Online Dating Advice

What if a guy has a creep finger?

Happy Sunday, Today one of you beauts has found yourself in an “interesting” situation. Here is the question…. “should i ignore my feelings? I just met a man who seemed really nice, good looking and we were hitting it off. I was interested in meeting him again just for a lunch date, and we were shaking hands and saying our goodbyes…when he rubbed his finger against my palm. To me that is such a sleazebag thing to do and i…
Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Warning: Don’t be Here when I get Back Up!

Relationships REALLY SUCK sometimes. You put yourself out there.  You make the effort.  You persist. You meet guys offline.  You meet guys online. You go out on dates. You meet guys.  You flirt. You get your hair done. You dress up and look your best. You put yourself in a great emotional state.  You make interesting conversation. You really get to know these guys. The guys you’re attracted to aren’t relationship ready or don’t pay attention to you. The guys you…

Does Santa Clause have Commitment Issues?

Over the weekend we saw Santa Clause in our little hometown of Sonoma, CA. Our son Mason has been anticipating the big red’s arrival for weeks.   You could see the excitement written all over his face. Mason talked endlessly about what he was going to tell Santa he wanted for Christmas.  This was a big part of seeing Santa for him. Santa had to know he wanted transformers, power rangers and trucks. He also told us he was going…
Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power.

Fear. Freedom. Power. These are three of the most powerful MOTIVATORS behind all the actions people take. Think about it. Most of the things you want in this life have to do with one of the above. Fear. You are afraid that you will never find the love you want and deserve. You are AFRAID you’ll be single and lonely forever. You are afraid that you are unwanted and unloveable. You are afraid of failure. You are afraid of success. Freedom. You want…
Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…

What’s Your Winning System?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! Are you still recovering from the big ole election. Wow things are crazy right now right? No matter who you voted for, it feels like things are chaotic. It feels like a lot is out of your control. We are here to bring you some good news. It’s different than the gloom and doom in your news or tee-vee’s. There is a lot that is in your control. No you can’t control what President Trump does! You…

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make with The Right Guys

Every day we talk to women who are making some simple mistakes with the right guys. It sucks because these women are incredible! Smart, successful, kind, and good people! But, they are doing a couple of small things that are driving away the kind of men they would really like to share their lives with. After one or two dates, they aren’t hearing from the men that they wish would call again and give them another chance. We had the…
What if you DON’T do something?

What if you DON’T do something?

We want you to take a quick second to take a little journey with us… Let’s imagine for a second your life is going to stay the SAME. You’ll make the SAME amount of money. You’ll have the SAME relationships. Most of all, you’ll have the SAME PROBLEMS in love. You’ll STILL be single or miserable in a dead end relationship. You’ll STILL be going out on dates with narcissists, fixer-uppers and commitment phobes. You’ll STILL be meeting man-childs who…
A little Thank You…..

A little Thank You…..

We are so happy that you are part of our community!  We wanted to connect with you and provide you with an EXTRA level of support. First of all, thank you for believing in a unicorn!  Many of you haven’t seen or experienced a love life full of passion, fulfillment, and joy. We know that it can be hard to hold on to hope that it exists. BUT, you are certainly doing it because you are here taking this journey…
Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

If you are reading this, we already know that you are an overachiever! Tricked you. Seriously though. Dating is tougher for people who are ambitious, driven, and tend to over achieve. You always earned good grades, you have never missed a deadline, and every time you “apply” yourself, you have gotten the result you wanted. Of course, that only applies to every other area of your life except your love life, only THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life. Most…
How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

How Whitney Found Her Relationship Ready Man

Whitney is one of our students and she has absolutely nailed it! She is a dedicated single mom and found herself disheartened by the men she was meeting and the way they were treating her. We were so lucky to interview Whitney on what has worked for her because now she is in an amazing relationship with a man who is an incredible fit for her. She shared the specific tips that she learned from us to find love so…
Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

We have a special Date to Soul Mate Show Episode for you. We did a facebook live call in show. That’s right… We gave people advice right on the spot. We will continue to do this so make sure you’ve joined our free facebook group to watch the next show and even call in if you would like. https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineandlove/ If you want to have your last first date and jump on a free Single to Soul Mates call with us…
A Love Letter

A Love Letter

Your heart is good. You dream big. You try hard. You love selflessly. You care deeply. You do it all for everyone else. You think about their needs. You show up when they need you, no matter what your needs are at that moment. You come home alone. You want someone to lay next to at night. You want someone to console you after a rough day. Sometimes you cry. Does anyone even notice? Does anyone think about what you…
Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Your Best Online Dating Photos – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 19

Today in our newest Date to Soul Mate Show we interview one of the foremost experts in the world on photos, especially online photos so buckle up and get ready. What are the best online photos to use on your dating profile? Should you get professional photos? How do you look your best in photos? We get to the bottom of these questions and many more. In the show we interview Claire Bahn, President of Online Profile Pros, formerly Dating…
Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Hey Date to Soul Mate Nation, We hope you are doing well.  We know it can be very frustrating out there in dating land. That’s why we are so passionate about helping ALL of you create real connections out there. That’s why we put out so much free content and advice.  We want to see you succeed. We were just recently interviewed on the Maggie Linton Show. We touched on several important topics including attracting the right person and where…
Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Why can’t I meet someone? Is this a thought you’ve had? Does it seem like meeting the right person is nearly impossible? Or when you do, it never works out? Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many, many women are in the same boat you are. They are driven and successful in so many areas of their life except one: Finding the one. Ravid Yosef is a cancer survivor and successful businesswoman.  She is putting together a FREE summit called the Love Success Summit to finally ask…
The NY fire department broke us out

The NY fire department broke us out

Our family has been staying in Manhattan, NY for the past 10 days or so. It has been a great time. We took our son Mason to see The School of Rock which he thought was hilarious. The pure joy in watching him watch the show was palpable. One night we got a babysitter and went out with some friends of ours for dinner and drinks. We went to this steak restaurant that had been open for 150 years. We…
Make Your Skeletons Dance

Make Your Skeletons Dance

  We all have skeletons in our closet. No matter how much badassity swag you have, you still have some sort of perceived baggage. Do you feel like there is something about our past that potential matches judge you for?  Is there something about you or your past that YOU judge yourself for? The question is not IF you have baggage, but how do you manage your skeletons while dating? It is really tough to know how to talk about…
Are you being scammed in Dating?

Are you being scammed in Dating?

You all know that there are a grip of scammers, sex addicts and digital douches out there in dating land.   In case you don’t know, digital douches are men who would otherwise be nice upstanding gentlemen, but because we communicate now digitally or through online, text or email primarily they are major douchebags. They’re inner douchey demons are let out and run rampant in a digital world. They text, email and hit you up online in rude, overly sexual…
How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

How to Be Irresistible on a First Date with Kimberly Seltzer – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 17

Would you like to know how to show up on a first date looking your best? Feeling confident in how you look? Feeling confident in how you express yourself? Great! We thought so.  You are in luck, because we have a special guest on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show.  She has specialized superpowers in helping people look their best AND feel confident in themselves while dating. Dr. Ashley talks with Kimberly Seltzer who is a therapist and Dating Makeover…
Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Opening Conversation Starters and How Long Should Women Offer to Pay for Dates – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 16

Yo Yo Yo, Happy end of the week. We are excited for the weekend. We are going to a microbrew fest in Catalina Island on Saturday. This means sipping the lagers in our sandals on the beach. We are talking about two important topics on today’s shizzle. Our lovely Wine and Love with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael members have been curious lately….. First, we are answering one of your questions about paying for dates. Specifically, how long should a…
Match.com Review from Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Match.com Review from Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Hello Beauts and Gents, Today we are going to give you our unvarnished expert opinions of Match.com. If you are dating like it’s this year, you are going to be online dating.  The key is to choose one paid online dating site to use and one free or niche site to use. So here it goes. Match.com Review Match.com is one of those er paid sites.  It’s the grand poo ba of online dating.  The Bill Gates. The Big Dog…
Do Men Only Want da Younger Women?

Do Men Only Want da Younger Women?

Welcome back to the work week.  The grind is real this week no?   We hope you had a great Labor Day weekend. We received a lot of questions from you all.  One of the consistent themes you ask us about is “do men only want younger women?” “why do men seem to only look for younger women?” “who do these men think they are looking for someone 10-15 years younger, while they’re not the best catch themselves?” Yes it’s true…

Online Dating Tips, Amarone and Reckless Love – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 13

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we answer all of your questions.  We give you our best online dating tips.  We also drink wine.  We review two “Man” wines. Here are some of the questions we answer… What are your best online dating tips? How long should you date someone you are unsure about? Why am I attracting the wrong people? How do you move the process of online dating along to meet someone? How do you initiate contact…
How to Trust Again – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 11

How to Trust Again – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 11

We have a brand new show for you all! We received some great questions from our free facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineandlove/   Here are some of the questions we answer on today’s show: 1) How to trust again and get over trust issues? 2) How do you stop meeting fixer uppers and project type guys? 3) How do you get out of the friend zone? 4) What do you do when you like a guy who is part of a group of…
Ghosting Someone – Why he Disappeared

Ghosting Someone – Why he Disappeared

Ghosting someone! Find out why he disappeared and what you can do about it on the latest Date to Soul Mate show with Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael. We answered our FB group’s most pressing dating questions. Here are some of the questions we answered: 1) Where are the best places to meet single men? 2) Is it ok for a woman to make the first move and how do you go about doing that? 3) Why do men decide…
What to Wear on a Date from Alex Cheatwood of Ustyled.com

What to Wear on a Date from Alex Cheatwood of Ustyled.com

In today's Date to Soul Mate Show, Dr. Ashley gets the best style advice from fashion and style expert Alex Cheatwood of Ustyled.com. If you want to learn about the best date outfits to wear and how you can look your best listen to this show.
The Best Places to Meet Men – The Date to Soul Mate Show

The Best Places to Meet Men – The Date to Soul Mate Show

Discover the best places to meet men from Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael Arn.  We will teach you where to meet relationship ready men offline. Do you want to learn about the best places to meet men? What about meeting high caliber relationship ready men? They are everywhere. It’s literally raining men out there. There are so many single quality relationship ready men in the world right now. The thing is you can’t be romantic about the best places to…

Online Dating Profile Examples – Free Profile Makeover

How would you like the chance to get a free online dating profile makeover from us? We are going to provide you and our other readers with the best online dating profile examples out there. We have provided many online profile makeovers both here at date to soul mate and while working with eHarmony.com.   These makeovers are often part of packages people pay $5,000, $10,000 and up to $30,000 for. We know from our experience that minor changes and…