Why great men disappear

We just had a recent conversation with a “yes, but” person.

She reached out to us requesting help in finding her person.

She couldn’t proclaim enough that she wanted to work with us, was ready to do whatever it takes, and was all in!

This is always red flag number one.

It’s like when you are planning a first date with a guy and every message he sends you has one million exclamations….you can just tell right away that something is off.

When we got in deeper with this person, it was clear she didn’t think she had any changing to do.

There were a lot of qualifiers.

Here’s the thing, if you really want to fix something, you will do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to fix it, which includes trying things you have done unsuccessfully in the past with a new twist to see if they yield a different result.

The people who stay stuck are the ones who have conceded that there isn’t anything they can do in their love life to get to where they want to be.

They consider grand gestures such as uprooting their life to another city before they do something simple like look within and see what else they can do

There are four main places where you can be getting stuck in your love life.


If you aren’t finding the right type of men, here are the main symptoms you will see…

Going on almost no first dates because no one is interesting or exciting to you.

Going on one million first dates that never go anywhere.


If you aren’t creating attraction, here are the main symptoms you will see…

You get to 1-5 dates with men you are excited about and then they ghost or disappear suddenly after coming on strong.

You go on a lot of first dates where you don’t feel any chemistry with guys or they just seem boring.


If you aren’t creating connection, men won’t commit to you. You may have great relationships (short or long) with men who seem like they could be a good fit but somehow it never turns into the right lasting commitment.


If the main challenge for you is selection, you will find yourself in relationships where suddenly the man you thought was great, turns out to not be a fit.

Here are some possibilities:
He stops pursuing you
He changes his mind about wanting kids someday
He has some signs of addiction
Untreated mental illness appears
He’s all talk but no action

Acknowledging the problem is the biggest battle.

If you can recognize that you are stuck in any of these patterns, that’s a great first step.

Some people would look at these challenges and say things like…

“This is all part of dating today.”

“Men are the problem.”

“Men don’t want to commit.”

“There are no good single men left where I live.”

If you choose to accept these beliefs, it leaves you powerless with no options for overcoming the challenge and getting to where you want to be.

If you can acknowledge the problem and ask what you can do about it, the possibilities are endless.

If you are a woman who is sick and tired of being single or sick and tired of dating the wrong men AND you’re ready to have the relationship you want……

Book a call with us so we can dive into your situation and start helping you right away.

On TEAM ARN we TAKE ACTION.  We don’t sit back and WAIT for something to happen.

You are more successful, more attractive, smarter, and more charismatic than most people.  This means most men AREN’T a match for you.  You need a superior strategy to meet the kind of man who is right for you and we can give you that right now.

Go here to book your call with us:  http://moderndatingcall.com

Rooting for you,

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn