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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Online Dating Advice

don’t look for love online if……

aaahhhh… the age old question (at least since 1995). Should you look for love online or on an app? Many of you HATE the current incarnation of dating. You LOATHE online dating. You wish you could serendipitously spill your coffee on your Mr. Right at Starbucks and have him pursue a relationship with you. Many of you LOVE online dating. You think it’s the best thing since Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall.(oh such a good yet cheesy movie).…
Keep it Simple to Succeed

Keep it Simple to Succeed

We had a great President’s Day weekend here in Sonoma.  The weather was beautiful here Saturday, so we went to two wineries. We went as  a family (we brought our son Mason).  Many of the wineries here are family friendly and are fascinating to a 4 year old. One of the wineries, Jacuzzi, also has olive oil and vinegar tasting.  We ended up buying Chocolate Balsamic Vinegar.  Yum it’s so good. We wanted to have a relaxing yet pleasurable weekend.…
How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

When you are stuck in the forever single cycle, one of the biggest shifts you can make is to start COMMANDING ATTENTION FROM HIGH CALIBER MEN. Most women ARE NOT commanding attention from the right guys. You might find yourself either not commanding any attention from guys….. or Commanding attention from THE WRONG GUYS. Both feel bad right? If you want to meet the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want to…
A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

We know a secret that Batwoman used to meet, attract and fall in love with Batman. You see, for years she was single and dating THE WRONG GUYS. She read books, articles and talked to her friends for YEARS about what she could do differently to find the right guy for her once and for all. None of it worked. No matter what she did she ended up frustrated, hurt and SINGLE. This messed with her self-esteem.  She felt bad…

Valentine’s Day Sucks.

It is the most hated “holiday” for people who are single and for a great reason. If you are like most people who are single this time of year, you find yourself reflecting on what has happened and why you are single on this day. You are probably blaming yourself, telling yourself you have done something wrong and you might even be thinking that you aren’t worthy of having the kind of love you see all around you. Here’s the…
Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

How is your week going? How are your New Years resolutions going? For most people, they are starting to give up on their goals for 2017 already. They are almost ready to throw in the towel and “try again” next year. We don’t want that for you when it comes to finding lasting love. We want you to find love THIS YEAR. Yesterday we did a LIVE Date to Soul Mate Show in our free facebook group… Mastering Dating &…

How Ann found love in 5 weeks

We just interviewed one of our students named Ann who found love with an amazing guy in just 5 weeks in our Single to Soul Mates Live Workshop. It almost sounds too good to be true…. Except it actually happened. Before working with us, Ann was dating A LOT. She was going out on lots of dates. Trying to meet guys on Plenty of fish and eHarmony as well as offline. She told us she wasn’t meeting any guys who…

3 Ways be Yourself when you like a Guy

Howdy yall, Yesterday in our Live Workshop group coaching call we talked about how to be your best authentic self when you like a guy. See, many of our clients have struggled with attracting the guys they’re not into like bee’s to honey and were unknowingly pushing away guys they liked. They saw the results. The guys they were neutral about or ACTIVELY DISLIKED were sending them flowers and tripping over themselves to see them. The guys they liked –…
The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Hello, It’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael.  We are feeling extra frisky, it must be the bipolar weather here in Sonoma. Or it could be…. Last night we went to a Kindergarten presentation for our son Mason. He’s going to start school in the fall and we found out about the 5 elementary schools in town. This is mucho exciting and terrifying for some reason. We decided to bang out some free training for you. We have a new Date to…
Are you dating other people?

Are you dating other people?

  Are you Dating other People? – The Date to Soul Mate Show Hey there, We are enjoying the beautiful weather here in Sonoma, CA.  We also have great wine here toooooooo..    Yay! We’ve been going for long walks and have a fitbit competition with some friends of ours. Helps to offset the wine calories too. Today we have a question from a student…. So let’s get right into shall we! “If a man asks you out and you…

#1 Way to have BAD dates

We are having a monsoon here in Northern California.  Flooding and constant rain. We love the rain.  Maybe it’s because we don’t see that much of it here in California…. Let’s get right to the point today. Most of the time, your dates suck. The guys seems WAY OFF from what you are looking for… He shows up late…. He flakes last minute or doesn’t show up at all… He’s a douche…. He doesn’t look anything like his online photos……

Wasting your time online dating?

Are you spending lots of time and energy dating the wrong guys from an online dating site? Maybe you aren’t dating ANY guys. You’re wasting your time sifting through endless profiles and not going out on actual dates. Today we are going to give one of you our feedback on your online profile. She sent us her plentyoffish.com profile to review. We’ve looked at thousands of online dating profiles, so we really know what WORKS and what doesn’t work. Little…

Albert Einstein’s secret to finding love

Most of us have our own idea of what INSANITY is. Maybe it’s the homeless guy preaching to pigeons on the street. Maybe it’s people who jump out of planes “for FUN.” Or maybe it’s just running a marathon. Whatever your view of insanity is…it does have a definition. Insanity has been defined as “doing the SAME THING over and over again AND expecting different results.” A pretty smart guy said that: Albert Einstein. By his definition insanity would be…
Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

No more bad dates, Confusion, Worry or Heartache. You can Find, Attract and Deeply Connect with the Right Relationship Ready Man for You so he’ll Do Almost Anything to Commit to YOU. Stephanie is intelligent, kind and good person. She worked really hard to build a bustling career for herself. She has great friends and a fun social life. She is happy with who she is and her life. She is definitely not perfect, but no one is. She still…
You can be a special snowflake

You can be a special snowflake

Dr. Sad McSaderson is THE WORLDS FOREMOST EXPERT IN UNHAPPINESS. He has studied how to be unhappy for decades and is a renowned teacher in the art of unhappiness. If you want to be exceedingly unhappy look no further than the exquisite teachings of Dr. Mcsaderson! If you would rather become an Un-unhappiness expert, you may want to just notice if you’re using any of these strategies and how they are impacting your life. The special snowflake: In today’s lesson you…
Our holiday gift to you!

Our holiday gift to you!

The very first step to finding the love of your life is checking where your stories are at. Most women make the mistake of trying 5 million different things to find that one “magic trick” that is going to help them find love. They read books and blogs. They try dating sites for short bursts of time. They get discouraged with online dating and feel burned out. They take a hiatus from dating and tell themselves they just need to…

Naked Cowboy teaches us some Skillz

You can learn a lesson from almost anyone right? A few months ago, we were in Manhattan for several weeks. We were there as a family. We took our son to see School of Rock which he loved. His first time on broadway was a hit for sure. We walked all over central park and ate our way through New York. We also saw the Naked Cowboy. He is a famous street performer in Times Square. He isn’t really naked.…

Broken promises….

Broken promises will be the death of your self esteem and your future relationship. You are part of this group because you are 100% certain that you need to figure out how to find love and you haven’t been able to do it on your own. You know that you want it and deserve it. So, why are you stuck in the broken promises cycle? You make a promise to yourself that finding love is going to me your number…
Where are you stuck?

Where are you stuck?

Many of the clients we work with in our live workshop are stuck in meeting the wrong guys. They are DOING all sorts of things to meet men. They are online dating. Meeting men offline. Speed dating. Hiking dating. Some of you are not meeting ANY MEN. You feel stuck in knowing where to meet men. The bad news is that this won’t change UNLESS you DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. The saddest part is to see an amazing woman like you…

What if a guy has a creep finger?

Happy Sunday, Today one of you beauts has found yourself in an “interesting” situation. Here is the question…. “should i ignore my feelings? I just met a man who seemed really nice, good looking and we were hitting it off. I was interested in meeting him again just for a lunch date, and we were shaking hands and saying our goodbyes…when he rubbed his finger against my palm. To me that is such a sleazebag thing to do and i…
Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Relationships REALLY SUCK sometimes. You put yourself out there.  You make the effort.  You persist. You meet guys offline.  You meet guys online. You go out on dates. You meet guys.  You flirt. You get your hair done. You dress up and look your best. You put yourself in a great emotional state.  You make interesting conversation. You really get to know these guys. The guys you’re attracted to aren’t relationship ready or don’t pay attention to you. The guys you…

Does Santa Clause have Commitment Issues?

Over the weekend we saw Santa Clause in our little hometown of Sonoma, CA. Our son Mason has been anticipating the big red’s arrival for weeks.   You could see the excitement written all over his face. Mason talked endlessly about what he was going to tell Santa he wanted for Christmas.  This was a big part of seeing Santa for him. Santa had to know he wanted transformers, power rangers and trucks. He also told us he was going…
Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power. These are three of the most powerful MOTIVATORS behind all the actions people take. Think about it. Most of the things you want in this life have to do with one of the above. Fear. You are afraid that you will never find the love you want and deserve. You are AFRAID you’ll be single and lonely forever. You are afraid that you are unwanted and unloveable. You are afraid of failure. You are afraid of success. Freedom. You want…
Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…

What’s Your Winning System?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! Are you still recovering from the big ole election. Wow things are crazy right now right? No matter who you voted for, it feels like things are chaotic. It feels like a lot is out of your control. We are here to bring you some good news. It’s different than the gloom and doom in your news or tee-vee’s. There is a lot that is in your control. No you can’t control what President Trump does! You…

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make with The Right Guys

Every day we talk to women who are making some simple mistakes with the right guys. It sucks because these women are incredible! Smart, successful, kind, and good people! But, they are doing a couple of small things that are driving away the kind of men they would really like to share their lives with. After one or two dates, they aren’t hearing from the men that they wish would call again and give them another chance. We had the…
What if you DON’T do something?

What if you DON’T do something?

We want you to take a quick second to take a little journey with us… Let’s imagine for a second your life is going to stay the SAME. You’ll make the SAME amount of money. You’ll have the SAME relationships. Most of all, you’ll have the SAME PROBLEMS in love. You’ll STILL be single or miserable in a dead end relationship. You’ll STILL be going out on dates with narcissists, fixer-uppers and commitment phobes. You’ll STILL be meeting man-childs who…
A little Thank You…..

A little Thank You…..

We are so happy that you are part of our community!  We wanted to connect with you and provide you with an EXTRA level of support. First of all, thank you for believing in a unicorn!  Many of you haven’t seen or experienced a love life full of passion, fulfillment, and joy. We know that it can be hard to hold on to hope that it exists. BUT, you are certainly doing it because you are here taking this journey…
Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

If you are reading this, we already know that you are an overachiever! Tricked you. Seriously though. Dating is tougher for people who are ambitious, driven, and tend to over achieve. You always earned good grades, you have never missed a deadline, and every time you “apply” yourself, you have gotten the result you wanted. Of course, that only applies to every other area of your life except your love life, only THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life. Most…
How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

Whitney is one of our students and she has absolutely nailed it! She is a dedicated single mom and found herself disheartened by the men she was meeting and the way they were treating her. We were so lucky to interview Whitney on what has worked for her because now she is in an amazing relationship with a man who is an incredible fit for her. She shared the specific tips that she learned from us to find love so…