of ours told us the words above.  She HAD to be with a guy who was tall, had dark eyes and dark hair. She said she wouldn’t compromise or settle on these qualities.  She wasn’t going to settle for less than an amazing relationship. She…
8 Online Dating Tips for Women – Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work for Some People

8 Online Dating Tips for Women – Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work for Some People

Today we going to teach you our best Online Dating Tips for Women! Does online dating work? Yes it does, but not for everyone. Online Dating Sucks… It Doesn’t Work! All I see are deadbeats online… We hear this all the time. Online dating is one of the most polarizing things in the world. Many people hate online dating as much as they hate going to the dentist. Other people LOVE IT. SWEAR by it. As you know, we were…
The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

It’s been a sick few days over here at the Dr. Arn household.  Mason and Michael are still feeling the sick wrath. Meanwhile, Ashley has been able to escape the sick monster so far. (Although she’s had to put up with two sick men which might be worse than ACTUALLY being sick)…… We read an interesting article yesterday…. It was about the rise of VEGAN Dating Sites.  Yes, Vegans are being matched on their own dating sites. Click here to…

The crazy chemistry dating pattern

How is your week going? We’ve been killing it despite Michael and Mason both being sickos this week.  We’ve been doing some amazing work with our students in our Live Workshop and in Single to Soul Mates University. The insights and transformations we’ve been seeing are inspirational. When you work with thousands of clients you observe certain patterns. Some are success patterns… Others are what we call forever single dating patterns… Many of the clients we work with come to…