How to Achieve Goals – Stop Shoulding on Yourself!

Do you want to know how to achieve goals? There is a counter intuitive step to take that is crucial to you achieving your goals.

How many goals do you have that you think about and put on your proverbial “to do list”?

Do ever actually get those things done?

How often are you “shoulding” on yourself where you find yourself thinking “I really should do xxx”?

You might even be doing this with your love life.

You might be telling yourself to make dating a priority, but struggling to find the energy to swipe.

Every now and then, we all get stuck in the middle of shoulding.

We know something is important, but the idea of working on it feels entirely overwhelming.

In fact, every time you start to think about it, you may get immediately frustrated, cry, or feel hopeless.

You are not alone.

So many powerful women feel stuck when it comes to dating (and other areas of their lives).

How to Achieve Goals – Stop Shoulding on Yourself!

If you’re feeling stuck, there are two questions you want to ask yourself.

  1.    What do you do when you are stuck?
  2.    How long do you stay stuck?

Be honest with yourself about how you normally handle your stuckness and how long you let stuckness go on for.

Life is hard, twisty and complicated.

Shame, fear, doubts and insecurities are often the culprit of our lack of decisions.

They trap us in being stuck.

We tell ourselves that we can’t, we don’t know how, or that we will fail.

Here’s the secret formula for how to achieve goals:


If you don’t make a decision, you are going to continue to feel the weight and pressure of stuckness.

You have to make a choice to try something and move in one direction.

Just that first baby step outside of your comfort zone will give you more information about what you need to do next.

It will either lead to a positive result, which will give you momentum and fuel you forward.


It will show you that path isn’t the right path for you.

You will never have the answer unless you actually DO the thing that’s outside your comfort zone.

When you’re broken down and tired, that’s the time to Rise UP.

Rising up is what separates you from those who live unfulfilling lives.

Don’t be ashamed to go for what you really want.

Guess what?

If it doesn’t work out the way you hoped or planned, will it be the end of the world?

Only if you tell yourself that it is.

You can get unstuck and we can help you do it.

Now is the time to move in the RIGHT direction.

If you’re one of the few people who is ready to change their love lives for good, go fill out this quick form to see if we can help you:

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn