Online Dating Advice

Do men care about your career?

Do men care about your career?

“I can’t attract successful guys because I’m not in a good place in my career or financially.  I don’t own a house” Michael was on the phone with a potential new client for free Single to Soul Mates Session.   He asked her what was getting in the way of her finding love. She told him that she was attracted to successful and ambitious guys, but that she wasn’t attractive to them. She said that she was “renting” and that she…
What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

What People are REALLY looking for in Online Dating!

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show, we talk about what people’s real intentions are in online dating. What are they looking for when they’re swiping right? Are you wasting your time even looking for love online? Why you need a strategy to combat WHAT people are looking for on dating apps and sites. How online sites are like Wine Tasting events! What? Yes we get into it all. Go watch the show here: What People are REALLY looking for in…

People use Tinder for “confidence boosting procrastination”

44% of people using Tinder use the app for “confidence boosting procrastination”. Whoa… Read that again. A large percentage of people on Tinder aren’t looking for love. They aren’t even looking to hook up. They are doing “confidence boosting procrastination.” What does that mean? It is the act of avoiding the real stuff in life while doing something that makes you feel good about yourself. Procrastinating on the important stuff in life while boosting your ego with strangers liking how…

She thinks we are wrong….Uuuh Ohhhh

Tanya disagrees with us that soul mates are created. Here is what she said “I’m sorry to say!  I disagree with your point of view on soulmates. you don’t create a soulmate. if that were true then we could pick anyone and make them into your soulmate.  your soulmate is the one who when you meet them you know I mean you really know its them. the love from your heart never goes away and neither does the pain when…
He has to have…..

He has to have…..

“He has to be tall, have dark eyes and dark hair.  It’s a must! It’s what I’m attracted to, I can’t help it and I’m not settling!” Hello fellow adventurers in love, A potential client of ours told us the words above.  She HAD to be with a guy who was tall, had dark eyes and dark hair. She said she wouldn’t compromise or settle on these qualities.  She wasn’t going to settle for less than an amazing relationship. She…
8 Online Dating Tips for Women – Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work for Some People

8 Online Dating Tips for Women – Why Online Dating Doesn’t Work for Some People

Today we going to teach you our best Online Dating Tips for Women! Does online dating work? Yes it does, but not for everyone. Online Dating Sucks… It Doesn’t Work! All I see are deadbeats online… We hear this all the time. Online dating is one of the most polarizing things in the world. Many people hate online dating as much as they hate going to the dentist. Other people LOVE IT. SWEAR by it. As you know, we were…
The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

The Romantic Movie Love Dating Pattern

It’s been a sick few days over here at the Dr. Arn household.  Mason and Michael are still feeling the sick wrath. Meanwhile, Ashley has been able to escape the sick monster so far. (Although she’s had to put up with two sick men which might be worse than ACTUALLY being sick)…… We read an interesting article yesterday…. It was about the rise of VEGAN Dating Sites.  Yes, Vegans are being matched on their own dating sites. Click here to…

The crazy chemistry dating pattern

How is your week going? We’ve been killing it despite Michael and Mason both being sickos this week.  We’ve been doing some amazing work with our students in our Live Workshop and in Single to Soul Mates University. The insights and transformations we’ve been seeing are inspirational. When you work with thousands of clients you observe certain patterns. Some are success patterns… Others are what we call forever single dating patterns… Many of the clients we work with come to…

don’t look for love online if……

aaahhhh… the age old question (at least since 1995). Should you look for love online or on an app? Many of you HATE the current incarnation of dating. You LOATHE online dating. You wish you could serendipitously spill your coffee on your Mr. Right at Starbucks and have him pursue a relationship with you. Many of you LOVE online dating. You think it’s the best thing since Brad Pitt in Legends of the Fall.(oh such a good yet cheesy movie).…
Keep it Simple to Succeed

Keep it Simple to Succeed

We had a great President’s Day weekend here in Sonoma.  The weather was beautiful here Saturday, so we went to two wineries. We went as  a family (we brought our son Mason).  Many of the wineries here are family friendly and are fascinating to a 4 year old. One of the wineries, Jacuzzi, also has olive oil and vinegar tasting.  We ended up buying Chocolate Balsamic Vinegar.  Yum it’s so good. We wanted to have a relaxing yet pleasurable weekend.…
How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

How to Command Attention from High Caliber Men

When you are stuck in the forever single cycle, one of the biggest shifts you can make is to start COMMANDING ATTENTION FROM HIGH CALIBER MEN. Most women ARE NOT commanding attention from the right guys. You might find yourself either not commanding any attention from guys….. or Commanding attention from THE WRONG GUYS. Both feel bad right? If you want to meet the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want to…
A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

A secret Batwoman used to find love with Batman.

We know a secret that Batwoman used to meet, attract and fall in love with Batman. You see, for years she was single and dating THE WRONG GUYS. She read books, articles and talked to her friends for YEARS about what she could do differently to find the right guy for her once and for all. None of it worked. No matter what she did she ended up frustrated, hurt and SINGLE. This messed with her self-esteem.  She felt bad…

Valentine’s Day Sucks.

It is the most hated “holiday” for people who are single and for a great reason. If you are like most people who are single this time of year, you find yourself reflecting on what has happened and why you are single on this day. You are probably blaming yourself, telling yourself you have done something wrong and you might even be thinking that you aren’t worthy of having the kind of love you see all around you. Here’s the…
Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Finding Lasting Love – The First Shift – The Date to Soul Mate Show

How is your week going? How are your New Years resolutions going? For most people, they are starting to give up on their goals for 2017 already. They are almost ready to throw in the towel and “try again” next year. We don’t want that for you when it comes to finding lasting love. We want you to find love THIS YEAR. Yesterday we did a LIVE Date to Soul Mate Show in our free facebook group… Mastering Dating &…

How Ann found love in 5 weeks

We just interviewed one of our students named Ann who found love with an amazing guy in just 5 weeks in our Single to Soul Mates Live Workshop. It almost sounds too good to be true…. Except it actually happened. Before working with us, Ann was dating A LOT. She was going out on lots of dates. Trying to meet guys on Plenty of fish and eHarmony as well as offline. She told us she wasn’t meeting any guys who…

3 Ways be Yourself when you like a Guy

Howdy yall, Yesterday in our Live Workshop group coaching call we talked about how to be your best authentic self when you like a guy. See, many of our clients have struggled with attracting the guys they’re not into like bee’s to honey and were unknowingly pushing away guys they liked. They saw the results. The guys they were neutral about or ACTIVELY DISLIKED were sending them flowers and tripping over themselves to see them. The guys they liked –…
The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

The You Go First Principle and Making the First Move – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Hello, It’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael.  We are feeling extra frisky, it must be the bipolar weather here in Sonoma. Or it could be…. Last night we went to a Kindergarten presentation for our son Mason. He’s going to start school in the fall and we found out about the 5 elementary schools in town. This is mucho exciting and terrifying for some reason. We decided to bang out some free training for you. We have a new Date to…
Are you dating other people?

Are you dating other people?

  Are you Dating other People? – The Date to Soul Mate Show Hey there, We are enjoying the beautiful weather here in Sonoma, CA.  We also have great wine here toooooooo..    Yay! We’ve been going for long walks and have a fitbit competition with some friends of ours. Helps to offset the wine calories too. Today we have a question from a student…. So let’s get right into shall we! “If a man asks you out and you…

#1 Way to have BAD dates

We are having a monsoon here in Northern California.  Flooding and constant rain. We love the rain.  Maybe it’s because we don’t see that much of it here in California…. Let’s get right to the point today. Most of the time, your dates suck. The guys seems WAY OFF from what you are looking for… He shows up late…. He flakes last minute or doesn’t show up at all… He’s a douche…. He doesn’t look anything like his online photos……

Wasting your time online dating?

Are you spending lots of time and energy dating the wrong guys from an online dating site? Maybe you aren’t dating ANY guys. You’re wasting your time sifting through endless profiles and not going out on actual dates. Today we are going to give one of you our feedback on your online profile. She sent us her plentyoffish.com profile to review. We’ve looked at thousands of online dating profiles, so we really know what WORKS and what doesn’t work. Little…

Albert Einstein’s secret to finding love

Most of us have our own idea of what INSANITY is. Maybe it’s the homeless guy preaching to pigeons on the street. Maybe it’s people who jump out of planes “for FUN.” Or maybe it’s just running a marathon. Whatever your view of insanity is…it does have a definition. Insanity has been defined as “doing the SAME THING over and over again AND expecting different results.” A pretty smart guy said that: Albert Einstein. By his definition insanity would be…
Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

Stop Dating the Wrong Men and Find the One for YOU!

No more bad dates, Confusion, Worry or Heartache. You can Find, Attract and Deeply Connect with the Right Relationship Ready Man for You so he’ll Do Almost Anything to Commit to YOU. Stephanie is intelligent, kind and good person. She worked really hard to build a bustling career for herself. She has great friends and a fun social life. She is happy with who she is and her life. She is definitely not perfect, but no one is. She still…
You can be a special snowflake

You can be a special snowflake

Dr. Sad McSaderson is THE WORLDS FOREMOST EXPERT IN UNHAPPINESS. He has studied how to be unhappy for decades and is a renowned teacher in the art of unhappiness. If you want to be exceedingly unhappy look no further than the exquisite teachings of Dr. Mcsaderson! If you would rather become an Un-unhappiness expert, you may want to just notice if you’re using any of these strategies and how they are impacting your life. The special snowflake: In today’s lesson you…
Our holiday gift to you!

Our holiday gift to you!

The very first step to finding the love of your life is checking where your stories are at. Most women make the mistake of trying 5 million different things to find that one “magic trick” that is going to help them find love. They read books and blogs. They try dating sites for short bursts of time. They get discouraged with online dating and feel burned out. They take a hiatus from dating and tell themselves they just need to…

Naked Cowboy teaches us some Skillz

You can learn a lesson from almost anyone right? A few months ago, we were in Manhattan for several weeks. We were there as a family. We took our son to see School of Rock which he loved. His first time on broadway was a hit for sure. We walked all over central park and ate our way through New York. We also saw the Naked Cowboy. He is a famous street performer in Times Square. He isn’t really naked.…

Broken promises….

Broken promises will be the death of your self esteem and your future relationship. You are part of this group because you are 100% certain that you need to figure out how to find love and you haven’t been able to do it on your own. You know that you want it and deserve it. So, why are you stuck in the broken promises cycle? You make a promise to yourself that finding love is going to me your number…
Where are you stuck?

Where are you stuck?

Many of the clients we work with in our live workshop are stuck in meeting the wrong guys. They are DOING all sorts of things to meet men. They are online dating. Meeting men offline. Speed dating. Hiking dating. Some of you are not meeting ANY MEN. You feel stuck in knowing where to meet men. The bad news is that this won’t change UNLESS you DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. The saddest part is to see an amazing woman like you…