Relationship Advice

Men and Women Differences – Who wins in a fight: Men vs. Women

Men and women differences – Do these differences matter and what can you do to overcome them and have a great relationship. Ouch yes we went there. You’ve probably heard Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. What a BS concept. Ashley is from Laguna Niguel, CA and Michael is from New Glarus, WI (home of the best beer ever made) We aren’t from different planets. Men and women are more ALIKE than they are different. All of…

Bad Dating Advice – Don’t Do What She Does

Bad dating advice is everywhere. It comes in all forms. From… ….society ….celebrities ….family members ….coworkers and today we are going to talk about bad dating advice from your FRIENDS. It’s one of the worst kinds. You don’t want to find yourself copying women in your life that AREN’T successful in love. When a single friend says “You have got to try this.” Don’t listen! Unless she has proof that this is a technique that will actually lead to the…

Why am I Attracted to Him – Why Everything We Think about Attraction is Wrong

We often get asked ” Why am I attracted to him?” “Why am I always attracted to men who aren’t right for me or relationship ready?”

Happily Ever After – He kept showing up uninvited

Today will show you how one couple lived happily ever after despite a rough start. The curious case of the happily ever after couple who should’ve never been together. It was 1963 and Nancy went out on a blind date with Harry. Nancy was 5 feet tall and she liked shorter men with brown hair. She didn’t like dating tall guys because she felt so small in comparison. Harry showed up at her door and she immediately wanted to cancel.…

How to Talk to a Guy – Real is RARE

If you want to learn how to talk to a guy online or someone you’re interested than keep reading. Do you ever feel like all you’re doing is having fake “conversations” with people on: online dating sites/apps social media text chat email We are doing more “communicating” now than ever before, yet are we really saying anything? We are connected to each other 24/7 and yet disconnected from each other on a level never before seen. Digital communication has made…

The red carpet was “normal” that’s why it failed.

This was the title of the Cosmo headlines today. Being “normal” means that you fall between the cracks. Normal=Unmemorable Normal=Predictable Normal=Average Normal=Mediocre Normal=What is expected So, what does this have to do with your love life? Most people fall into the category of being “normal” in their love life. They take the steps they are “supposed” to take. They do what everyone else does to try to find love…which is stay stuck in an on again off again cycle of…

Independent Woman – What should I do?

Are you an independent woman? Are you a modern woman who is able to stand on her own two feet? Today we will rap about what you can do to find love when you are an independent woman. Being a strong woman is hard. There is so much to balance. You can take care of yourself (you likely have for years). You don’t “need” anyone in your life to take care of you. You have worked hard to be where…

Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand. There is no separating them. You can’t be happy without gratitude. Today we are going to lay out the secrets of gratitude and happiness AND the non-secrets of stinkin thinkin. Let’s talk about one of our clients. In LESS THAN ONE YEAR, she met AND married a man that is incredible. Together, they have chemistry, compatibility, connection and commitment. These are the four essential elements of long-term relationship success. She got married in…

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers?

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers? Are you looking for how to change your life? Today we will talk about what needs to happen to make a significant change in your life. Can we work miracles in your life? If not, are we scamming you? We got a message from a “fan” yesterday musing about what we do and we’ll talk about that in a minute. Before we do, we want you to know that we love…

Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

It’s time for you to get unstuck and gain momentum in your life! We had a great weekend. We love to cook and host people and had quite a few friends over this weekend. We also got to spend time having fun with our little man, laughing and doing all sorts of crazy things. We woke up to this message from a client today who got unstuck… “I thought I’d let you know that I have connected with men much…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him! I don’t know. Maybe! Ya I think I’d like to do that. I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar? Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online? Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive. He is an ambitious professional. He is family…

Common Relationship Problems – We had a 2 Hour lip boxing Fight

Common Relationship Problems & Challenges What are common relationship problems and challenges? Are they normal? Are they a sign you are with the wrong person or that you need to fix something? Over the weekend we did all sorts of fun things. Our son, Mason, had Friday through Monday off and we took advantage. We spent quality time together as a family. We broke bread with friends. We laughed a lot. We also had a lip boxing fight that lasted…

We don’t claim to help everyone.

We’ve been at this for over a decade. In that time, we have tried to help our clients in A LOT of different ways. We worked with clients face-to-face in our office in the traditional therapy model. We met for an hour a week….and every week it felt like we were starting over again. Progress was SLOW. We created ebooks. We had monthly memberships where people could ask us questions. We had products that highlighted one part of our system…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…

What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball. On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise. THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP! This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds…

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy. At least not for you. It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying. It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling. As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it. Every time I played basketball I shot…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…

She Used to Believe it COULDN’T Happen for Her… Then it Did!

We just got this message from a client who USED to believe this couldn’t happen for her. We are so excited for her and my ❤️ is full! This is what happens when you take committed action, take different actions then before and follow a step-by-step system. FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If you are…

Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

I’ve been studying successful people from different time periods recently. Abraham Lincoln was a big giver in his orientation toward others. Many people initially thought this was a weakness of his. They underestimated him as a result, however he consistently showed up as a giver and was extremely successful over the long haul as a result. It reminds me of this quote by Chip Conley “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a…

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on after divorce can be rough. Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades. Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating. She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

“WHO IS HELPING THE MEN GET THEIR ACTS TOGETHER?”

This is a question we received from a woman today. We answered: “There are many coaches and experts helping men. Many men are seeking this help. It’s a huge million dollar industry. We happen to specialize in working with women. Have a great day.” The sad part to us is that she is asking a question that dis-empowers her. It takes her away from her own success. It focuses her on something she can’t control. With our clients, one of…

Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Many of us have experienced being cheated on. The experience often leaves you with unanswered questions. Why do men cheat? Do all men cheat? In this episode we talk with a woman from Michigan about how she is dealing with her recent divorce after discovering her ex-husband was repeatedly cheating. She even recently had a date after meeting a guy on the dance floor. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives.…

Attraction and Chemistry are a lot like Motivation.

Most people wait and depend on someone or something outside of themselves to give them motivation or attraction. That’s why motivation and attraction rarely happen and are short lived when they do occur. Yes, some of attraction is innate and totally outside of our control. Yet, much of attraction and chemistry for someone else starts within you. The energy, boldness and playfulness you bring to an interaction with someone is huge. The parts of you…