Speculation about Hillary’s health has run rampant in the news, but no one is talking yet about her impact on dating. Regardless of your politics, you have to admit that it is pretty cool that women are now actively in the running for president of the United States. What an exciting time!
Women now have the opportunity to take charge of traditionally male dominated roles. With more women in business and powerful roles, there has been a shift in how men and women date each other. Men will often admit to us that they actually have no idea how to date a successful, intelligent woman. Ladies, we need to throw them a line here.
Men are insecure about how to date women that are their “equal” in these new areas. The amount of confusing dating advice being thrown at both men and women is off the charts. Men are told to be respectful and encouraging of a woman as their equal. They don’t want to overstep your independence by making you feel less than. This often prohibits a guy from approaching you even if he thinks there is a chance you might be interested.
We definitely don’t want that do we? So, what can you do to show a man that you are interested and help to make it ok for him to approach you?
To start, we encourage the philosophy of interdependence when it comes to dating. This is entirely different from the original two polar opposites, independence and dependence. Both men and women want to have a sense of independence and ability to care for themselves. This is something we should all know how to do. When we can take care of ourselves, we prevent ourselves from being dependent and relying on another person to fulfill all of our needs.
We also need to be able to admit that, as partner’s, we need each other. We have to allow the other person to do kind things for us so that they can feel significant in our lives.
The most common questions we hear from clients about this phenomenon are:
1. “Who should pursue who?”
We encourage our female clients to give men a ton of green light signals when they are interested. Since we are on the topic of Hillary, did you know that she was the one to walk across the room to Bill and talk to him first? Pretty awesome, right?
Women should be willing to make the first move at times. If you wanted a specific job, you would go for it, wouldn’t you? Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there because you never know what you might be missing out on if you don’t.
If you are hoping that a guy will take the next step, just remember that men need ten times more green light signals than will feel natural to you. Make sure to have good eye contact, open body posture, warm facial expressions, and to initiate conversation whenever possible.
If you have made the first move, the key is to evaluate the relationship as it grows. Are both people equally interested in one another and contributing to the relationship? One person shouldn’t be making all the effort to move the relationship forward.
2. “Who should pay on a date?”
There are so many theories on this that we can understand why you are confused! Until a relationship is exclusive, you should both always offer. Take turns doing nice things for one another. If the person you are dating has planned and paid for the last three dates, voice that you would love to plan a surprise for the two of you for the next date. If possible, pay in advance so it removes all awkwardness about who has to pay when you are actually there. If you are the one who is less financially stable, consider something thoughtful and inexpensive such as a romantic picnic in a park with some of his/her favorite foods.
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