Hey it’s Dr. Ashley..
I’m jumping on here to talk with your privately….Michael doesn’t know I’m doing this.
This totally happened to me recently and I thought you might relate.
I’m in a wedding and I ordered this dress. It shows up and try it on and…..
It doesn’t fit.
The dress was ordered 4 months and $300 ago.
I am supposed to be in a wedding in 6 weeks and EVERYTHING about this dress doesn’t fit.
It’s one foot too long.
The bodice is basically at my nose.
The craziest part?
I sent my exact measurements to the company.
AND that was 10 pounds heavier than I am now (I mean, I knew I was going to be in a wedding so I have been hitting that workout pretty hard and basically eating only lettuce 😉).
I panicked and took it straight to the tailor.
I asked if it would fit if I ordered a different size or sent new measurements.
He said the dress would NEVER fit because the proportions were all off for my 5’4, curvy bod.
How could I tell my close friend that I can’t wear the bridesmaid dress she picked and ruin her wedding photo plans?
What was wrong with me that this dress just wouldn’t fit my dang body?
Was anyone else having the same problem, but didn’t want to speak up?
What were my options?
How could I fix this?
Sometimes things don’t go the way we hoped or plan.
It’s worth some tears.
I definitely shed quite a few.
I felt embarrassed, frustrated, confused, angry, and overwhelmed.
But, then what?
I still had to fix the problem.
I needed to have another solution right away.
I could have avoided it.
I could do some things that might feel good in the moment but have negative consequences in the aftermath (like drink a bottle of pity Pinot).
I could have said that I just wouldn’t be in the wedding.
What did I actually do?
First, I sought support and validation.
I talked to Michael and a close friend about the situation.
Second, I let myself feel all the feels for one night.
Third, I made it a priority to then get some laughs in me.
We watched one of my favorite movies and laughed our butts off.
Fourth, I made an action plan.
The very next day, I got up, worked out, and drove an hour to David’s bridal to get a new dress.
I solved the problem and I didn’t have to worry about it anymore.
This is the exact same cycle you can go through in your love life when you get depressed, frustrated. overwhelmed, or discouraged.
The first step is to start with support and validation.
We can offer you that.
All you have to do is hop on a quick call with us.
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