How to Give a Romantic Massage to Your Lover


Have you ever had an insanely busy, tense day where all you want to do is come home and melt into your partner’s arms or go straight to the spa for a massage?  You might even be thinking “HELLO! I feel that way every day!”


When we started our work with couples, we very quickly learned that there is nothing worse than when both partners are stressed out physically and emotionally.   Most of us have endless to do lists and extremely uncomfortable office chairs, so we are all in need of a little physical TLC.


There are a lot of ways to connect with your partner to help them relax.


If you are with your partner, you can give them a physical massage. The next best option is to use a Relaxation Communication message to help your partner calm down physically and mentally with your words. By doing this, you are giving them the huge gift of peace and relaxation.


With our clients, we talk all about how to help your partner physically relax with just your words!  Not even touching them!


One of the best ways to connect with your partner is through physical touch.


We have an amazing massage therapist who specializes in teaching couples how to massage each other.   We use her services personally and recommend her to anyone we can professionally.  Her name is Yasuko (Yasko) Kawamura and she is a Licensed Massage Therapist/Holistic Health practitioner serving Orange County, California.  She is nationally certified by the NCBTMB. Originally a computer engineer, Yasko accidentally found her passion in the healing arts after a traumatic experience in a relationship.


Seeing a need to show people how to connect with their partners, Yasko specializes in teaching couples how to massage one another. By showing them how to effectively massage each other in a non-sexual manner, she is helping to promote physical touch, communication, closeness and, of course, love between the couple.


Yasko’s courses are unique – while many massage therapists and spas offer packages where a couple can have treatments together in the same room, Yasuko is actually training two people to massage each other; a skill they can use to enhance their relationship for years to come. Yasko has published a series of “You Knead Me: 10 Easy Ways to Massage Your Partner” video books on Amazon. She also produces Massage Monday weekly video massage tips on her YouTube channel.


Having used her books and courses ourselves, we can certify that they are awesome for building physical connection in your relationship.  The best part is that she makes it so easy to learn to massage your partner, even if this isn’t a skill that comes naturally to you.   You can find out all about Yasko and the products and services she offers here:


Check out the video below to learn how to you and your partner can massage each other to dramatically reduce stress and open up your relationship to love and emotional connection.


Say Yes to Love,

Dr. Michael Arn & Dr. Ashley Arn