Why don’t MEN change?


We receive A LOT of messages and comments wondering why women have to change….

Why don’t men change?

Why don’t you teach guys how to be better men?

Here are a few of the messages we’ve received recently…..;

“So the only way they are going to help anyone is if they start re-educating men! Teach them how to be DECENT Human Beings. That’s the problem. That is why over half of the female population is single. Women choose to be single rather than “put up” with men and their garbage.”

“Is there a master class where they can teach boys how to be men??? It seems guys these days don’t want to grow up, commit and respect women…”

“Men need to change. It’s not women. Men don’t want to be a in a relationship and could care less about our needs.”

“Why don’t you teach men to stop being selfish jerks.”

“Men are scummy, we’re much better off without them.”

We totally get it!

Dating is frustrating.

It can be demoralizing.

It can beat you down to the point where you want to give up.

It can create pain like no other area of your life.

You feel like you’re wasting your precious time and energy dating unavailable and undesirable men.

It’s only natural to want MEN to change.

It makes sense that you would want the men out there to work on themselves too.

The problem is that waiting for men to change is a losing game.

Believing that men have to change for you to succeed in love is an approach that keeps you stuck.

It makes you feel out of control.

It makes you feel hopeless, because what men as a group are doing IS out of your control.

Here is the good news…

There is another approach to men and modern dating that works much better.

There are millions of great men out there working on themselves.

They are growing…

Getting better at relationships….

Becoming more of their best selves…

Don’t worry about the guys who aren’t ready for a relationship, who are narcissists, who are liars, or who are stuck in their parent’s basement.

What’s most important is your approach in finding and connecting with these great men.

We’re more than happy to share with you what’s working for our client’s right now.

If you would like to learn how to find and connect with this type of man, reach out to us.


Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn