Let’s rap on a question from one of you today…
Question: So…I met this guy…Well he re-entered my life. I’ve know him ever since I can remember. But, he is re-entering my life as a potential boyfriend. I’m having a hard time knowing how to act towards him.
I don’t wanna come across as pushy. Guys like a chase. How much is too much? I don’t wanna come across as uninterested.
I have a ton of questions!
The old way of dating is to expect the guy to make the first move….
To ask you out..
Get your number…
Kiss you first…
The only problem is that society no longer functions this way. Only in love do we expect men to do all the chasing. To take all the responsibility of advancing the relationship.
Think about your career. Do you wait for a man to start the meeting? Do you wait for a man to suggest an idea first? Do you wait for a man to ask you if you’d like a promotion?
No, society doesn’t work this way anymore and that’s GREAT.
But in love we have this weird cognitive dissonance where many of us still EXPECT MEN TO BE SOLELY RESPONSIBLE for moving the relationship forward.
It doesn’t work that way and you’ll be missing out on tons of great guys if you act from this belief.
Let’s tweak this a little to set you up for success……
Guys like the chase if they believe they have a reasonable chance at winning and they’re into you!
The one part of this you can control is making sure he KNOWS he has a reasonable chance at winning with you. Of “getting the girl”!
To do this it is YOU who creates the context for him to chase you. You set it up between the two of you so that he feels confident in his ability to chase you.
The first step is to have a high value lifestyle with room for a man. This will keep you from coming across needy or desperate. If you have other things in your life that are bigger than him you won’t come across needy.
The second step is to get in touch with your sensuality. If you are in touch with your sensuality and it is oozing out from you, there is no way a guy will put you in the friend zone.
This is almost all non-verbal communication between the two of you.
The third step is to give him MANY green light signals. Many go signs that you are interested in him, attracted to him, and that you want to connect with him.
Woman usually underestimate how many green light signals they’re giving and how much is needed. Do this and you won’t come across uninterested.
The fourth step is to lay out your winning blueprint for him whenever you can.
Tell him what you like, what you don’t like, what you want your future man to do for you, how he will treat you and praise him when he does something on your winning blueprint.
This works for all of you.
We can teach you how to have a the right guy chasing you faster than you can watch an episode of “Game of Thrones”.
If you want to be able to pull the right man’s strings so that he is uncontrollably drawn to you go here:
Your gooroos of love,
Potential boyfriend or just friends? – The Date to Soul Mate Show EP 22