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The Psychology of Love and Relationships: Why You Should Say Yes to Love

What is your relationship to creating lasting love in your life? Do you have a yes attitude or a no attitude? These are important questions to ask yourself, because your answers will make or break your dating/relationship success. It could be the reason you’ve been doing everything you can think of to find lasting love but nothing has worked. Your answers are related to the psychology of love and relationships. Initially, most of our clients have a no attitude toward…

Overcoming Commitment Issues: Sex won’t make him put a ring on it

  You’ve probably heard that men have commitment issues.   You’ve most likely read or heard some pop psychology psychobabble from Cosmo or talk shows about how men have a fear of commitment.   First of all men don’t have commitment issues.  Have you ever seen a man when he is passionate about something?  He is so committed to that one thing he has a hard time thinking about anything else or even paying attention to you.   Try to tell…

How to Make Your Boyfriend Smile

  Are unsure how to bring passion and excitement to your relationship? Would you like to take your relationship back to the honeymoon stage without spending any more time together? If you feel like your relationship is stuck in a rut, than you are in luck.   There is a communication strategy that we’ve discovered called Honeymoon communication which can dramatically change how your lover thinks about you and your relationship.   It can be difficult to know what to…

How to Give a Romantic Massage to Your Lover

  Have you ever had an insanely busy, tense day where all you want to do is come home and melt into your partner’s arms or go straight to the spa for a massage?  You might even be thinking “HELLO! I feel that way every day!”   When we started our work with couples, we very quickly learned that there is nothing worse than when both partners are stressed out physically and emotionally.   Most of us have endless to do…

2 Tips on How to Let Go of Your Ex Forever

If you want to know how to let go of your ex once and for all you are in the right place.  Learn these 2 simple techniques to get over someone. A woman came to us in despair…. She couldn’t get the thought of that jerk out of her mind. She kept replaying all the bad things he ever did to her over and over again. She also couldn’t forget how good he made her feel. There were brief moments when she…

Why are Relationships so Hard?

“Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.” Marilyn Vos Savant Why do we have so many problems when it comes to love and relationships? Here’s another question: Why do so many people get fat after college? In college we all say, “I’m never going to be one of those people that gets fat”. You think to yourself that will never happen to me. Then, all of a sudden, you’re looking in the mirror…

Improve Your Self Image to Improve Your Love Life

  What is your self image? Your self image is your map or mental blueprint of yourself.     It is how you picture and think about yourself. What you see yourself being able to do and be. How you see your strengths and limitations, successes and failures.   We all have a self image, but you may or may not be conscious of yours. Self image is frequently changing, except if you didn’t know to update yours, than you…

Feeling Depressed, Angry or Anxious? Don’t Try and Solve Your Relationship Problems

  Have you ever tried to talk to your partner about something or solve problems when you were feeling depressed, anxious and angry?   It’s practically impossible to solve anything when you are in a bad emotional state.   If you’ve ever watched any of the singing reality stars or professional athletes perform under pressure, you know that rational, talented and skilled people can look and act completely irrational, make poor decisions and look downright foolish when faced with intense…

Communication Problems – YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!

  Communication Problems and misunderstandings often lead to relationship problems. But you don’t have to believes us, let’s start with a story…….   YOU’RE FAT, LAZY AND A DEAD FISH IN THE SACK!   How would it feel if your husband came home from work and told you that? Ya all the women reading this want to collectively stomp on this guy’s *$%#* with their sharpest 8 inch stilettos.   Believe it or not, a guy Ashley was working with…

What are Emotional Needs and How they Impact Your Love Life

  We love Starbucks. Ya we have sold out and gone commercial but it’s true. Michael loves their Americano’s and Ashley their bacon and Gouda breakfast sandwiches and don’t even get us started on their Holiday Latte’s.   The other day we were at Starbucks pretending to mind our own business, but we couldn’t help but notice a mother and daughter LOUDLY talking to each other. So, of course we had to eavesdrop.   The daughter must’ve had a big…

Flooding Yourself with Negative thoughts and Bad Memories of Your Partner

  We are major Foodies. We love talking about, preparing and eating FOOD. Ashley is an amazing cook and loves the process of cooking just as much as savoring the end result. She reads books, magazine and blogs on cooking FOR FUN.   Don’t even get her started on homemade baby food…….she could spend hours making it!   Michael feels like he hit the jackpot because his wife, mother and mother in-law are all great cooks. He can cook too,…

Giving up on Love? Discover One of the Most Destructive Habits for Your Love Life

  She walked in very slowly. Her shoulders were slumped down and she avoided eye contact with everyone. The way she felt made her look 10 years old than her actual age. Her husband of 5 years was trailing behind her looking like he was walking into a sex shop or something. Like he didn’t want anyone to see or recognize him here.   She sat down and after about one hour into the presentation she raised her hand and…

Relationship Problems? The #1 Thing You Can Do to Rescue Your Relationship

  We know a couple. Jack and Debbie. Jack is a Pediatrician and Debbie is a high level executive for a computer company. On paper they are a perfect match. They’re both attractive…..smart… successful…. And have pretty much the same values. They’re the kind of couple you look at and get jealous of because they seem like Ken and Barbie.   They also have two kids 2 year old Dakota and 4 year old Huntington. They’re so cute you almost…

The Work Wife – The Explosion of Cheating and Sex At Work

  The Work Wife – the Explosion of Cheating and Sex at Work   You wouldn’t believe the stories we’ve heard of cheating in relationships being relationship experts and talking to lots of people about their relationship problems.   Cheating and sex at work are so common that there are even new terms to describe what’s happening….   WORK WIFE or WORK HUSBAND   That’s right, after all the effort it took to get some caveman to commit to you,…

Does Coaching Work? Does Coaching Work?

  When people find out what we do they often ask us…                                  Does coaching work? or Does dating coaching Work?   We tell them and they ask…..                                   Yes but does coaching really work?   We tell them again and they ask…. Yes but does coaching work with ______(X) X being a specific problem such as anxiety, depression, anger problems, marital issues etc…   So Does Coaching Work?   The answer is Yes and No. Damn don’t you hate these kinds…

Marriage Breakdown 101: The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

  Famed Psychologist and Marriage Researcher Dr. John Gottman has identified 4 communication behaviors that are signs of a marriage breakdown.   Dr. Gottman named these behaviors The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Before you start thinking your relationship is doomed or you’re headed for a marriage breakdown, these behaviors are often reversible.   The first step is being aware that you and your partner are engaging in these destructive behaviors. Also, all couples use these behaviors at times, but…

Where the Hell Are You….In Your Love Life

  We love San Francisco. We love going there for weekend romantic getaways. In fact, our favorite Italian restaurant in the whole world is there, Franchino’s. It’s the kind of restaurant where it feels like your mother is doing the cooking, only its a version of your mother that is an even better cook. It’s run by an Italian family. The father is the host and runs the front end of the restaurant (every day is his birthday apparently), the…

Dealing with a Long Distance Relationship

Mailbag Question: Dealing with a Long Distance Relationship   I moved to Texas with the intention of working there for a year, maybe more. Within the first three months I met a man and we hit it off from the start. He was everything I had ever wanted in a man in terms of personality and morals. We got to the stage of deciding whether to take things to the next level (boyfriend and girlfriend). This was before I went…

Relationships Suck….Sometimes

  Relationships suck sometimes. That’s right. We said it. Relationships suck sometimes.   Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’ve been dumped by the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. It sucks.   Maybe, you’ve been in a long-term relationship or you’re married and things were good at first but have just slowly dwindled down to nothing; no passion, little love – just sort of roommates passing by as the days go…

3 Ways to Stop Fighting in a Relationship

Learn 3 Ways to Stop Fighting in a Relationship and make your relationship better instantly. Are you and your partner stuck constantly fighting? Crucial Habits for relationship success

Make Your Marriage Work By Using Pain as a Weapon for Good

Learn how to make your marriage work by using pain to help you get unstuck and through any relationship challenges. Create a simple habit to make your marriage work and improve the quality of your relationship. Free Relationship Advice!

How to Have Charisma and Attract Your Perfect Mate

How to have charisma and Attract Your Perfect Mate. Have others feel so connected and close to you that they can’t help but like you. If you’re in the dating world, attract people that are worthy of you. If you’re in a relationship, feel attraction, love and deep connection