Relationship Advice

The #1 way your Brain SABOTAGES your SUCCESS in Love & Life

The #1 way your Brain SABOTAGES your SUCCESS in Love & Life

Get a complete walk through of our 4 Step Dating funnel here http://www.datingfunnel.com What if……(there are no great single men in your city) Are you looking to meet a great man? Do you want to have the relationship you’ve always dreamed of? Do you have other life goals you’d like to accomplish this year? Anytime we ALLOW ourselves to think about the kind of relationship we actually want…. Or Anytime we set goals… Our brains instantly start going to work…
Are you an Attractive Woman Struggling in Dating?

Are you an Attractive Woman Struggling in Dating?

Attractive women have certain challenges in dating that nobody else has. Yes, I know this is sort of like talking about rich people problems, but guess what? Rich people DO have real problems. And attractive women DO have real big time problems when it comes to dating. On one hand your attractiveness is a big plus and it does help you in dating and in your life in general. On the other hand, your attractiveness causes a unique set of…
Doing the right things and STILL not finding love?

Doing the right things and STILL not finding love?

Today Michael is going to talk with you about one of the most important KEYS to having the relationship you want. If you’ve been doing all the “right things” in dating and still not finding lasting love watch todays video. What you do is important in dating. But it isn’t the only key to success. There is another key that is EQUALLY as important to finding love. Watch our latest Video to discover what it is.

Why great men disappear

We just had a recent conversation with a “yes, but” person. She reached out to us requesting help in finding her person. She couldn’t proclaim enough that she wanted to work with us, was ready to do whatever it takes, and was all in! This is always red flag number one. It’s like when you are planning a first date with a guy and every message he sends you has one million exclamations….you can just tell right away that something…

Make Valentine’s day about this…

Happy Valentine’s day from TEAM ARN. Our whole family, Ashley, Michael, our son Mason and our two dogs Bear and Bailey are grateful to be a part of your life, however big or however small. We appreciate so much that you’ve become part of our family and we don’t take that lightly. We know you could spend your time, energy and attention on anything else and we are grateful for having a human connection with you. We recommend you make…

You’re probably single because…

You never forwarded those chain messages in 2008. JK 🙂 If you’ve ever been single on Valentine’s day, it basically sucks. The fact that there is even a nickname of “Single Awareness Day” is stupid. At the same time, the pressure is real. Anyone and everyone has to ask about your plans. If you say you are having a “Galentine’s day” there might be jokes about hating men. If you stay home alone, someone might criticize that you should go…

Did he come on strong and then disappear?

You RARELY meet a guy that you are really interested in. Most of the time, you are on again, off again with dating, When you are in the “on” phase, you put in good effort and go through the motions. Men are interested in you. It’s pretty easy to get a first date. The guys that you meet are great on paper. You feel like you “should” like them. They are nice and seem stable. They seem to do all…
Why your feelings don’t matter

Why your feelings don’t matter

How often do you FEEL like giving up looking for the right guy? Yes, you want to be in a great relationship but is the process to get there really worth it? The process is EXHAUSTING. It’s time INTENSIVE. It drains your energy It often beats you down mentally, emotionally and physically. There is another area of life that often FEELS similar… It’s your health and weight. We are in the midst of eating healthy and working out to hit…

Step by step plan to stay single

Today you’re going to learn HOW to stay single. Knowing how to achieve the opposite of your goal is just as important as knowing how to get what you want. Many times what you choose NOT to do is more important than what you choose to do. This weekend we chose to put away our phones and focus on spending real quality time together as a family. Our son Mason had our full presence. Our two dogs Bear and Bailey…

Get Upset or Get Comfortable

Sometimes you want to be comfortable with where you’re at and other times you want to get upset with where you’re at. Whether you’re comfortable with something or upset about it, it’s totally subjective and within your control to change how you’re representing it to yourself. If you want to accept what is and be happier, it’s best to create comfort with where you’re at. If you want something to CHANGE, it’s best to get UPSET with where you’re at…
Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Most people avoid stress and avoid pressure. They avoid putting themselves in situations where they are completely out of their element. They say “I’m not ready for that.” This is the surest way to avoid results or success in any area of your life. If you want to get the fastest results possible, put yourself in the deep-end on purpose. Put yourself in situations you’re NOT ready for yet. Put yourself in situations where you are completely out of your…

Is He Putting You Last?

If you put a man BEFORE you, you’ve taught him to put you LAST. Never Again! As an adult, you teach those around you how to treat you. If people aren’t stepping up and treating you the way you want you have several options: 1. Communicate what you want SPECIFICALLY 2. Communicate WHY you want this 3. Notice and appreciate when they’re getting closer to treating you the way you want 4. Communicate a boundary (ex “I won’t date a…

Get Uncomfortable

Being comfortable is not the way to have the relationship you want. Comfort is one of the BIGGEST and most powerful forces that hold people back from an extraordinary relationship. It’s ALWAYS going to be through being uncomfortable that you find the right person and create a great relationship. It’s uncomfortable to look in the mirror and take responsibility (not fault) for where you are current at in your love life. Nobody likes doing that. It’s uncomfortable to look at…

What do I want in life? How to Get Clarity on Where You are Going.

What do I want …. In life.. In a relationship…. In my career In a man… There is nothing more powerful than getting real clarity on what you want. What Do I Want in Life To be honest most people reject themselves before life or anyone else gets a chance to reject them. They don’t even allow themselves to think about what they most want out of the FEAR that they’ll go for it and come up miserably short. Michael…
How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

Today we are talking about how to set goals because you are on TEAM ARN and that means you are a constantly growing person. How to Set Goals and GSD You don’t settle for average and you don’t stagnate. That means setting goals is a part of your life. If it isn’t, that is changing right now. In our year long mentorship program Rise Up we focus a lot on how to set goals and actually GSD. Most other people…

How to Trust Again to have the Relationship You Want

Today you’re going to learn how to trust again and WHY it’s important. Do people have to PROVE themselves to you before you show them who you are? Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, Both of us had trust issues for years. We didn’t let people in. We pushed people away before they could hurt us. We held back on saying what we felt and what was real. We created these hard outer shells to protect who we…
Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is something that impacts many high level people. Many of us who are doing big things in life and have big goals we’re achieving struggle with being a perfectionist. Here is the definition of perfectionism: 1a: the doctrine that the perfection of moral character constitutes a person’s highest good 1b: the theological doctrine that a state of freedom from sin is attainable on earth 2: a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable Why does it matter…

Busting Liars and Cheaters

This is how you find a man who is DESIRABLE and FAITHFUL. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael popping in…. The other day we caught our son in a BIG LIE. He was lying to us for days with the expertise of a CON MAN. He would sit calmly in his chair at the dinner table. Without any hint of deception… He would weave a lie so convincing it came as a complete shock when we found out NONE…

Are you paddling upstream?

Today you are going to see the realities of dating first hand. It’s important so you know what’s at stake here. 50.2% of the America population is SINGLE.  That’s about 124 MILLION singles. Of those 124 million singles 53.2% are single women and 46.8% are single men. Yes there are more single women than there are men. Only 14% of men are 6 feet tall or taller. 30% of people have a BA degree in America. 11% have a Masters…

Our garden will help you stop dating the wrong men

You can stop dating unavailable and undesirable men by taking a trip to our garden Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael dropping by…. We’ve gotten into gardening the last two years. Before that NOT so much. Our friends knew us as black thumbs. If they needed a plant or flower killed they gave it to us 😊 It didn’t help that we lived in Los Angeles and had no outdoor space. Two years ago, we moved to our quaint little town…

The real reason amazing women are single

You don’t want to be dating forever. Heck you don’t want to be doing it for 3 more months do you? You want to IMMEDIATELY stop having to beautify yourself for dates. Having to psyche yourself up mentally and emotionally to meet a stranger after a long tiring day of work. Needing to rush across town, spend your hard-earned money on transportation and parking…… Only to meet your date and feel like RUNNING out of the place immediately in disgust…
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

There is a great Gandhi quote… “You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Michael talks about how you can live this quote in your dating life.

Cast a Witches Spell on all Desirable Men

Learn how using a simple Halloween strategy can have a successful man wildly attracted to you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael coming your way before we scour our little wine country town for candy with our son Mason. Believe it or not he has TWO costumes.  We went to a local thrift store to try and find tennis rackets about a month ago and randomly found two AWESOME Halloween costumes for just $6 total. What a steal. So he’s going…
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn. We have a strong set of beliefs about the right way to stop dating UNAVAILABLE & UNDESIRABLE MEN and Find Lasting Love.   We call these the 10 Commandments to Meet the Man You Want and Create a Great Relationship for Successful Women   In this video we go over the first of these beliefs.   Here’s the First Commandment:   Find the Right Person to Love AND Learn to Love the…

Live in the Present – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We’ve got a treat for you today, but before we get to that you want to know this….. In relationships, it’s almost never a straight line to getting it right. There is often a person BEFORE your person. What often seems like the right person for you is simply the person who is helping you grow so that you can meet your person. That’s right! We often believe someone is right for us and they’re not. We stress about a…

How to have Superpowers this Week!

It’s MONDAY. Do you feel like you have a million things you COULD DO? Does it feel like you have more things to do than time to do it? The brutal truth is most things we do DON’T MATTER. Most of our lives are spent talking about and doing things that don’t have a meaningful impact on our life or goals. THIS IS GOOD. It means we could drop the ball on most things we are currently doing and nothing…

Why You Don’t Get What You Deserve

We were just talking with a client about when you’re talking with your partner or even yourself about what you want or what kind of life you want to live, it’s important to take the first surface level answer and go MUCH BIGGER. We usually only allow ourselves to think about or talk about what we want in terms of what we feel we deserve. The problem is we often have a very low opinion of what we believe we…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…
We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…