Are your Nerves Scaring Men Away?

Please don’t be the one that gets the cold shoulder because you unintentionally have RBF on your dates.
Or are you so nervous on dates that you aren’t able to express the real you.
We all react differently to being nervous on a date. Some of us talk too much. Some have RBF and hide their personality.
If you are too in your head, it WILL show on your face.
You may not even feel that nervous or believe that the way you’re feeling is sabotaging your dates, but MANY people are influenced by nervousness without even knowing it.
Men love nothing more than being with an enthusiastic, excited listener. Enthusiastic, excited listening (EEF) is an art not to be taken for granted and most people cannot do it.
It can be very hard to be a great listener and enthusiastic when you are tired and burned out from dating.
Don’t be afraid to show it on your face! Take the time to practice your facial expressions in the mirror. We know it sounds dorky, but become really aware of how your face responds to your thoughts. You can also practice EEF on a friend or family member. Ask them what it is like to be on the receiving end of you. Take their feedback as constructive criticism and use it to practice further.
Think of an enthusiastic 5 year old listening to someone. Their excitement floods their face. They are so animated in the way they listen to you. That’s what you’re going for.
You want to completely spotlight the other person. In any situation you can spotlight yourself, the other person or something outside of the two of you. You want to put 80% of the spotlight on the other person in an initial date while also revealing personal things about yourself.
The hardest thing is to not forget what your responses are to certain things.
If someone is a non-stop talker, don’t be afraid to interrupt with a compliment. You can say something along the lines of ”Michael, I am so sorry to interrupt, but I really love what you said about____. It made me feel_____. I wanted to tell you before I forgot!”
For someone with good social cues, this may also give him an indicator that he is blabbing endlessly and should ask you a question. 🙂
Don’t ask a question and then just sit there like a bump on a log. Help the other person feel really good about themselves by asking questions and making encouraging statements. You don’t want to have the mindset of solving a problem or winning a challenge.
In Single to Soul Mates University we teach you HOW to do the EEF technique so that the right guy for you feels a connection so deep with you he is feels like he’s know you forever, yet wants to know more.
If you want to learn the EEF technique and our system for finding love directly from us, Sign up for a Free Single to Soul Mates Session with us.


Say yes to love,

Dr. Ashley and Dr. Michael Arn