Today we are going to reveal the #1 secret to solving your relationship problems.
What we’re about to share with you is counter-intuitive.
It’s not going to be what you think it is and yet when you discover what it is it will make total sense to you on a deep level.
When you are able to put this into practice you will STILL have arguments and disagreements, BUT you will solve them effectively and MOST IMPORTANTLY you will emotionally bounce back from them quickly.
Yesterday we had a FIGHT.
If you didn’t see it yet we documented it here:
No matter how GREAT of a relationship you have, you will have CONFLICT.
Yes you can reduce the amount and intensity of the conflict you have but you can never fully eliminate it completely.
Think about it.
You and whoever you’re dating or in a relationship with are two DIFFERENT and UNIQUE individuals.
This is one of the best parts of a relationship.
This adds the SPICE to your life.
AND it also leads to conflict at times.
So what is the #1 way to solve your relationship problems?
It’s to put deposits into your relationship bank account.
Yes, the best way to get through conflict with someone is to have put SO MANY deposits into your relationship bank account that the two of you can come together and deal with any differences you have.
You see, every conflict, disagreement or fight you have is a WITHDRAWAL from your relationship bank account.
Those withdrawals are inevitable.
But most people are scrambling to solve this problem of withdrawals.
Here’s the rub. That isn’t a problem you can solve. You’ll always have withdrawals.
Those of us on TEAM ARN know that it’s better to focus on making small deposits into our relationship bank account every day. Multiples times a day.
It creates a compounding positive emotional connection.
What are these deposits?
They are positive bonding experiences that you create together.
• Having fun together
• Showing understanding and acceptance
• Be appreciative of each other
• Getting to know each other’s inner worlds
• Letting loose together
• Helping others together
• Giving compliments
• Expressing admiration
• Showing respect
• Meeting each other’s wants and needs
So making these deposits daily outside of your conflicts, are the key to coping with the conflicts in the moment.
When you’ve built up such a strong emotional connection through your relationship bank account, the goodwill you have toward each other is the key to getting through the tough times.
Cheers and let’s start making deposits today,