are you stuck in one of these 3 spots

“I’m just so sick and tired of feeling like it will NEVER happen for me.”

We hear this a lot.

The women we speak to daily reach out to us for help because they are questioning whether they’ll ever find love with the right guy.

These are amazing women who are successful in every other area of life.

The set a goal and achieve it.

Yet, they can’t get what they want in their love life.

These women come to us in one of 3 places:

**Single and dating the wrong men over and over again.

You are putting yourself out there. You are taking action, but no matter what you do you are meeting the wrong men.  You can’t seem to find or connect with the kind of man you want to be with.  Dating feels like a grind.  You are hustling to meet the right person but it doesn’t seem to matter. Every time you get ghosted, you feel worse about yourself.


You aren’t dating anyone. There’s a part of you that wants it, but every time you inch toward it you feel disappointed, overwhelmed, and frustrated. So, you quit. You put it back in a tiny box up on the top shelf of your closet. Until…something strikes up the yearning again…a friend has a baby or gets married….you don’t have a date to another work function, etc.

**A wicked and painful combination of dating the wrong men followed by being alone, followed by dating the wrong men in a never ending cycle.

Are you in one of these 3 places?

Here’s the thing – when you are 16 or 24 years old these patterns are frustrating and painful but you bounce back quickly.  You inherently know you’re figuring out who you are and you’re not really ready for a relationship.

When you are 30+ these patterns are excruciating.  You can longer longer stomach playing the dating games of youth.

You’ve experienced the heartbreak of someone you love walking away.

The dating scene has become a means to the end that you hate.

You want the great relationship, but you abhor having to put yourself out there and date the wrong people over and over again.

You’re no longer able to compartmentalize that you’re stuck in your love life but doing well in other areas.  One bad apple ruins the whole lot and it impacts every area of your life.

Other parts of your life are great.

But, sometimes, that doesn’t matter because you don’t have the one thing you want and you are the common denominator.

These feelings bleed into your career, your friendships, your self-worth, your emotional well-being.

Dating is a means to an end.

Let’s get it done together.

If you are in one of these three positions, let’s chat and see if we can find a solution for you.

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

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