Deal Breakers for Dating – This deal breaker is a burning red flag to get out now

What are the critical deal breakers for dating?  What are the signs that he is not right for you and that you need to move on right now?

Deal Breakers for Dating

deal breakers for dating

Have you ever felt stuck in the middle with someone?

You notice a few things about them that aren’t your favorite.

You wonder if maybe these things about them might change.

They seem to have some good qualities, but there are others that are just missing.

Being stuck in the GRAY ZONE is the most massive deal breaker in dating.

Even worse, what if you find yourself dating someone who you are into and want it to turn to a commitment, but that person says they just aren’t ready for that yet?

If someone is consistently telling you that they don’t want a commitment with you, GTHO.

There are two things you need to do to avoid these deal breakers.

First, listen to your inner dialogue about the person you are seeing.

There is a caveat here.

Sometimes our heart barriers may prevent us from being willing and able to connect deeply with the right person.

Heart barriers are fears, doubts, and insecurities that come from our past experiences in relationships and sometimes even our childhood patterns.

These heart barriers lead to what we call the forever single dating patterns.

What that means is that if you have some of these heart barriers, you can try pretty much any dating strategy and it won’t work.

You will also notice that the same patterns keep popping up in your relationships.

Some of those patterns are rarely feeling chemistry, finding the men that pursue you undesirable, being ghosted by the men you want, dating unavailable men, and the list goes on.

Secondly, listen closely to the words that are coming out of the mouths of the people you meet.

People will be far more brutally honest than you could ever think.

Don’t think or hope someone will wake up one day and decide that you are great.

When you are first getting to know someone it should be fun, exciting and riveting.

If you are finding yourself hoping or waiting around for someone to do something different, that is the biggest deal breaker, it is a huge sign that you should run very fast in the other direction.

There is nothing worse than sticking around waiting for someone to realize you are awesome.

Here’s why.

Inevitably, things will end with that person.

You won’t feel valued.

You won’t feel loved.

You will feel a constant, low level feeling of rejection.

You will notice that uncertainty about how, when, or if a deeper commitment will happened can begin to consume nearly every thought you have.

You have to try to convince yourself constantly that everything’s ok.

You deserve better than that.

Refuse to accept less.


Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

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