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Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

Red Flags in Dating – Signs You are Dating a Narcissist, Commitment Phobe, or Fixer Upper

In today’s Date to Soul Mate Show we teach you the Biggest Red Flags in Dating to AVOID toxic men.  To identify Narcissists, Commitment Phobes and Fixer Uppers, Are you ready to meet a relationship ready man? Are you giving a ton of your energy and effort to putting yourself out there, but find that you seemingly always end up with a narcissist, fixer upper, or commitment phobe? Amazing women ask us every day how to find a relationship ready…

When Life Flips You the Bird!

Do you know It took Leonardo da Vinci 10 YEARS to paint Mona Lisa’s lips. You might feel frustrated that you haven’t found the right guy yet. Hell, you might just be wondering whether there is even a good-ish guy out there for you. The dating game can knock you on your a#ss. It can suck any positive feelings right out of you if you aren’t careful. At times it feels like life is flipping you the bird. Life is…

What’s Your Winning System?

It’s almost Thanksgiving! Are you still recovering from the big ole election. Wow things are crazy right now right? No matter who you voted for, it feels like things are chaotic. It feels like a lot is out of your control. We are here to bring you some good news. It’s different than the gloom and doom in your news or tee-vee’s. There is a lot that is in your control. No you can’t control what President Trump does! You…

The 5 Biggest Mistakes Most Women Make with The Right Guys

Every day we talk to women who are making some simple mistakes with the right guys. It sucks because these women are incredible! Smart, successful, kind, and good people! But, they are doing a couple of small things that are driving away the kind of men they would really like to share their lives with. After one or two dates, they aren’t hearing from the men that they wish would call again and give them another chance. We had the…
What if you DON’T do something?

What if you DON’T do something?

We want you to take a quick second to take a little journey with us… Let’s imagine for a second your life is going to stay the SAME. You’ll make the SAME amount of money. You’ll have the SAME relationships. Most of all, you’ll have the SAME PROBLEMS in love. You’ll STILL be single or miserable in a dead end relationship. You’ll STILL be going out on dates with narcissists, fixer-uppers and commitment phobes. You’ll STILL be meeting man-childs who…
A little Thank You…..

A little Thank You…..

We are so happy that you are part of our community!  We wanted to connect with you and provide you with an EXTRA level of support. First of all, thank you for believing in a unicorn!  Many of you haven’t seen or experienced a love life full of passion, fulfillment, and joy. We know that it can be hard to hold on to hope that it exists. BUT, you are certainly doing it because you are here taking this journey…
Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

Why Love is Harder for the over achiever!

If you are reading this, we already know that you are an overachiever! Tricked you. Seriously though. Dating is tougher for people who are ambitious, driven, and tend to over achieve. You always earned good grades, you have never missed a deadline, and every time you “apply” yourself, you have gotten the result you wanted. Of course, that only applies to every other area of your life except your love life, only THE MOST IMPORTANT thing in your life. Most…
Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

Live Call in Show – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 20

We have a special Date to Soul Mate Show Episode for you. We did a facebook live call in show. That’s right… We gave people advice right on the spot. We will continue to do this so make sure you’ve joined our free facebook group to watch the next show and even call in if you would like. https://www.facebook.com/groups/wineandlove/ If you want to have your last first date and jump on a free Single to Soul Mates call with us…
A Love Letter

A Love Letter

Your heart is good. You dream big. You try hard. You love selflessly. You care deeply. You do it all for everyone else. You think about their needs. You show up when they need you, no matter what your needs are at that moment. You come home alone. You want someone to lay next to at night. You want someone to console you after a rough day. Sometimes you cry. Does anyone even notice? Does anyone think about what you…
Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn on the Maggie Linton Show

Hey Date to Soul Mate Nation, We hope you are doing well.  We know it can be very frustrating out there in dating land. That’s why we are so passionate about helping ALL of you create real connections out there. That’s why we put out so much free content and advice.  We want to see you succeed. We were just recently interviewed on the Maggie Linton Show. We touched on several important topics including attracting the right person and where…
Love Compatibility – Are you settling for the wrong guy?

Love Compatibility – Are you settling for the wrong guy?

When we were in New York, we used Airbnb to rent an apartment for over a week.  Online the apartment looked great.  In the pictures it looked clean, modern and like it had quite a bit of room (for Manhattan). We were very excited about staying there for an extended period of time.  We booked the place about two months in advance.  We were fantasizing about our great place in New York for several months, building it up in our…
Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Free Love Success Summit with Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

Why can’t I meet someone? Is this a thought you’ve had? Does it seem like meeting the right person is nearly impossible? Or when you do, it never works out? Don’t worry. You’re not alone. Many, many women are in the same boat you are. They are driven and successful in so many areas of their life except one: Finding the one. Ravid Yosef is a cancer survivor and successful businesswoman.  She is putting together a FREE summit called the Love Success Summit to finally ask…
The NY fire department broke us out

The NY fire department broke us out

Our family has been staying in Manhattan, NY for the past 10 days or so. It has been a great time. We took our son Mason to see The School of Rock which he thought was hilarious. The pure joy in watching him watch the show was palpable. One night we got a babysitter and went out with some friends of ours for dinner and drinks. We went to this steak restaurant that had been open for 150 years. We…
Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

Donald vs. Hillary Debate #1 tonight

The event is finally here. The Donald vs. Hillary. The first debate is tonight and some are predicting 100 million of us will be watching. That sounds crazy. Are you going to be watching?   In any debate what you say isn’t as important as how you present and express yourself.   In 2000, Al Gore supposedly had a good debate performance based on is the content of his words. He absolutely got killed though by W. in how he…
How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

How to Give a Massage to Your Partner with Yasuko Kawamura

Learn how to give a massage to your partner.  Yasuko Kawamura stops by The Date to Soul Mate Show to teach how to to give a good massage to someone. Yasuko is a Board Certified Licensed Massage Therapist and Reiki practitioner based in Orange County, California. Yasuko has a passion in teaching Couples Massage Class’ in which couples learn how to massage each other using easy massage techniques that do not hurt their fingers. By showing them how to effectively…
Beware of The Energy Vampires & Negative People

Beware of The Energy Vampires & Negative People

Do you feel like you don’t have time or energy for love? Do you find yourself dealing with other people’s problems, negative people and feeling completely depleted? There are family, friends, co-workers and other people out there who will suck the time and energy out of your life.  They are negative people.  They may or may not mean to but boy are they good at it. Audit Your Needy Naysers and Negative People in Your Life Before you can really be…

What happened between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard?

We’re sure you’ve heard about the latest sad news in celebrity coupledom.  Unfortunately, this isn’t your regular celebrity breakup or rehab stint. Johnny and Amber are getting divorced after 15 months of marriage.  Their marriage was short even in Hollywood years, but that’s the least of it. Amber is accusing Johnny of domestic violence.  This is getting ugly early.  She said that he has been physically and verbally violent throughout their marriage.  She claims that Johnny snorts cocaine, drinks and…
The Donald vs. The Hills

The Donald vs. The Hills

Can you fathom how crazy the next 6 months will be in the presidential election? It’s down to two people. The Donald vs. The Hills No matter what your politics, you know it’s going to get vicious between these two. Old Donnie boy can’t help but throw verbal punches left and right.  He’s already accusing Bill Clinton of being a rapist and saying Hillary enabled it all. Hillary already put out an attack ad on the reality star using his…
Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

Fighting with Your Man – The Honest Truth about Arguments

When you argue with your man what are you really arguing about? What are you thinking during the argument? What are you trying to do in the argument? Most of our arguments and fights aren’t what they appear to be on the surface. Whether you are arguing with some namby pamby on flakebook or your lip boxing with your lover, you are using all sorts of ninja like attacks and defensive moves that go deeper than just the topic of…

Ashley’s Big Toe vs. A Marinara Sauce Jar

OOOOOOHHHHHH NNNOOOOOOOOOO   Michael heard a frightening scream and loud crying from the kitchen.   He was instantly hit with an intense fear. The kind of fear that stops your heart. Makes you hyper alert. The kind you only feel when you’re worried for your life.   Or for the life of someone you love.   Michael ran into the kitchen. Ashley was bent over crying. Our son Mason was sitting on the kitchen counter looking frightened.   Ashely was…

The Psychology of Love and Relationships: Why You Should Say Yes to Love

What is your relationship to creating lasting love in your life? Do you have a yes attitude or a no attitude? These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answers will make or break your dating/relationship success. It could be the reason you’ve been doing everything you can think of to find lasting love but nothing has worked. Your answers are related to the psychology of love and relationships. Initially, most of our clients have a no attitude toward…

Overcoming Commitment Issues: Sex won’t make him put a ring on it

  You’ve probably heard that men have commitment issues.   You’ve most likely read or heard some pop psychology psychobabble from Cosmo or talk shows about how men have a fear of commitment.   First of all men don’t have commitment issues.  Have you ever seen a man when he is passionate about something?  He is so committed to that one thing he has a hard time thinking about anything else or even paying attention to you.   Try to tell…

How to Make Your Boyfriend Smile

  Are unsure how to bring passion and excitement to your relationship? Would you like to take your relationship back to the honeymoon stage without spending any more time together? If you feel like your relationship is stuck in a rut, than you are in luck.   There is a communication strategy that we’ve discovered called Honeymoon communication which can dramatically change how your lover thinks about you and your relationship.   It can be difficult to know what to…

How to Give a Romantic Massage to Your Lover

  Have you ever had an insanely busy, tense day where all you want to do is come home and melt into your partner’s arms or go straight to the spa for a massage?  You might even be thinking “HELLO! I feel that way every day!”   When we started our work with couples, we very quickly learned that there is nothing worse than when both partners are stressed out physically and emotionally.   Most of us have endless to do…

2 Tips on How to Let Go of Your Ex Forever

If you want to know how to let go of your ex once and for all you are in the right place.  Learn these 2 simple techniques to get over someone. A woman came to us in despair…. She couldn’t get the thought of that jerk out of her mind. She kept replaying all the bad things he ever did to her over and over again. She also couldn’t forget how good he made her feel. There were brief moments when she…

Why are Relationships so Hard?

“Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.” Marilyn Vos Savant Why do we have so many problems when it comes to love and relationships? Here’s another question: Why do so many people get fat after college? In college we all say, “I’m never going to be one of those people that gets fat”. You think to yourself that will never happen to me. Then, all of a sudden, you’re looking in the mirror…

Improve Your Self Image to Improve Your Love Life

  What is your self image? Your self image is your map or mental blueprint of yourself.     It is how you picture and think about yourself. What you see yourself being able to do and be. How you see your strengths and limitations, successes and failures.   We all have a self image, but you may or may not be conscious of yours. Self image is frequently changing, except if you didn’t know to update yours, than you…

Feeling Depressed, Angry or Anxious? Don’t Try and Solve Your Relationship Problems

  Have you ever tried to talk to your partner about something or solve problems when you were feeling depressed, anxious and angry?   It’s practically impossible to solve anything when you are in a bad emotional state.   If you’ve ever watched any of the singing reality stars or professional athletes perform under pressure, you know that rational, talented and skilled people can look and act completely irrational, make poor decisions and look downright foolish when faced with intense…

Communication Problems – YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!

  Communication Problems and misunderstandings often lead to relationship problems. But you don’t have to believes us, let’s start with a story…….   YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!   How would it feel if your husband came home from work and told you that? Ya all the women reading this want to collectively stomp on this guy’s *$%#* with their sharpest 8 inch stilettos.   Believe it or not, a guy Ashley was working with…