Relationship Advice

Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Diamonds are formed under PRESSURE and STRESS

Most people avoid stress and avoid pressure. They avoid putting themselves in situations where they are completely out of their element. They say “I’m not ready for that.” This is the surest way to avoid results or success in any area of your life. If you want to get the fastest results possible, put yourself in the deep-end on purpose. Put yourself in situations you’re NOT ready for yet. Put yourself in situations where you are completely out of your…

Is He Putting You Last?

If you put a man BEFORE you, you’ve taught him to put you LAST. Never Again! As an adult, you teach those around you how to treat you. If people aren’t stepping up and treating you the way you want you have several options: 1. Communicate what you want SPECIFICALLY 2. Communicate WHY you want this 3. Notice and appreciate when they’re getting closer to treating you the way you want 4. Communicate a boundary (ex “I won’t date a…

Get Uncomfortable

Being comfortable is not the way to have the relationship you want. Comfort is one of the BIGGEST and most powerful forces that hold people back from an extraordinary relationship. It’s ALWAYS going to be through being uncomfortable that you find the right person and create a great relationship. It’s uncomfortable to look in the mirror and take responsibility (not fault) for where you are current at in your love life. Nobody likes doing that. It’s uncomfortable to look at…

What do I want in life? How to Get Clarity on Where You are Going.

What do I want …. In life.. In a relationship…. In my career In a man… There is nothing more powerful than getting real clarity on what you want. What Do I Want in Life To be honest most people reject themselves before life or anyone else gets a chance to reject them. They don’t even allow themselves to think about what they most want out of the FEAR that they’ll go for it and come up miserably short. Michael…
How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

How to Set Goals and Achieve Them

Today we are talking about how to set goals because you are on TEAM ARN and that means you are a constantly growing person. How to Set Goals and GSD You don’t settle for average and you don’t stagnate. That means setting goals is a part of your life. If it isn’t, that is changing right now. In our year long mentorship program Rise Up we focus a lot on how to set goals and actually GSD. Most other people…

How to Trust Again to have the Relationship You Want

Today you’re going to learn how to trust again and WHY it’s important. Do people have to PROVE themselves to you before you show them who you are? Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn, Both of us had trust issues for years. We didn’t let people in. We pushed people away before they could hurt us. We held back on saying what we felt and what was real. We created these hard outer shells to protect who we…
Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is the Enemy of Progress

Perfectionism is something that impacts many high level people. Many of us who are doing big things in life and have big goals we’re achieving struggle with being a perfectionist. Here is the definition of perfectionism: 1a: the doctrine that the perfection of moral character constitutes a person’s highest good 1b: the theological doctrine that a state of freedom from sin is attainable on earth 2: a disposition to regard anything short of perfection as unacceptable Why does it matter…

Busting Liars and Cheaters

This is how you find a man who is DESIRABLE and FAITHFUL. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael popping in…. The other day we caught our son in a BIG LIE. He was lying to us for days with the expertise of a CON MAN. He would sit calmly in his chair at the dinner table. Without any hint of deception… He would weave a lie so convincing it came as a complete shock when we found out NONE…

Are you paddling upstream?

Today you are going to see the realities of dating first hand. It’s important so you know what’s at stake here. 50.2% of the America population is SINGLE.  That’s about 124 MILLION singles. Of those 124 million singles 53.2% are single women and 46.8% are single men. Yes there are more single women than there are men. Only 14% of men are 6 feet tall or taller. 30% of people have a BA degree in America. 11% have a Masters…

Our garden will help you stop dating the wrong men

You can stop dating unavailable and undesirable men by taking a trip to our garden Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael dropping by…. We’ve gotten into gardening the last two years. Before that NOT so much. Our friends knew us as black thumbs. If they needed a plant or flower killed they gave it to us 😊 It didn’t help that we lived in Los Angeles and had no outdoor space. Two years ago, we moved to our quaint little town…

The real reason amazing women are single

You don’t want to be dating forever. Heck you don’t want to be doing it for 3 more months do you? You want to IMMEDIATELY stop having to beautify yourself for dates. Having to psyche yourself up mentally and emotionally to meet a stranger after a long tiring day of work. Needing to rush across town, spend your hard-earned money on transportation and parking…… Only to meet your date and feel like RUNNING out of the place immediately in disgust…
You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist

There is a great Gandhi quote… “You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show Michael talks about how you can live this quote in your dating life.

Cast a Witches Spell on all Desirable Men

Learn how using a simple Halloween strategy can have a successful man wildly attracted to you. Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael coming your way before we scour our little wine country town for candy with our son Mason. Believe it or not he has TWO costumes.  We went to a local thrift store to try and find tennis rackets about a month ago and randomly found two AWESOME Halloween costumes for just $6 total. What a steal. So he’s going…
THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT TO MEET THE MAN YOU WANT AND CREATE A GREAT RELATIONSHIP FOR SUCCESSFUL WOMEN

Hey it’s Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn. We have a strong set of beliefs about the right way to stop dating UNAVAILABLE & UNDESIRABLE MEN and Find Lasting Love.   We call these the 10 Commandments to Meet the Man You Want and Create a Great Relationship for Successful Women   In this video we go over the first of these beliefs.   Here’s the First Commandment:   Find the Right Person to Love AND Learn to Love the…

Live in the Present – 5 Minute Mindfulness & Meditation

We’ve got a treat for you today, but before we get to that you want to know this….. In relationships, it’s almost never a straight line to getting it right. There is often a person BEFORE your person. What often seems like the right person for you is simply the person who is helping you grow so that you can meet your person. That’s right! We often believe someone is right for us and they’re not. We stress about a…

How to have Superpowers this Week!

It’s MONDAY. Do you feel like you have a million things you COULD DO? Does it feel like you have more things to do than time to do it? The brutal truth is most things we do DON’T MATTER. Most of our lives are spent talking about and doing things that don’t have a meaningful impact on our life or goals. THIS IS GOOD. It means we could drop the ball on most things we are currently doing and nothing…

Why You Don’t Get What You Deserve

We were just talking with a client about when you’re talking with your partner or even yourself about what you want or what kind of life you want to live, it’s important to take the first surface level answer and go MUCH BIGGER. We usually only allow ourselves to think about or talk about what we want in terms of what we feel we deserve. The problem is we often have a very low opinion of what we believe we…

This is #1 Priority in Dating over ALL else…..

We are so pumped! We are going to a client’s wedding tomorrow here in wine country California. Our client lives in Toronto BUT as luck would have it, they’re having the wedding here in Sonoma. YAY FOR HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP YOU WANT! What is more important than anything else when it comes to love? In dating, it’s important to value and ACT on the BRUTAL TRUTH of whether someone is a fit for you long term or not over everything…

What’s Your Mission Statement

Yes, yes, yes, welcome to all of you who have joined TEAM ARN recently and DECIDED to NEVER live a mediocre or average life. Thousands of the most elite women in the world have watched our videos and put our techniques into action in the just the past couple of days. You’ve joined an exclusive group of HIGH VALUE women who want to Meet the Man They Want and Create the Relationship they Deserve. Even more so, you are now…
We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

We’re FIGHTING TODAY – How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up

Today we are going to reveal How to Solve Relationship Problems without Breaking Up. What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive. It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level. When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally…
I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

I Want a Baby but I’m Single – The cold hard truth about being a mom.

“I want a baby but I’m single!”  “I want a baby so bad.” The cold hard truth about being a mom. Is it for you? Ashley is writing…. Years ago, Michael and I were madly in love and having the time of our lives. We had been married for a few years and were having a blast. We traveled EVERYWHERE. We did whatever we wanted, whenever we wanted. We went out late with friends. We slept until noon, laying there…

What Men Want in a Woman Straight from the Horses Mouth

Today you will learn what men want in a woman.  We will break it down for you so that you have a good idea what men are looking for. What do men want? What are the best guys out there looking for in a woman? We get a version of this question from women all the time. And…… Today we are going to give you insider’s peek into what men want. BUT focusing on what men want is not your…
Are Relationships Hard? –  This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are Relationships Hard? – This is What a REAL Relationship is like

Are relationships hard or should they be easy when you’ve found the right person? On today’s brand-new Date to Soul Mate Show we get personal and you get a behind the scenes look into what a real relationship is like. Ashley doesn’t hold back and confesses what she can’t stand most about Michael. Michael lets loose on what he really thinks about Ashley. If you have a weak stomach DON’T watch today’s Show. We know you’ve been hearing conflicting opinions…
What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What Turns Guys Off – This Turns a Man off Quicker than you Farting in his Face

What turns guys off quicker than anything else?  That is what we’re about to lay down for you on today’s Date to Soul Mate Show. You just met someone you are really interested in. You have only been on one date. BUT, you have all the FEELS. You haven’t felt this way in a long time. He is handsome. Smart. Witty. Respectful. Chivalrous. Passionate about his career AND successful. As if that wasn’t enough, he’s also sweetly philanthropic. He donates…

An Exclusive Relationship in 6 weeks?

Can you get into an exclusive relationship within 6 weeks? Learn what it takes to stop dating unavailable or undesirable men starting right now. She decided to reluctantly talk with us. She didn’t want to, but the frustration of meeting one more guy who was totally beneath her was unbearable. She booked a call to talk with us because despite her extreme skepticism, she was at a complete loss for what to do next. She knew she couldn’t do it…
Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Commitment Issues – Is MAN-ogamy possible or a ridiculous expectation?

Do you  believe men or a man you’re dating has commitment issues?  Is MAN-ogamy even something that is possible or desirable? Can a man really commit to monogamy in this day and age? A big challenge with online dating today is that people are no longer just dating ONE person when they meet. There is no denying that this is the way that dating is today, regardless of whether you are meeting people online or offline. So, should you just…
How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

How to Deal with Rejection – Get Hurt and Get Even….

Learn how to deal with rejection, loneliness and heartache.  You will experience ups and downs in your love life and it is how you deal with them that matters most. He was running as fast as he could.  In fact, he was in an all out sprint. Nobody was going to stop him or get in his way.  He had momentum and the support of the crowd. Than all of a sudden the unexpected happened…. He tripped and fell harder…
Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

What are the critical deal breakers for dating?  What are the signs that he is not right for you and that you need to move on right now?  Deal Breakers for Dating Have you ever felt stuck in the middle with someone? You notice a few things about them that aren’t your favorite. You wonder if maybe these things about them might change. They seem to have some good qualities, but there are others that are just missing. Being…

Should I Sleep with Him?

We often get asked “Should I sleep with him?”  “Do I need to wait?” “Will he leave if I don’t?” Today we answer this age old question. How many times have you wondered “should I sleep with him?” What’s the current rule? Wait at least two, five, or ten dates? Should sex happen before or after exclusivity? Should you sleep with other people at the same time if you aren’t exclusive or are dating multiple people? Isn’t that like cheating?…

What Attracts Men the Most – What Most Women Will Never Get….

Discover what attracts men the most.  It’s not how you look or what you say to a man that matters most when it comes to attraction. Did you see Mark Zuckerberg of flakebook testifying before congress. It was pure pop culture theater. It was ironic that we watched the live stream of the hearing on facebook 😊 First, it was crazy to see 70 year olds questioning him about facebook when they obviously know nothing about how it works. They…