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Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting over each day and each moment is key in life.  Get a fresh start today by using the clear the calculator technique.  You don’t have to wait till tomorrow to start again or star over in life.  Now is the time. Usually when we think of starting over we think of it as some big Jerry Maguire moment where we completely separate ourselves from our old life and take drastic action. Starting over can happen each day.  It can…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…
Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Online Dating Advice – How to Deal with Douches, Pervs, and Flakes

Today let’s get down to some real online dating advice. Certain aspects of online dating are maddening. Dealing with all the douche’s, pervs, players, haters and flakes out there is enough to make you want to become a nun and commit your life to ANYTHING other than a member of the male species. You know what we’re talking about. Those douchey or pervy messages you get from guys. Crudely commenting on how you look. Messaging you… “let’s f##k” as their…
Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Why Do Men Cheat – Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS #61

Many of us have experienced being cheated on. The experience often leaves you with unanswered questions. Why do men cheat? Do all men cheat? In this episode we talk with a woman from Michigan about how she is dealing with her recent divorce after discovering her ex-husband was repeatedly cheating. She even recently had a date after meeting a guy on the dance floor. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives.…
Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys

What Creates Chemistry Between Two People? Many women we talk to are frustrated that they don’t have chemistry with nice guys. They meet guys who seem great, but they simply aren’t attracted to them. How can you find a man you have chemistry with? Chemistry Between Two People – Why You Don’t Have Chemistry with Nice Guys FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women…
Does Match.com Work?

Does Match.com Work?

One of the biggest questions we get asked is “which Dating site or app should I use?” The bad news is there is no holy grail of dating sites or apps. There isn’t ONE that beats all the rest. Dating sites are like diets. There are many out there and the best one for you is the one you’ll use and stick to using. Today we talk about Match.com. Should you use Match.com? How do you use Match.com to actually…
How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

How Megan Stopped Dating the Wrong Guys Over and Over

Megan was 34. She had a graduate degree and a great career. She was attractive, fit and smart. She had a full life. Yet she kept dating the wrong men. Sure, men were pursuing her, but all these guys were way off from what she was looking for…. OR She was into a guy, only to have him leave her after things seemed to be going great. She was stuck in a repeating cycle of wrong guy after wrong guy.…
4 Online Dating Tips for Women

4 Online Dating Tips for Women

In the latest Date to Soul Mate Show we talk about 4 steps to successfully find the right person online. Online dating can be a complete time and energy wasting rabbit hole. We also have many clients who find love online after years of dating the wrong people. If you focus on these 4 steps you put yourself in a much better position to find the right person for you online. APPLY FOR A FREE ATTRACT THE MAN YOU WANT…
Have Him Pursue You

Have Him Pursue You

Let’s get together sometime! Let’s meet up soon. We’ll figure it out. I’ll hit you up sometime. One of the worst things in dating is when a person is SOMETIMING you. When they’re SOONING you. Even worse is when they expect you to do ALL the work. Let me know when you’re free! Let me know when you want to get together again. If you want to be the person in charge of making all the plans and giving all…
How to stop Falling in Love with the Wrong Men

How to stop Falling in Love with the Wrong Men

Getting dumped when you’re in love with someone is the worst. Realizing that the person you have the feelz for is totally wrong for you is excruciating. We know how hard it is to choose the right person to love. Many of you have asked us how you can stop falling for guys so quickly. How you can stop falling for the wrong guys over and over again. We teach our clients a specific dating process for how they can…
Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Top 4 Reasons Why Men Pull Away

Discover why men pull away after getting close.  Why do men disappear after things seemed to be going well?  We’ll answer these questions for you once and for all. It really hurts when a guy you’re dating just disappears. You have a great date and you never hear from him again. You have a great first few months only to have him ghost on you. Or Maybe you have some flirty and fun messages back and forth online or on…
Is Comfort Holding You Back from Love?

Is Comfort Holding You Back from Love?

Often what’s OKAY, GOOD or COMFORTABLE is the main obstacle to your ultimate fulfillment in love. Comfort and Okayness are dream killers. They seduce you into complacency. They cause you to retreat back to old habits that are comfortable yet hold you back when you hit a big challenge. They stop you from taking the emotionally hard actions that lead to experiencing the kind of relationship you want and deserve. Our clients have that “hell no” moment. That moment when…
Why don’t MEN change?

Why don’t MEN change?

We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change…. Why don’t men change? Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men? Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..; “So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be…
Are you making choices from your feelings or your system?

Are you making choices from your feelings or your system?

If you want to break out of dating the wrong guys over and over again you need a system. If you want to stop searching endless profiles online of guys you don’t like you need a system. To do anything great long term you need a system. Whether it’s your health, physical fitness, your career or having great relationships with others you need a system for long term success. Most of people don’t have a system when it comes to dating.…
Can’t stop the Perfection….

Can’t stop the Perfection….

In our household the theme song from Troll’s plays a lot right now. Our son Mason is a huge fan. Can’t stop the feeling…… Can’t stop the feeling….. We usually have it stuck in our heads. Most of us have another song stuck in our heads day in and day out. It’ called… Can’t stop the perfection…. We play it all day – everyday. We strive to be perfect. In every area of our lives. We NEED to have the…
You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

You can’t be successful in love without this one thing!

Most of our clients initially come to us for dating and relationship strategies. They know we’ve created a proven system for finding love with the right person and they want to KNOW the tactics we teach. People focus on tips and tactics. You want to know how to flirt. Where to find the right person. What site or app to use. What to say. Same with dieting.  We want to know the latest tactic or strategy for losing weight. Most…
Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

Do you really need chemistry with a guy?

He’s soooo nice, BUT I’m not into him! He’s a great guy, BUT I don’t feel any chemistry! He wants to be with me, BUT I’m not attracted to him! Many of the clients we work with come to us initially having zero chemistry with the men their “SUPPOSED” to like and having a lot of chemistry with emotionally unavailable men. Their frustrated that they aren’t attracted to these NICE and GOOD guys. The questions is… Do you really need…
Don’t buy another dating book

Don’t buy another dating book

You don’t need to buy ANOTHER dating book or read ANOTHER article on love. More information is hurting your chances in love. You don’t need more information. You don’t need to learn THE LATEST sexy new tactic to “attract your man”. More information keeps you stuck. It frustrates you. It zaps your time and energy. It keeps you in your head thinking over and over again. It murders your genuine connection with men. What sabotages your success in love are…
You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You are only ONE green light signal or conversation away from finding the love of your life…..

You just don’t know which green light signal it will be! That’s right. One green light signal or one conversation with the RIGHT PERSON at the RIGHT TIME will change the course of your life. The problem is we don’t connect with each other anymore. We are more unapproachable than ever. We are stuck in our phones, stuck in our mental to do list, and running from one activity to another. We also have our walls up because we’ve been hurt…
Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

Are you pen pals or are you ACTUALLY dating?

There is a special kind of boiling frustration that engulfs you when a guy you met online continues to want to be message pals or text buddies. The dreaded never ending messages. He messages you over and over again. or He halfheartedly messages you every once in awhile. All without ever asking you out on a REAL DATE. The growing resentment inside of you explodes when he send you another “what’s up” message. The worst part of it is you…
What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

What you want DOESN’T matter if you don’t figure this out first….

We LOVE San Francisco. We love going there for weekend romantic getaways. In fact, our FAVORITE Italian restaurant in the whole world is there, Franchino’s. It’s the kind of restaurant where it feels like your mother is doing the cooking, only its a version of your mother that is an even better cook. (sshhhh don’t tell our mothers we said that) It’s run by an Italian family. The father is the host and runs the front end of the restaurant…
What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

What are the root causes of the Forever Single Dating Patterns?

Sarah came to us in a sweat of panic and debilitating confusion. She knew she was stuck… She was trapped in several of the forever single dating patterns… She was excruciatingly aware that she was meeting guys who weren’t right for her. She kept dating these guys who seemed right but were breadcrumbing her. She was also meeting a gang of guys who were WAY off from what she was looking for. She KNEW there was better guys out there… Several…
The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

The Biggest Lie of Matchmaking

“I’m looking for a guy who is a cross between Shemar Moore and Jayson Taylor and I won’t settle for anything less”. When we worked as matchmakers at eHarmony, one of our clients told us the above statement. She wanted us to find her a guy who looked like a cross between these two VERY GOOD LOOKING men. Shemar Moore even dated Halle Berry at one point.  These guys are extremely attractive celebrities and professional athletes. Go to google to see…
What Makes a Man WANT to Commit to You

What Makes a Man WANT to Commit to You

What makes a man want to commit to the right woman? The number one thing we hear from women every single day is that they only meet men who are NOT looking for the one thing they want—a committed relationship. These men usually want to date “casually”, when things are convenient for them, no strings attached. Here is the biggest problem, often times things with this kind of man are HOT. When you are with him, you feel chemistry, connection,…
Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Bumble Dating Review – Bumble secrets exposed

Here is our Bumble Dating Review and our tips and secrets to use Bumble successfully. Have you used the dating app Bumble? Bumble is one of the hottest and most popular dating apps out there right now. Many women are jumping on the app.  In fact it is one of the most successful dating apps for our clients.  Many of our clients have met the man they want on bumble. It’s similar to Tinder in that both you and a…
Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Finding love isn’t always easy, It’s Always worth it!

Anytime you are doing something difficult or big you will come up against resistance. Resistance from yourself. Resistance from family and friends. Resistance from strangers who will criticize you. Resistance from all the different challenges life throws at you. And finding lasting love with the right person IS BIG. It’s one of the most impactful elements of your life. Yes, anyone can fall into a relationship with someone. But to find love and create an amazing long term bond is…