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#1 Way to have BAD dates

We are having a monsoon here in Northern California.  Flooding and constant rain. We love the rain.  Maybe it’s because we don’t see that much of it here in California…. Let’s get right to the point today. Most of the time, your dates suck. The guys seems WAY OFF from what you are looking for… He shows up late…. He flakes last minute or doesn’t show up at all… He’s a douche…. He doesn’t look anything like his online photos……

Wasting your time online dating?

Are you spending lots of time and energy dating the wrong guys from an online dating site? Maybe you aren’t dating ANY guys. You’re wasting your time sifting through endless profiles and not going out on actual dates. Today we are going to give one of you our feedback on your online profile. She sent us her plentyoffish.com profile to review. We’ve looked at thousands of online dating profiles, so we really know what WORKS and what doesn’t work. Little…

Albert Einstein’s secret to finding love

Most of us have our own idea of what INSANITY is. Maybe it’s the homeless guy preaching to pigeons on the street. Maybe it’s people who jump out of planes “for FUN.” Or maybe it’s just running a marathon. Whatever your view of insanity is…it does have a definition. Insanity has been defined as “doing the SAME THING over and over again AND expecting different results.” A pretty smart guy said that: Albert Einstein. By his definition insanity would be…
Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

No more bad dates, Confusion, Worry or Heartache. You can Find, Attract and Deeply Connect with the Right Relationship Ready Man for You so he’ll Do Almost Anything to Commit to YOU. Stephanie is intelligent, kind and good person. She worked really hard to build a bustling career for herself. She has great friends and a fun social life. She is happy with who she is and her life. She is definitely not perfect, but no one is. She still…
You can be a special snowflake

You can be a special snowflake

Dr. Sad McSaderson is THE WORLDS FOREMOST EXPERT IN UNHAPPINESS. He has studied how to be unhappy for decades and is a renowned teacher in the art of unhappiness. If you want to be exceedingly unhappy look no further than the exquisite teachings of Dr. Mcsaderson! If you would rather become an Un-unhappiness expert, you may want to just notice if you’re using any of these strategies and how they are impacting your life. The special snowflake: In today’s lesson you…
Our holiday gift to you!

Our holiday gift to you!

The very first step to finding the love of your life is checking where your stories are at. Most women make the mistake of trying 5 million different things to find that one “magic trick” that is going to help them find love. They read books and blogs. They try dating sites for short bursts of time. They get discouraged with online dating and feel burned out. They take a hiatus from dating and tell themselves they just need to…

Naked Cowboy teaches us some Skillz

You can learn a lesson from almost anyone right? A few months ago, we were in Manhattan for several weeks. We were there as a family. We took our son to see School of Rock which he loved. His first time on broadway was a hit for sure. We walked all over central park and ate our way through New York. We also saw the Naked Cowboy. He is a famous street performer in Times Square. He isn’t really naked.…

Broken promises….

Broken promises will be the death of your self esteem and your future relationship. You are part of this group because you are 100% certain that you need to figure out how to find love and you haven’t been able to do it on your own. You know that you want it and deserve it. So, why are you stuck in the broken promises cycle? You make a promise to yourself that finding love is going to me your number…
Where are you stuck?

Where are you stuck?

Many of the clients we work with in our live workshop are stuck in meeting the wrong guys. They are DOING all sorts of things to meet men. They are online dating. Meeting men offline. Speed dating. Hiking dating. Some of you are not meeting ANY MEN. You feel stuck in knowing where to meet men. The bad news is that this won’t change UNLESS you DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. The saddest part is to see an amazing woman like you…

What if a guy has a creep finger?

Happy Sunday, Today one of you beauts has found yourself in an “interesting” situation. Here is the question…. “should i ignore my feelings? I just met a man who seemed really nice, good looking and we were hitting it off. I was interested in meeting him again just for a lunch date, and we were shaking hands and saying our goodbyes…when he rubbed his finger against my palm. To me that is such a sleazebag thing to do and i…
Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Relationships REALLY SUCK sometimes. You put yourself out there.  You make the effort.  You persist. You meet guys offline.  You meet guys online. You go out on dates. You meet guys.  You flirt. You get your hair done. You dress up and look your best. You put yourself in a great emotional state.  You make interesting conversation. You really get to know these guys. The guys you’re attracted to aren’t relationship ready or don’t pay attention to you. The guys you…

Does Santa Clause have Commitment Issues?

Over the weekend we saw Santa Clause in our little hometown of Sonoma, CA. Our son Mason has been anticipating the big red’s arrival for weeks.   You could see the excitement written all over his face. Mason talked endlessly about what he was going to tell Santa he wanted for Christmas.  This was a big part of seeing Santa for him. Santa had to know he wanted transformers, power rangers and trucks. He also told us he was going…
Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power. These are three of the most powerful MOTIVATORS behind all the actions people take. Think about it. Most of the things you want in this life have to do with one of the above. Fear. You are afraid that you will never find the love you want and deserve. You are AFRAID you’ll be single and lonely forever. You are afraid that you are unwanted and unloveable. You are afraid of failure. You are afraid of success. Freedom. You want…
Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…

What’s Your Winning System?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! Are you still recovering from the big ole election. Wow things are crazy right now right? No matter who you voted for, it feels like things are chaotic. It feels like a lot is out of your control. We are here to bring you some good news. It’s different than the gloom and doom in your news or tee-vee’s. There is a lot that is in your control. No you can’t control what President Trump does! You…

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make with The Right Guys

Every day we talk to women who are making some simple mistakes with the right guys. It sucks because these women are incredible! Smart, successful, kind, and good people! But, they are doing a couple of small things that are driving away the kind of men they would really like to share their lives with. After one or two dates, they aren’t hearing from the men that they wish would call again and give them another chance. We had the…
What if you DON’T do something?

What if you DON’T do something?

We want you to take a quick second to take a little journey with us… Let’s imagine for a second your life is going to stay the SAME. You’ll make the SAME amount of money. You’ll have the SAME relationships. Most of all, you’ll have the SAME PROBLEMS in love. You’ll STILL be single or miserable in a dead end relationship. You’ll STILL be going out on dates with narcissists, fixer-uppers and commitment phobes. You’ll STILL be meeting man-childs who…
A little Thank You…..

A little Thank You…..

We are so happy that you are part of our community!  We wanted to connect with you and provide you with an EXTRA level of support. First of all, thank you for believing in a unicorn!  Many of you haven’t seen or experienced a love life full of passion, fulfillment, and joy. We know that it can be hard to hold on to hope that it exists. BUT, you are certainly doing it because you are here taking this journey…
Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

If you are reading this, we already know that you are an overachiever! Tricked you. Seriously though. Dating is tougher for people who are ambitious, driven, and tend to over achieve. You always earned good grades, you have never missed a deadline, and every time you “apply” yourself, you have gotten the result you wanted. Of course, that only applies to every other area of your life except your love life, only THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life. Most…
How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

Whitney is one of our students and she has absolutely nailed it! She is a dedicated single mom and found herself disheartened by the men she was meeting and the way they were treating her. We were so lucky to interview Whitney on what has worked for her because now she is in an amazing relationship with a man who is an incredible fit for her. She shared the specific tips that she learned from us to find love so…
Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

We have a special Date to Soul Mate Show Episode for you. We did a facebook live call in show. That’s right… We gave people advice right on the spot. We will continue to do this so make sure you’ve joined our free facebook group to watch the next show and even call in if you would like. https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineandlove/ If you want to have your last first date and jump on a free Single to Soul Mates call with us…
A Love Letter

A Love Letter

Your heart is good. You dream big. You try hard. You love selflessly. You care deeply. You do it all for everyone else. You think about their needs. You show up when they need you, no matter what your needs are at that moment. You come home alone. You want someone to lay next to at night. You want someone to console you after a rough day. Sometimes you cry. Does anyone even notice? Does anyone think about what you…
Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Today in our newest Date to Soul Mate Show we interview one of the foremost experts in the world on photos, especially online photos so buckle up and get ready. What are the best online photos to use on your dating profile? Should you get professional photos? How do you look your best in photos? We get to the bottom of these questions and many more. In the show we interview Claire Bahn, President of Online Profile Pros, formerly Dating…
Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Hey Date to Soul Mate Nation, We hope you are doing well.  We know it can be very frustrating out there in dating land. That’s why we are so passionate about helping ALL of you create real connections out there. That’s why we put out so much free content and advice.  We want to see you succeed. We were just recently interviewed on the Maggie Linton Show. We touched on several important topics including attracting the right person and where…
Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Why can’t I meet someone? Is this a thought you’ve had? Does it seem like meeting the right person is nearly impossible? Or when you do, it never works out? Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many, many women are in the same boat you are. They are driven and successful in so many areas of their life except one: Finding the one. Ravid Yosef is a cancer survivor and successful businesswoman.  She is putting together a FREE summit called the Love Success Summit to finally ask…
The NY fire department broke us out

The NY fire department broke us out

Our family has been staying in Manhattan, NY for the past 10 days or so. It has been a great time. We took our son Mason to see The School of Rock which he thought was hilarious. The pure joy in watching him watch the show was palpable. One night we got a babysitter and went out with some friends of ours for dinner and drinks. We went to this steak restaurant that had been open for 150 years. We…
Make Your Skeletons Dance

Make Your Skeletons Dance

  We all have skeletons in our closet. No matter how much badassity swag you have, you still have some sort of perceived baggage. Do you feel like there is something about our past that potential matches judge you for?  Is there something about you or your past that YOU judge yourself for? The question is not IF you have baggage, but how do you manage your skeletons while dating? It is really tough to know how to talk about…
Are you being scammed in Dating?

Are you being scammed in Dating?

You all know that there are a grip of scammers, sex addicts and digital douches out there in dating land.   In case you don’t know, digital douches are men who would otherwise be nice upstanding gentlemen, but because we communicate now digitally or through online, text or email primarily they are major douchebags. They’re inner douchey demons are let out and run rampant in a digital world. They text, email and hit you up online in rude, overly sexual…
How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

Would you like to know how to show up on a first date looking your best? Feeling confident in how you look? Feeling confident in how you express yourself? Great! We thought so.  You are in luck, because we have a special guest on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show.  She has specialized superpowers in helping people look their best AND feel confident in themselves while dating. Dr. Ashley talks with Kimberly Seltzer who is a therapist and Dating Makeover…
Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Yo Yo Yo, Happy end of the week. We are excited for the weekend. We are going to a microbrew fest in Catalina Island on Saturday. This means sipping the lagers in our sandals on the beach. We are talking about two important topics on today’s shizzle. Our lovely Wine and Love with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael members have been curious lately….. First, we are answering one of your questions about paying for dates. Specifically, how long should a…