What are Your Flat Tires…

We took our son Mason Bowling over the weekend. He loves bowling. Mainly because he gets to use bumpers, so he can’t throw the ole gutter ball.

On our way to the bowling alley, out of nowhere we start to hear a loud thumping noise.


This was instantly scary as we were going at least 55 miles per hour. We both looked at each other in panic but within a few seconds we realized we probably had a flat tire. We pulled over to the side of the road and inspected the damage.

As clear as daylight we had a flat tire and we had to get it fixed somehow.

What came next are some of the biggest factors in the outcome of your life.

We took a couple deep breaths and calmed ourselves down. We had just been shot with the adrenaline rush of going 60 miles per hour with a flat tire.

We instantly let go of the thoughts of how this trip “should’ve went” and how we “should not have gotten a flat tire”.

The relaxing and letting go is a big part of the process.

Once we were calm and relaxed, we talked about what we COULD CONTROL in the situation and what we COULDN’T CONTROL at this point.

We decided that we could not control whether we had a flat tire or not. We could not control that we have to get a new tire put on the car. There were a number of other factors that we could not control in this moment.

We could control how we decide to react to having a flat tire. We could control how we teach our son to react when life gives you a flat tire.

We made a quick plan and the rest of the day went smoothly. We got our car to a tire place and they put on a new tire as we went out and ate pizza before heading over to the bowling alley.

We had a great time bowling that night.

You will have many flat tires in your love life. Things will definitely not always go your way.

You can’t avoid them and you can’t completely stop them from happening.

In our Attract the Man You Want Workshop we teach our clients, one of the best things you can do to find love and make it last is the clearly decide the things you can control and the things you can control in your love life.

There are three factors that are important….

1. Calming yourself down, relaxing and letting go of what should’ve been.
2. Clearly deciding what you can control and what you can’t control in the situation.
3. Focusing all your time and energy and taking action on what you can control.

This three-step process gives YOU THE POWER. You completely stop wasting your time or energy on doing anything that you can’t control.

It gives you a lot more time and energy to devote to what you can control and that gives you almost magical like powers. When you are only taking action on what you can do something about it feels like you are unstoppable.

You will have flat tires in your love life whether you’re single and looking for the right person or you’re married and creating a great relationship.

When most people experience flat tires, they panic and focus all of their thoughts, time and energy on things they can’t control.

Be different. A great relationship requires you to be different than most people.

Dr. Ashley & Dr. Michael Arn

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