Relationship Advice

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…

What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball. On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise. THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP! This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds…

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy. At least not for you. It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying. It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling. As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it. Every time I played basketball I shot…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…

She Used to Believe it COULDN’T Happen for Her… Then it Did!

We just got this message from a client who USED to believe this couldn’t happen for her. We are so excited for her and my ❤️ is full! This is what happens when you take committed action, take different actions then before and follow a step-by-step system. FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If you are…

Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

I’ve been studying successful people from different time periods recently. Abraham Lincoln was a big giver in his orientation toward others. Many people initially thought this was a weakness of his. They underestimated him as a result, however he consistently showed up as a giver and was extremely successful over the long haul as a result. It reminds me of this quote by Chip Conley “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a…

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on after divorce can be rough. Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades. Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating. She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

“WHO IS HELPING THE MEN GET THEIR ACTS TOGETHER?”

This is a question we received from a woman today. We answered: “There are many coaches and experts helping men. Many men are seeking this help. It’s a huge million dollar industry. We happen to specialize in working with women. Have a great day.” The sad part to us is that she is asking a question that dis-empowers her. It takes her away from her own success. It focuses her on something she can’t control. With our clients, one of…

Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Many of us have experienced being cheated on. The experience often leaves you with unanswered questions. Why do men cheat? Do all men cheat? In this episode we talk with a woman from Michigan about how she is dealing with her recent divorce after discovering her ex-husband was repeatedly cheating. She even recently had a date after meeting a guy on the dance floor. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives.…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction. That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur. Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control. Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you. The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge. The parts of you…

The “It probably works, but not for me” strategy.

If you want to be one of the world’s foremost experts in unhappiness and loneliness we have a great strategy for you. Sure, there are many unhappy people out there, but with dedicated practice you can learn to surpass most other people’s unhappiness. First, identify the best practices out there in terms of how to find love and how to be happy. Discover what the happiest and most in love people have done to get there. Take each one of these…

What frame of Meaning are You Using?

Our 5-year-old son, Mason, asked me what it means when you hear sirens from firetrucks and the ambulance. I told him it means there are brave and courageous men and women going to help someone. The sirens are an affirmation that there are helpers out there at all times. That’s the frame of meaning I choose to believe and choose to convey to Mason. You could put a different frame of meaning on it. It could mean that someone is…

Approach Your Love Life as a Series of Sprints

We were talking with our workshop clients today about the importance of approaching dating & relationships as a SERIES OF SPRINTS. You want to SPRINT (work hard, go on dates, interact with people on a dating site or app etc.) and take a break. Sprint and take a break. Sprint and take a break. Go all out for a period of time. Invest a lot of your time and energy into finding the right person. Sprint…

“I’m not able to give you what I think you’re looking for”

Those were the words that changed our client’s life. We just got off the phone with a client who is in an exclusive relationship with an amazing guy. We are so proud of her. She told us that she decided to work with us after hearing those words. Her boyfriend told her those exact words. It was the second time in her life where she thought things were going well, only to find out her boyfriend wasn’t ready for a…

SAY THIS, NOT THAT in Dating & Relationships….

There is the end of the conversation when you want someone to take your phone number and call or text you. What do we normally do? Usually we say nothing and miss out on ever talking to that person again. or we say “here’s my number give me a call” or “give me your number” Next time SAY THIS: “I have to go, it was great talking to you.” followed by…… 1. You seem fun! Feel free to shoot me…

How to stop Falling in Love with the Wrong Men

Getting dumped when you’re in love with someone is the worst. Realizing that the person you have the feelz for is totally wrong for you is excruciating. We know how hard it is to choose the right person to love. Many of you have asked us how you can stop falling for guys so quickly. How you can stop falling for the wrong guys over and over again. We teach our clients a specific dating process for how they can…

We are doing a happy dance!

We could not be starting out our week in a better way than doing a happy dance for one of our clients! She posted this in our group last week. It is unbelievable the GRIT she put into making her dream a reality. When she came to us, she was disheartened, disappointed, and frustrated with the fact that she kept meeting the WRONG men who were not of her caliber and did not deserve all of the amazing things she brings…

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Discover why men pull away after getting close. Why do men disappear after things seemed to be going well? We’ll answer these questions for you once and for all. It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on…

Is Comfort Holding You Back from Love?

Often what’s OKAY, GOOD or COMFORTABLE is the main obstacle to your ultimate fulfillment in love. Comfort and Okayness are dream killers. They seduce you into complacency. They cause you to retreat back to old habits that are comfortable yet hold you back when you hit a big challenge. They stop you from taking the emotionally hard actions that lead to experiencing the kind of relationship you want and deserve. Our clients have that “hell no” moment. That moment when…

They thought she was sick, but what came next changed everything…

We know a couple. They got married in 1963. She had moved to the United States from Europe as an interpreter. He served in the Army and had moved back home to work in the family business. They met in a restaurant two years before getting married. They came from different family backgrounds, yet in others ways had a lot in common. They fell in love and created a life together. They bought a house. Made friends as a couple.…

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…

She’s getting married in November

It’s celebration time. Our client Angela is getting married in November to a MAN that she’s been dreaming of for a long time. For many years it seemed like he might just be that. A dream. A dream that never turns into reality. For a long time, Angela felt successful in other areas of her life, but kept dating guys who wouldn’t open up to her, didn’t feel right or wouldn’t commit. She couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t having…

The 1 rule to have in dating…

We don’t believe in “rules” when it comes to dating and love. Even that “rule” we believe in breaking from time to time. If you are dating it’s important to set one rule for yourself….. NEVER GIVE ANYONE MONEY THAT YOU’RE DATING! Don’t do it. Not for any reason. Not for any “story” they have. There are criminal networks out there obsessing over ways to prey on someone feeling lonely and extracting as much money from you as they can.…

Breaking free of the bread crumbers…..

We got off the phone with a client who finally broke her main forever single dating pattern. She had been dating bread crumbers for a LONG time. For the past two years she had dated a guy on and off who bread crumbed her the whole time. She had given her blood, sweat and tears to this guy and got very little in return. She was showing up day after day for this guy. Meeting his needs. Stepping up to…