Date to Soul Mate

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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…
Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

If you are a successful modern woman with a great career YET you keep dating UNAVAILABLE or UNDESIRABLE men then THIS IS FOR YOU. Do you love your life in many ways BUT are tired of the professional modern woman’s dating life: -commit to finding love once and for all. -ask friends and family if know any great single guys only to hear crickets. -Sign up for an online dating site or app. -Spend hours online searching through profiles of…

Finding someone who is right for you long term is EXTREMELY important if you want a great long term relationship.

Incompatibility is a cause of many relationship problems. But finding the right person to love is just the ticket to the next level of conscious effort and work. Once you’ve found the right person to love, you need to learn the skills to love that person for a lifetime. The skills to love someone and create a great long term partnership are difficult to master. They require painful self-awareness and uncomfortable looks into the mirror of your own choices, emotions…
Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

Dating Advice – What is Your Plan?

The best dating advice we can give you is to have a plan. Most people don’t have a plan when it comes to their love life. We act weird in our love lives. We don’t plan anything. We don’t want to plan how to meet the right person. We don’t believe we need a plan. People have probably told you for years that “It’ll happen when it’s right.” But in what other area of our life do we use this…
How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

How to Find Love – What Are Your Options?

What are your options?  Do you know how to find love when you’re single and you aren’t meeting the kind of attractive, compatible, relationship ready man you want? We get asked all the time…    How do I find Love? You have several options available to you to try and find your soulmate.  We are going to lay them out for you so that you can choose the option that is best for you. Maybe you’ve thought about …. **hiring a…

Today I’m thinking about Shiny objects!

You know what I really want? A vacation. Cocktails on the beach and beautiful sunsets. You know what I need? Mentorship so I can be the best leader and change agent for my clients. Don’t get me wrong, that vacation or buying a bunch of hot Christmas stuff on sale would feel great….especially in the moment. But, I’m going to choose to set myself up for success for the whole year, not to just have fun in the moment. I’m…

Today I am on a high due to the success of a great client.

When we first spoke, she was living in a big city, but feeling alone. She has been super successful in her career and at a very young age. She kept watching all of her friends couple up and move on to the next chapter without her. She didn’t much or really have relationships. She knew she wanted to, but she didn’t know HOW. She rarely met men she felt a spark with and when she did, she felt like it…
Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex or Someone You Love?

The simple answer is yes of course you can. Men and women can be just friends, it’s rare but it can happen. Most of us have seen a purely platonic friendship between members of the opposite sex. We’ve also seen the heartbreak of two people trying to have a platonic friendship when one or both of them secretly wants much more than a friendship. That’s why this is tricky. If it doesn’t work out the downside is heartbreak, unrequited love…
How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

How & When to Say I Love You for the First Time

It is SCARY to say I love you for the first time. You have these intense feelings for someone. You can’t even quite wrap your head around these feelings yet. You’ve likely loved someone before only to have it NOT WORKOUT which has left you with some mental and emotional scare tissue. You want to tell this person. You don’t know if you should tell them. Is this the right time to say I love you? Will you look like…
Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

Dating During the Holidays – Why You Should NOT WAIT until the New Year to Date

To date or not to date during the holidays that is the question. We emphatically say DO IT if you really want to meet someone. This is a great time of year to date for a number of reasons, which we talk about in todays Date to Soul Mate Show. Don’t let your brain come up with all sorts of noble obstacles (excuses) why now isn’t a good time. Don’t rationalize why you aren’t ready yet or that you need…

when he finds you sooner than expected

Commitment is the prerequisite for success in any area of your life. If you are committed, no matter what challenge you face you will pop back up like the bozo the clown bop bag (google it if we are dating ourselves 🤡 ). When you go all in, your mind commits to a successful outcome. Failure is NOT an option. Change is uncomfortable and exactly what is required to get the result you want. We love messages like this! It’s great when…
What Business Are You In?

What Business Are You In?

There are 3 types of businesses. ** Your business (your beliefs, behaviors, reactions, emotional state) **Someone else’s business (some one else’s beliefs, behaviors, reactions, emotional state) **Life’s or God’s business (events that are outside any person’s control) Most people spend a majority of their time in someone else’s or Life’s business. They spend all their time and energy trying to change something they can’t control. That’s a recipe for frustration, hopelessness and lots of effort with ZERO RESULTS. When you…
How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

How to Attract Men Who are Compatible with You and Up to Your Standards

Today you are going to learn how to attract men who are compatible with YOU. Do you feel like no matter what you do you aren’t attracting or dating men who are up to your standards? Compatibility is important to the success and fulfilment of a relationship. If you are consistently ending up dating people who are off from what you are looking for something needs to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re way off physically, intellectually, personality wise or…
Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Time Management and Productivity in Dating

Does time management matter in dating? Can you be productive when it comes to your love life? The answer is YES! What you spend your precious time and energy DOING in your love life is crucial. There are specific actions you can take that have huge return on time investments in dating. These actions lead you to attract and connect with the right people. They directly lead you to creating a lasting relationship. Conversely, most things you CAN do in…
How to Be Confident in Dating

How to Be Confident in Dating

Your self-esteem and confidence are important to attracting the right person into your life. No matter what tactics you are using to meet people in dating, your confidence and self-esteem are constantly in the background influencing how you interact with people. Learning how to be more confident and even build more confidence will significantly improve your interactions with men and will lead you to ATTRACT more high quality men. How to be Confident in Dating –Set the frame-assume that whoever…

She Used to Believe it COULDN’T Happen for Her… Then it Did!

We just got this message from a client who USED to believe this couldn’t happen for her. We are so excited for her and my ❤️ is full! This is what happens when you take committed action, take different actions then before and follow a step-by-step system.   FIND & ATTRACT Your IDEAL MAN in the SHORTEST TIME possible by following a simple system that’s led thousands of modern, professional women to build lasting relationships with their ideal man. If you are…
First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions – How to Make a Good First Impression

First Impressions are make or break in dating. We tend to take the first 5 seconds to 5 minutes with someone and extrapolate our first impressions to stereotype them as a person. This is no bueno if you don’t know how to make a good first impression. It’s no sweat if you can make positive impressions right away. Think about the people you’ve met in dating. How many great first impressions have people made on you? We’re going to guess…
Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract the Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Every day, we see successful, intelligent, amazing professional women go home ALONE at night.   During the day they mostly feel fine as they work through the hustle and bustle of their jobs.   But, the nights and weekends are the WORST.   They schedule themselves to the point of exhaustion to avoid thinking about how, when, or if they will ever have what they really want…a partner to share life with.   They wake up at 3 a.m FREAKING…
Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting Over – 5 Minute Mindfulness and Meditation

Starting over each day and each moment is key in life.  Get a fresh start today by using the clear the calculator technique.  You don’t have to wait till tomorrow to start again or star over in life.  Now is the time. Usually when we think of starting over we think of it as some big Jerry Maguire moment where we completely separate ourselves from our old life and take drastic action. Starting over can happen each day.  It can…
Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

Givers and Takers – Who Wins in Love and Life

I’ve been studying successful people from different time periods recently. Abraham Lincoln was a big giver in his orientation toward others. Many people initially thought this was a weakness of his. They underestimated him as a result, however he consistently showed up as a giver and was extremely successful over the long haul as a result. It reminds me of this quote by Chip Conley “Being a giver is not good for a 100-yard dash, but it’s valuable in a…
How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Without Being a Weirdo

Today we will teach you how to tell if a guy likes you without coming across as a total weirdo. Does it even matter if he likes you? If you want to know the signs he likes you today’s Date to Soul Mate Show is for you. We get asked all the time about How to tell if a guys likes you. There are many people telling you to read his body language, decode his words and scan him for…

The Problem with Striving for Non-Stop Joy and Ease

We’ve been seeing A LOT of social media posts, videos and articles from “gooroos” lately talking about how you NEED to experience never ending JOY and EASE in your life. The message is that if it doesn’t feel easy.. If you aren’t JOYFUL all the time while living then you are not doing it right. There is something wrong in your approach. If you aren’t experiencing complete joy and ease with your partner there is something wrong. And that message…

Is Online Dating a Problem?

Over the last few years, we’ve taught a small group of AMAZING women how to find and attract their ideal partner online. Once they knew… **WHERE to find him. **HOW TO authentically present themselves. **and WHAT to communicate to transition to a REAL date while screening out the catfishers. They were able to TAKE CONTROL of their dating life instead of feeling like it may never happen for them. For most people, online dating is a black hole of time…
Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

Moving on After Divorce- LOVE LIVES OF THE REAL & NON-FAMOUS #63

  Moving on after divorce can be rough.  Some people stay stuck mentally or emotionally after their divorce for months, years or even decades.  Divorce recovery doesn’t just take time, it also takes specific actions on your part. In this episode we talk with a woman from Virginia who is a single mom and is dating.  She has been divorced about 6 years. In Love Lives of the REAL & NON-FAMOUS we have conversations with REAL people about their love lives. We…

How one woman found love online with a guy she previously would’ve rejected.

We are so happy for one of our clients.  She took responsibility for her results in love.  She reached out to work with us. She committed to doing things differently.  She put in the hard work. She made some significant changes in a very short amount of time. She has fallen in love with an amazing guy who is perfect for HER. Here is the message she just sent to us….. BRAVO! We couldn’t be happier for you and you…

THE BIGGER FOOL THEORY IN ACTION according to a “Reader” of ours.

We recently received a message from someone on facebook. She had some strong opinions about what we do and the people we work with. We love hearing ALL opinions. This person’s message helps us clear up some faulty assumptions about who we help and what we do. Thanks for giving us this opportunity. 1. Yes, if you want different results in your life, YOU will need to do something different.  YOU will have to make a change if you want things…

The deeper I get into the important areas of my life, the more satisfaction and success I get out of consistently doing the fundamental basics day in and day out.

I’m no longer chasing cool or sexy “new” things. I’m simply showing up everyday and getting better at and taking more satisfaction in the important basic actions of being…… -a husband -a dad -a business owner -a friend -a Psychologist/change agent -a writer -a community member I’m loving taking more pride and satisfaction in what most would consider boring or would overlook as obvious (but don’t actually do). Dr. Michael Arn      

“WHO IS HELPING THE MEN GET THEIR ACTS TOGETHER?”

This is a question we received from a woman today. We answered: “There are many coaches and experts helping men. Many men are seeking this help. It’s a huge million dollar industry. We happen to specialize in working with women. Have a great day.” The sad part to us is that she is asking a question that dis-empowers her. It takes her away from her own success. It focuses her on something she can’t control. With our clients, one of…