The Curse of the One Hit Wonder

one hit wonder


I get knocked down, but I get up again
You are never gonna keep me down
I get knocked down, but I get up again
You are never gonna keep me down
I get knocked down, but I get up again
You are never gonna keep me down
I get knocked down, but I get up again
You are never gonna keep me down

He drinks a Whiskey drink, he drinks a Vodka drink
He drinks a Lager drink, he drinks a Cider drink
He sings the songs that remind him of the good times
He sings the songs that remind him of the best times
(Oh Danny Boy, Danny Boy, Danny Boy)

Do you remember this song?

It’s the gloriously bad yet catchy Tubthumping by the band Chumbawamba.

Ya even just the song and band name sound crazy right?

If you don’t know this song, you are seriously missing out on a brain rattling song that will be stuck in your head for decades.

Go here to listen to the song if you don’t know it:

Chumbawamba was a major one hit wonder of a band.

They never topped the charts again.

The band was one dimensional and couldn’t grow to have a more evolved sound.

What does this have to do with you love life?


We’ve seen a lot of people who have become one hit wonders in how they express themselves in dating.

It always starts out with a strength of your personality.

Maybe your smart…






Kind or caring…

It starts with a naturally strong personality trait of yours.

When you interact with people your strength helps you shine.

People gravitate to you BECAUSE of your humor, intelligence, kindness, spontaneousness etc.

You begin to realize you have a REAL strength and you go all in.

Suddenly, you express yourself using your strength frequently and before long it’s something you rely on almost all the time when interacting with others or dates.

It has now become a muscle that is over used….   over worked…

Your strength has now become somewhat of a crutch or weakness because you go to it too often.

You have now become a one hit wonder in how you express yourself.

Falling into this trap is a major curse when it comes to dating and love.

It kills attraction and your vibe with other people.   They start to see you as one dimensional.

The antidote is to develop, express and live out 2-4 of your personality strengths.

AND bring out 1 or 2 qualities that are already inside of you that complement your personality strengths.

When you do this you become almost like a unicorn.  Men say “woah” inside when they interact with you because they’ve almost never seen 2 complementary qualities in the same person.

Here’s an example….

Let’s say your uber smart and you’ve been relaying on this strength solely.

You discover that your other strengths are that you’re ambitious, attractive and thoughtful.

You start to live out and express all four of these strengths on your dates and when interacting with others.

You also develop two complementary qualities to your intelligence.

You decide there is a lot of playfulness inside of you, so you start to bring out and express your playful side at times along side your smarts.

Now you have what we call Attractive complementary qualities and you stand out in a REAL attractive way to men.

You want to think long and hard about what qualities fit best with who you are.

We have helped thousands of women identify and live out their very own attractive complementary qualities.

If you would like to learn our wicked ways for teaching you this powerful concept, book a free Single to Soul Mates Session with us.

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael