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Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael
Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and Happiness – Stinkin Thinkin

Gratitude and happiness go hand in hand.  There is no separating them. You can’t be happy without gratitude. Today we are going to lay out the secrets of gratitude and happiness AND the non-secrets of stinkin thinkin. Let’s talk about one of our clients. In LESS THAN ONE YEAR, she met AND married a man that is incredible. Together, they have chemistry, compatibility, connection and commitment. These are the four essential elements of long-term relationship success. She got married in…
Why Do Men Pull Away – 4 Reasons Why Men Act Hot and Cold

Why Do Men Pull Away – 4 Reasons Why Men Act Hot and Cold

One of the most common questions we get is “Why do men pull away?”   “Why do men leave and come back?” We were talking to someone the other day….. She had just been hit with something she thought would never happen. Katie felt like she was spinning. She had been dating Josh for two years now. Granted, things were on and off, but he was always her go to. He said he didn’t want a commitment and she was ok…
How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers?

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers?

How to Change My Life – Miracle Workers or Scammers? Are you looking for how to change your life? Today we will talk about what needs to happen to make a significant change in your life. Can we work miracles in your life? If not, are we scamming you? We got a message from a “fan” yesterday musing about what we do and we’ll talk about that in a minute. Before we do, we want you to know that we love…
First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

First Date Advice – First date secrets revealed

Today we give you our best first date advice and tips.  Here is what to do if you want to stop having dysfunctional first dates. First dates can really suck.  People tell us all the time they HATE first dates. They are almost always…. Boring Awkward Predictable Stuffy Fake and unnatural And worst of all…….. A complete waste of time. And guess what? When you do have a great first date, the guy totally flakes and you never see him…
Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

Get Unstuck with Tiny wins

It’s time for you to get unstuck and gain momentum in your life! We had a great weekend. We love to cook and host people and had quite a few friends over this weekend. We also got to spend time having fun with our little man, laughing and doing all sorts of crazy things. We woke up to this message from a client today who got unstuck… “I thought I’d let you know that I have connected with men much…

How to Make Decisions – Are you Hiding in the Middle?

Today we are going to talk about how to make decisions in your love life. You most likely want to be able to make decisions more effectively, faster and that lead you to what you want. Here is what we often hear from people. I’m not sure if I like him!  I don’t know.  Maybe!  Ya I think I’d like to do that.  I’ll try that. Does that sound familiar?  Do you talk to yourself that way? Is that how…
How to Find My Soulmate

How to Find My Soulmate

A client asked us… How do I find my soulmate? What do I have to do meet the man who is the one for me? Do I find my soulmate online?  Offline? We told this client we need to change how she is thinking about soulmates before she can find who she is looking for. Another client of ours has gone on 3 great dates with a guy. This man is attractive.  He is an ambitious professional.  He is family…

Common Relationship Problems – We had a 2 Hour lip boxing Fight

Common Relationship Problems & Challenges What are common relationship problems and challenges? Are they normal? Are they a sign you are with the wrong person or that you need to fix something? Over the weekend we did all sorts of fun things. Our son, Mason, had Friday through Monday off and we took advantage. We spent quality time together as a family.  We broke bread with friends.  We laughed a lot. We also had a lip boxing fight that lasted…

Why you SHOULDN’T have a date on Valentine’s Day.

Valentine’s Day is one of those events that leads people to lose their freaking minds. If you are single, it can cause you to rip yourself to shreds. It’s the fakebook comparison game. Where you compare yourself to your “HAPPY” friends.  Your “IN LOVE” friends. All the people you see on fakebook proudly taking selfies of their once in a lifetime relationship. When you see that it’s easy to compare someone else’s fakebook highlight reel of their life to your…

while you were sleeping…..

About 3 weeks ago we sent a message to a select group of you who had reached out to us asking for help. We made an offer for these women to join our program if they needed help getting a different result. Most people did not take action on this offer.  They hesitated.  They doubted. A few of you did jump in right away at this offer to join our program. While you were sleeping last night…we got this email…

4 Reasons why men ghost

Our client, Natalie (pseudonym) is a great catch. She is smart, attractive, driven, and successful at most things in life. When she wants something, she sets a goal, creates a plan, and makes it happen. She has great friends and family. People she can count on, laugh with, and cry with. Overall, her life is very, very full and she feels fulfilled much of the time. The one thing hasn’t seemed to work out for her is her love life.…

It’s not you, it’s me. I need to stop dating losers.

Jennifer started talking to this guy on match.com.  She didn’t get her hopes up anymore in the beginning because most of the other guys she met up with hadn’t lived up to their hype. This guy was witty and seemed handsome in his photos.  They had some good text banter.  She thought “at least he knows how to structure a real sentence in proper English”. After some more text flirting he asked her out on a date. They met at…

Why Tom Brady could meet the man of his Dreams

Tom Brady might have just lost the Superbowl, but if he was single and looking to meet the man (or woman) of his dreams he’d able to do it and we will tell you why. Today on our live call with our clients we laid out a specific system for how to meet the kind of man they’re looking for offline. Yes. You heard that right. We showed these lovely ladies exactly how to find this type of guy without…

Online Dating Doesn’t Work

During Summer 2017, two AMAZING women reached out to us. They were both equally frustrated, disheartened, and even feeling a bit hopeless about when or if they would ever find the love of their life. They both told us the same thing, “Online dating doesn’t work.” Both of these women are professionals who are very successful in many other areas of their lives. When we really dug deep, we found out they had both been going through the on again,…

Should I just cut him off?

Holly in our facebook group – Modern Romance for Professional Women (www.modernromance.com) asked the following question….. Question: “What do you do when you are emailing back and forth with a guy on an online dating site and it feels like you have to pull teeth to get them to talk? The one-liner person? Sometimes, I think well is it just because we are on the site, but after about 15 e-mails I am pretty tired of thinking about something to…

50 Shades of Dating

Dating really has 50 shades. Dating can be sexy and alluring…drawing you in with the promise to deliver you the DREAM you have for your love life. Sometimes it’s dark and twisty. You don’t understand it. It’s overwhelming. It messes with your head. Sometimes you crave it. You need a human connection. You are afraid to be without it. Sometimes it pushes you past your comfort zone. It makes you feel things you have never felt before. It drives you…

We don’t claim to help everyone.

We’ve been at this for over a decade. In that time, we have tried to help our clients in A LOT of different ways. We worked with clients face-to-face in our office in the traditional therapy model. We met for an hour a week….and every week it felt like we were starting over again. Progress was SLOW. We created ebooks. We had monthly memberships where people could ask us questions. We had products that highlighted one part of our system…

Dumped and in a Dark Place

It can seem like no matter what you do you aren’t any closer to meeting the right person or having the relationship you want. The endless bad dates are demoralizing. It doesn’t seem to matter how hard you try it always feel like your back at square one. Your love life is different than other areas of your life. In most other areas you can make gradual progress. It’s easier to feel like your making progress in your career because…
Feeling better vs. BEING better

Feeling better vs. BEING better

If you had a bad day and are just venting, we recommend you vent in a private journal and not on a public facebook post. Believe it or not, the people you’re dating are looking you up. We once had a client who couldn’t figure out why she was having so much trouble in the beginning stages of dating. People were initially interested in her but quickly disappeared. After 2 minutes of online research, we discovered that she was saying…
Online Dating Shocker

Online Dating Shocker

It seems like every day there is some hot new trend or fad. Have you ever BELIEVED without a shadow of a doubt that one of these “hot” trends was BAD for people? We have. We thought Atkins diet was for sure going to clog people’s arteries and lead to a whole host of problems. Now they say fat is good for you and it’s the primary focus of popular diets like keto. Who knew?! At the time, we thought…

The Old Fashioned Way

Our client, Leslie (pseudonym) wanted to meet someone the old fashioned way. When she first called us, she was 46 years old and had pretty much been single her entire life. She chose to reach out to us for help because she recently had a medical condition that required surgery. She found herself alone, unable to take care of her basic needs, and having to call upon family to help her post surgery. As her family members rallied around her,…

“How can I be what he wants?”

A single, beautiful, successful woman asked us “How can I be what he wants?” and here was our answer… You could easily follow the random tips and strategies out there to turn yourself into what the media says that a man wants.….. Lose weight Try more night cream Become a siren (what does that mean?) Change your hair Change your face Don’t talk about what you want when you meet a man Buy a push up bra Don’t call a…

“I rejected the WRONG guy!”

“I rejected the WRONG guy!” Yesterday we were on a live call with our awesome, kick a$$, women’s group. One of our clients was excited to share a win. Every week, sharing wins is an important part of this call. Think about it for a second…. What place do you have in your life where you can brag and give yourself props for the actions you are taking in any area of your life? For most of us, we don’t…

are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.” We hear this a lot. The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy. These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life. The set a goal and achieve it. Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life. These women come to…
“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!”

“She LOVES me!” He came running in the house yelling “She loves me!”. He whipped open his backpack and eagerly pulled out this picture of him and his beautiful lady. She had also drawn him this card filled with hearts. Our son, who is 5 years old, was on top of the world. The little girl in his class that he has had a crush on for five months, had come around. Originally, when he asked her to marry him,…
What are Your Flat Tires…

What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball. On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise. THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP THUMP! This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds…
Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate – Why is it so easy for everyone else?

Finding Your Soul Mate isn’t easy.  At least not for you.  It seems like it’s easy for everyone else. Do you notice how easy it is for your friends and co-workers to get into a relationship. Half the time they aren’t even trying.  It just happens. One minute they’re single and the next minute they’re on their way to walking down the aisle. If you go on facebook you see people connecting and finding love all the time. When we…

Are you Trying TOO Many things in Dating?

I was playing basketball with our son Mason yesterday. We were shooting hoops and I felt like I couldn’t miss. I kept shooting and it kept going in. It was a really good feeling.   As I thought about it, I realized that for the past several years I had settled on shooting a basketball with a certain form. I chose a particular way to shoot the ball and stuck with it.   Every time I played basketball I shot…
Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

Attract The Man You Want in 5 Simple Steps

If you are a successful modern woman with a great career YET you keep dating UNAVAILABLE or UNDESIRABLE men then THIS IS FOR YOU. Do you love your life in many ways BUT are tired of the professional modern woman’s dating life: -commit to finding love once and for all. -ask friends and family if know any great single guys only to hear crickets. -Sign up for an online dating site or app. -Spend hours online searching through profiles of…