Relationships Suck….Sometimes


Relationships suck sometimes. That’s right. We said it. Relationships suck sometimes.


Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’ve been dumped by the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. It sucks.


Maybe, you’ve been in a long-term relationship or you’re married and things were good at first but have just slowly dwindled down to nothing; no passion, little love – just sort of roommates passing by as the days go on. It sucks.



Maybe you’re constantly fighting. You don’t agree about anything. You don’t seem to have anything in common any more and you just don’t see any end in sight to the fighting. It sucks, big time.



Maybe you hate your lover’s family or friends. You don’t get along with them. They constantly get in the way of your relationship. And they’re bringing you down too. It sucks.


Maybe your lover has lied to you. It could be a little lie. It could be a big lie. It sucks.


Maybe you and your lover just can’t agree on how to parent your child or children. You don’t seem to be on the same page about parenting, about discipline, about what to give the children … It really sucks.



Or maybe you’re just constantly fighting about money. Maybe one of you lost your job or is trying to find a better job. One of you spends a lot; one of you doesn’t. You just don’t seem to have the same ideas about money; how to save it; how to spend it. It sucks.


When your love life is not going well, life can be hell. When you and your lover, disagree, constantly fight or just ignore each other, you can feel more alone than if you were not in a relationship.


You can feel more distant, more isolated, more scared and more confused. That’s right. Relationships really suck sometimes.



How is that you could be in a relationship with someone you once were attracted to, loved, got along with and you’re now more miserable, more alone, more confused and more scared than you’ve ever been. It really sucks.


So when things are going bad in your love life it can bring everything down in your life; your career, how you are with your friends, your family, your children – how you feel about yourself. Often, how you feel about yourself is tied very closely to your love life.


Do you sometimes feel guilty or feel really bad about yourself because of what’s going on in your love life? Maybe you feel sad and like you have nothing to give or maybe you feel like there’s something wrong with you. Relationships really suck sometimes.


No matter where you are in your love life, you’re probably reading this because you want to change it in some way.



Whether you’re in a relationship and miserable, in a relationship and want to improve the love and passion you feel, or single and looking to find love, we will be providing you with many tips, strategies and advice on how you can improve your love life and change things for the better.


We all know that being happy and in love can dramatically transform your life for the better, and we all hope to share our lives with someone we love.


But this post isn’t about that. It’s about acknowledging that yes, sometimes relationships really suck. We all feel that sometimes. And there’s no amount of positive thinking that will change that. It’s just a fact. Sometimes relationships really suck. And it’s good just to acknowledge it; that it’s normal, that we all go through it and that you’re not alone.


At crucial habits we are here with you and get how much relationships can suck sometimes. We want to support you. We want to help you find love and make it last. But right now, we just want to acknowledge that yes, sometimes relationships really suck. Not all the time, not even most of the time, but definitely sometimes.


If you would like to tell us about your relationship or what’s bothering you, you can go to and tell us all about it.


In the meantime, hang in there. You can do it and make it through this. In the days and weeks ahead we will show you how you can find love and make it last.



Say Yes to Love,

Dr. Michael Arn & Dr. Ashley Arn